Colleague sent me message by mistake

[Islandhopper10]

Our team work remotely but we get together quarterly in person. Yesterday was a meeting in the office in the morning followed by a social so it was casual dress.

I was messaging a colleague earlier back and forth about work matters and he sent something really random and then instantly deleted it but I saw it pop up as a notification so read it.

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji.

Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me. This was at about 3.30 today and I finished at 4 so nothing more was said and I expect my colleague thinks he deleted it before I saw it.

Would you say something if you were me or pretend/forget I ever saw it?

To be fair, the OP wore attention-seeking clothing and then pretended to be outraged at getting attention.

Bog standard scrunch leggings? Can you say oxymoron. 😂

Sure report to HR if you must, but be absolutly sure he was refering to you and don't be suprised if you get a raised eyebrow for wearing scrunch leggings to work.
Your comments re your colleagues size albeit on an anonymous forum, doesn't necessarily paint you in a good light either.

Same here but people shouldn’t use work email to make lustful comments about colleagues.

However I think I would ignore it.

It sounds like you were in sports wear rather than office casual. But some of the reactions on here remind me of this comedians take on the reactions to Pippa Middleton.at the wales wedding… Who brings an arse to a wedding

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Kjcp2Ii4BdQ&t=16s&pp=2AEQkAIB

Where is the laugh emoji when you need it 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Can't believe you thought scrunch leggings were appropriate work wear even on casual Friday!!
am sure you looked amazing but to be fair it is going to raise eyebrows .

This is the language of apologists for sexual assault, adult work colleagues just don’t do this..it’s highly inappropriate to review someone’s appearance as if it has anything to do with you as a colleague. Yuck

Of all the things that did not happen, this did not happen the most.

Just forget it. It was a passing comment about how good you looked, please don't turn it into a huge thing. By 2030 no one will be saying anything to anyone for fear of overstepping.

Just msg..care to explain?
And leave it at that even if he replies.
Oh what fun to make him sweat and stew for his fuck up.👍😁

If this is real...

Male Gaze, faux innocence... So predictable.

I think we’re being played here by the OP with the drip feeds.

But I don’t think this would meet the threshold for sexual assault. It was a private comment on presumably personal phones that wasn’t very risqué.

You don't know it was definitely about you
He deleted it straight away
You've fat shamed your female colleagues
You've laughed at the throught of any other women in your office wearing leggings
You wore attention seeking clothes to work and are now outraged that someone might or might not have noticed
It sounds that the text saying you knew what you were doing, if it about you, is actually accurate. You wanted attention, you got it now you're all outraged. You knew exactly what you were doing.

Its inappropriate all round.

Everyone has the right to wear whatever they want and not get assaulted either physically or verbally. No one has the right to expect others not to make private comments about your choice of attire (or lack thereof).

Men bend over and show nearly their whole arse quite regularly in work situations…perving over that would be a problem too

Take it as a compliment that you weren't meant to see, and STFU 😁

I asked my husband what he’d do if someone turned up at work in those leggings and a tight top. He said as a manager he’d have taken the individual aside and advised them that it was inappropriate workwear even on a casual basis

Leggings (especially scrunch leggings) and a short top are not suitable in the workplace or for a work social.

Miaow.

Your fake annoyance and what does that mean is clear to all.

I wear those for the gym. I wouldn't go to work in them.

In a professional work setting there should be standards.

100% spot on

She did, she said they were scrunch leggings