Colleague sent me message by mistake

[Islandhopper10]

Our team work remotely but we get together quarterly in person. Yesterday was a meeting in the office in the morning followed by a social so it was casual dress.

I was messaging a colleague earlier back and forth about work matters and he sent something really random and then instantly deleted it but I saw it pop up as a notification so read it.

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji.

Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me. This was at about 3.30 today and I finished at 4 so nothing more was said and I expect my colleague thinks he deleted it before I saw it.

Would you say something if you were me or pretend/forget I ever saw it?

Ignore the Friday night incels. They get tingles from your attention. 😆

This is all very entertaining I must say, I didn’t expect the replies to exceed page 1!

A couple of points:

-I don’t need my work colleagues to point out I have a nice arse. I know I do. An ex once said if he could choose how he’d leave this earth then he’d spend an afternoon buried underneath it..

-I work for a PR company, forward thinking, ran by strong women. They have no issue with casual office wear and the founder often wears similar leggings herself.

Yep. Of course they have, and so have the posters commenting g that it’s sexist. So much hypocrisy here.

That'swhat I can't work out, what work do you do that means casual work wear = leggings

It means they thought you looked sexy I guess. Embarrassing for them. I might cheekily say something next time I saw him like 'glad you liked my leggings. It's a pity they wouldn't really suit you'. Otherwise I'd just leave it I think.

The message wasn't meant for you and he will definitely mortified. Unless he has form for sexism or perving in which case I might take it further.

Completely ridiculous, you're right! Of course he wouldn't say the same thing about a man, unless he was bisexual or gay, in which case, he probably would. I wouldn't say the same thing about a woman. But I'd say it about a hot buff guy in the office for sure - with a female colleague I felt sure it was safe to talk to.

So, maybe they were talking about her?

Stopppppp op, you're embarrassing me

Women can be just as bad, gay or straight!

I never knew casual dress meant leggings, not heard of people wearing them to work or attending meetings in them.

There's casual and very casual.

Not nice text though, they should have tried to ignore.

No one is ever safe these days

Good on you, my arse would kill and bury someone, that’s probably not what you meant 😂

You don’t have a conclusive evidence that it was about you, so I would just ignore and move on.

So as you have clarified yourself, you did indeed know what you were doing with those leggings.

You know you have a nice arse. You dress to accentuate it. Why would you then be annoyed that people have noticed it?

What bothers me more about the message is the "she knew what she was doing..." part, like OP was just wearing those leggings to make herself attractive to colleagues?

nobody wears those wedgie leggings for comfort

What are 'wedgie leggings'? I will google.
Leggings are for home and exercising, maybe wearing to the shops with a very long t-shirt but not for a meeting.
No doubt men will be wearing ballet tights to the office in future.

Yes because telling a friend about a random bloke you fancy is exactly the same as making sexualised comments about a colleague, to another colleague. Honestly, your sexism and misogyny is just pathetic. Grow up

Is there a size limit for wearing leggings?

I didn’t even read it as a compliment. The only compliment flying around is OP’s on how she looks amazing compared to her size 16 colleagues and some ex has some end-of-world fantasy with her behind.

As OP said they were discussing work back and forth I took it to mean the guy felt under the pump from work pressure, feeling that he was run ragged by OP’s endless work commentary. He said the leggings comment because people who run may wear leggings and then he put a sweating face to indicate being given a workout.

Do you seriously not hear yourself? Do you wear clothes that actively make you look like crap? I'm assuming not. It doesn't give people, especially work colleagues, the right to make sexualised comments about you. This isn't a complicated concept

Ew, imagine being this misogynistic and bitter. Wear what you want - you don't get to comment on what other people wear. Especially to shame them. Some people don't work for dinosaurs and are allowed to wear comfortable clothing for work - OP works in PR and lots of us that work in media can wear whatever the hell we like for work because our bosses don't police us, like creepy school teachers. This whole thing you're doing is just pathetic, grow up

Of course not. My point was that they are hardly the most flattering item of clothing for the larger lady.

She was

You are so pathetically misogynistic. I honestly don't even understand how people like you still exist. It's 2025, not 1950. You need to grow up and get with the times - this whole bit you're doing is just so sad and embarrassing 😂