Fed up of splitting the bill with larger friends

[Foodie41]

There are four of us in our friendship group and we go out for dinner every other month or so, splitting the bill equally between us.

A couple of my friends are larger ladies and they often order slightly more food than myself and another friend.

With prices having risen sharply, we are now noticing the cost of things more closely and starting to feel a bit aggrieved that we are paying for food we aren’t eating.

Would it be rude of my friend and I to suggest we don’t split the bill moving forward? I just don’t want it to be awkward as I think it will be obvious why that suggestion is being made.

YANBU to want to pay for what you eat and not pay extra for others extra orders or larger appetites.

YABU to mention the size of the ladies. Who needs enemies with friends like you.

It’s about as ‘stealth’ as ‘Oi, lardarse!’

Maybe your friends would not be fat if they had to pay the full price of their own food. Suggest that to them, it is sure to go down well.

It’s not U to pay for what you actually eat. It is U to say that they’re ordering more because they are larger.

Yes OP. But just try and avoid calling your friends "you two massive fatties" when you tell them.

"Fed up with subsidising my fatty friends "

How am I fat shaming?

Separate bills due to COL crisis.

I doapologise. I didn’t realise I’d directly responded to your contribution.

So you’re the one who thinks that people being fat means they're the ones running up the food bill, bevause theyre fat?

You’re an unpleasant person.

That better?

Well don't tell them it's because they are larger!
I often eat more than my larger friends so I pay more.

Ahh. I’d started to respond and then I thought: clickbait Daily Mail

it so much obvious isn't it 😆

Yes, this happens to me all the time! I drink a glass of wine and order a mushroom steak or such and end up paying twice as much because everyone else is drinking much more than me, and ordering lobster and such like. Never ceases to annoy. I still can't bring myself to suggest we pay just for what we eat though. Always split the bill equally.

I really don't think you grasped what I said. I think the OP is being deeply unpleasant and I responded accordingly.

I'll wait for your apology.

Not unreasonable.

In fact, I’d take it a step further, and split the bill based on your contribution to the total weight of the group. So if the group, together, weighs 50 stones, and you’re 10 stones, you’d pay 20% of the bill.

‘We’ so you and a few friends have decided you’re not paying for the fatties anymore. Probably best to tell these ‘friends’ of yours the truth so they can go to the all you can eat buffet without you horrible lot.

Or you could do a weigh in before eating and then after? And don't let anyone go to the loo before the second weigh in.

Nothing wrong with just paying for what you ordered. Works perfectly fine for friends and I whenever we go for meals out.

So you’re the one who thinks that people being fat means they're the ones running up the food bill, bevause theyre fat?

@ilovesooty You are somewhat confused...

Suggested wardrobe choice for delivery

IME, the 'curvier' people who eat out, tend to eat less as they're always watching their weight, and some of them are scared of being judged by people if they DARE to eat a little bit more than someone thinner.

Gosh, imagine people thinking someone is judging and sneering at them for what they eat.......

Oh, wait!

I think it’s fine to say you’re trying to control your spending so everyone just psy for what they have.

@Pomegranatecarnage there is absolutely no way i would subsidise the steak eating and I’d make that very clear. Next time say so.

Its fine to pay for what you order.
Just make sure that they are aware before you eat.
Ask for separate bills at the start and don't be surprised if your bill comes to more than theirs does.

By mentioning "larger ladies".

No she didn’t fat shame

You’ll wait a long time - I hope the piety has plenty of calories to tide you over.

She so totally did!