Fed up of splitting the bill with larger friends

[Foodie41]

There are four of us in our friendship group and we go out for dinner every other month or so, splitting the bill equally between us.

A couple of my friends are larger ladies and they often order slightly more food than myself and another friend.

With prices having risen sharply, we are now noticing the cost of things more closely and starting to feel a bit aggrieved that we are paying for food we aren’t eating.

Would it be rude of my friend and I to suggest we don’t split the bill moving forward? I just don’t want it to be awkward as I think it will be obvious why that suggestion is being made.

I don't think you have fat shamed. It's not as if you described them as being two massive fatties that overeat!
People are so ridiculously sensitive these days!

I know-there were ten of us, they weren’t really friends in this occasion but work colleagues. I just felt embarrassed. Had they been friends, I would have spoken up.

Of course she has. Why include any information on their size and that due to their size they order more? None of this is relevant. The only purpose is to imply here a couple of fatties who eat too much: greedy gluttons who cannot regulate their intake and eat more than others.
The salient points from the post is: when we go out to eat the spend is unequal but we split the bill equally. Is it unreasonable to split according to spend? Of course it’s not unreasonable.

Christ if you can’t bring yourself to occasionally chip in for a meal then don’t go for a meal.

And if you’re bitching on an anonymous thread about your friends’ weight you are not a friend.

Ouch! Touchy much?!

That’s totally unreasonable from the other 9, expecting them to pay 1.5x on top of your own consumption! I’d have said I’ll pay for what I ate! They are users!

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@AmazonianWarrior

Ouch! Touchy much?!

What is it you think I'm touchy about?

I think its deeply cheap to nickel and dime people about budget over a shared meal in the first place. Going onto an anonymous talk thread and basically calling your mates fat and then trying to use it as an excuse to get out of paying is deeply classy behaviour.

What is it about this that's touchy?

Jealousy and bitterness aren't pleasant.

Oh FGS just say I want to pay my own bill separately. The rest can do the same or split it three ways.

And threads are being destroyed by social moderators ranting about shaming this or that. Move on and go on a diet yourselves, as I hear projection big time TBH.

OP, enjoy your solo paid for meal.

She’s not trying to get out of paying. She just wants to pay for her own consumption, not subsidise the others’ dinner. I’d be mortified if one of my friends would have to pay more than what they consumed, because I chose more stuff/more expensive stuff. I don’t know why anyone would think that’s ok?! It’s also insensitive to assume that she can afford it. She might have financial difficulties and had to be careful to be able to afford a meal out with her friends, and she orders a modest meal. Why should she be expected to subsidise someone else’s meal?
Is that what you expect from your friends? To pay towards your meal? I’m sure you don’t so why should OP be expected to do that?!

@AmazonianWarrior

So it's "insensitive" of me to assume that the OP can afford a couple of extra quid to chip in towards a shared dinner with people she claims are her friends. But its not insensitive for her to say her friends are fatter than her and she doesn't want to contribute to their food?

I really don't understand your values system.

it has nothing to be with their size so not great to mention but in general get seperate bills and pay your own share