DP got me the wrong present.

[PresentBlunder]

I really wanted the brand new Dyson air wrap for my birthday, it’s almost £600 - I know, ridiculous.

I’ve been squirrelling money away for a couple of months. DP asked me what I’d like for my birthday and I said the air wrap, but it’s a lot of money, so perhaps a contribution towards it. He said he’d buy it for me as it’s a big birthday and he’s getting his bonus from work soon.

My DP is very good at shopping around, getting a discount, we often buy second hand from Facebook and eBay. However, I explained to him that because it’s brand new out (1 month), he likely won’t find it as a bargain anywhere and he’s best off buying it direct from Dyson with our daughters student discount. He agreed and I sent the link.

Come today, I’ve opened my present from him and it’s the Dyson air wrap from quite a few years ago. A much older model without the latest tech or attachments. He was ridiculously pleased with himself and told me he’d got it for much cheaper than the advertised price.

Would you just be honest with him? I don’t want to crush him, he was grinning like a Cheshire Cat, but it’s not what I wanted and I’d rather return it and put the money towards the one I actually wanted. I also don’t want to see ungrateful as it was a lovely gesture.

Or I could just return it and buy the one I want and he’ll likely never know?

‘Horace, the reason you got it at such a bargain price as it’s an obsolete model and not the one I want and you need to return it so I can buy the correct model.’

If he starts huffing and puffing show him these photos of a Mk1 Ford Escort and a Mk6 Ford Escort. 😕

My husband used to have a Mk1 Escort - he'd be really chuffed if I got him one. Though the one in the pic seems to have lost its wing mirrors😆

I'd have to tell my DH. I know he'd take it really well though and would be absolutely fine with me exchanging it.

I’d be livid in your shoes. (And have been in the past when DH did fuck all for my 50th birthday!)

Get him told. He’s not going to learn otherwise if you pretend it’s ok to ignore your wishes because he thinks he knows best.

My DH hasn’t fucked up regarding birthdays and Christmas gifts since then and I had a wonderful holiday for my 60th birthday. 😁

Is there a big difference in models though?

Get him to return it asap, if it he bought it online he may only have 14 days to get a refund.

I would assume so. The OP has explained it quite clearly.

I asked for the Dyson hairdryer one Christmas (about 4 years ago) and he got me the full airwrap kit instead. The hairdryer is useless and I never curl my hair. The only thing I sometimes use is the round brush attachment. I want it to break so I can legitimately throw it out but fear I'll be waiting a while. I wish he'd just got what I asked for!

Definitely tell him. He’s either looked and bought the wrong one as he’s been looking around for a discount, or he thinks he knows best.

It’s a lot of money I’d either say he bought the wrong model and ask for the receipt or if you can do it without him knowing return it and get the one you want

If you sent him the link he already knows he got the wrong one. It was likely a choice because he thought he knew better

You should tell him. You need to be happy with your birthday gift, not him.

"Thanks for the AirWrap, love. I do appreciate it, but it's not the right model. I need you to return it so I can get the one I want. Basically you bought me a PS2 when I asked for a PS5."

There's nothing wrong with a bargain but if the shoe was on the other foot and your DH asked for a specific golf club/football top/other really specific gifts and you just toddled off to the shop and bought a random goldlf club/another clubs away kit etc would he just suck it up and not say anything?

It just shows a lack of interest. If OP had specifically given a link then there is no excuse. The new air wrap looks quite different to the older one. Hes clearly just seen Airwrap and a cheaper price and gone for it.

I would say, "DH, it's kind of the same as if you said you wanted the iPhone 16 and I bought you an iPhone 11 and acted really pleased with myself because I'd got a good deal."

Sounds like you got what you deserved when cheating the system trying to use your daughter’s student discount t

I agree with this. Some of these responses are so rude over an honest mistake. Hope you don't actually speak to the people you love like that in real life.

He's a bloke, he likely won't have a clue that it's a different model. He probably thought he'd found the exact one OP wanted but £100 cheaper and was pleased he got a good deal. OP just needs to say she's grateful but would prefer him to return it as she would still like the other one. No need for shouting or 'demanding' or confrontation.

(And I wouldn't buy anything full price from the manufacturer's website either unless absolutely necessary either. Some of you have more money than sense.)

Only on mumsnet. 😂

Well, yes, its his fault here because op sent him the link, she literally spoon fed him and he still got it wrong. What a clown.

I’m not sure I buy the ‘he’s just a bloke’ defence.

He knew exactly which one OP wanted and went out his way to buy the cheapest alternative he thought he could get away with and was proud of it.

It would have been better had he left OP to buy what she always intended to buy.

She specifically told him there was an older model and a newer model, which one she wanted, and sent him a link. If he honestly made a mistake after all that, then he probably shouldn't be allowed out alone.

I'd tell him. Otherwise it'll drive you mad every time you use it.

I needed a hair straightener a few years ago and my husband wasn't sure which one to get. So he called my best friend who explained them to him, and sent him to the correct shop. He wouldn't have a clue about these things, so used his head and checked.

He's a bloke who decided he knew better than his wife what she wanted and contributed towards. Arrogance doesn't deserve a pat on the head. Unless his penis is somehow blocking his ears and he can't hear his sex is irrelevant

Cheating the system 😂😂😂