Fed up of splitting the bill with larger friends

[Foodie41]

There are four of us in our friendship group and we go out for dinner every other month or so, splitting the bill equally between us.

A couple of my friends are larger ladies and they often order slightly more food than myself and another friend.

With prices having risen sharply, we are now noticing the cost of things more closely and starting to feel a bit aggrieved that we are paying for food we aren’t eating.

Would it be rude of my friend and I to suggest we don’t split the bill moving forward? I just don’t want it to be awkward as I think it will be obvious why that suggestion is being made.

Absolutely not,just say at the start to the waiting staff that you'll be having separate bills
. That'll likely curb the freeloaders!

You are not unreasonable to want to split the bill, but better to just phrase it that you are watching the pennies and want to order carefully.

I don’t necessarily think it’s obvious that that’s your reasoning. But it’s fine to just pay for what you eat. I wouldn’t expect my choices to be subsidised by my friends.

No need for the fat shaming.
as cost of eating out has increased its a reasonable suggestion that each person pays for their own meal.

That sounds sensible, thanks

How have I fat shamed?

I’d strongly advise against ‘You’re fat so eat more than me’ as an opening gambit

Just say I'll pay for what I owe. You don't need to mention anything about people being larger or eating more. If your meal is cheaper it's fine to pay that, regardless of if your friends are large or small.

You have.

My eldest is so yhink youd lose them if they walked behind a lamp post - they eat approx twice as much as me abx I’m considered obese.

You’re fat shaming.

Not sure your ‘friends’ size is relevant to splitting the bill however you feel appropriate.
I split it by what we had if someone is chugging £20 cocktails and I’m not drinking.

The part about them being larger ladies is irrelevant. They order more (reason not relevant) and suggesting you each pay for your meal is a valid suggestion given cost of eating out.

Ooh a stealth fat shaming thread. This should be interesting 🤔

@Foodie41 you could also have titled your thread - fed up with splitting bill with friends who order more than me.

Can you get your innocent eyes any wider? 🤣🤣

If you don't want to pay for people who eat more than you, that's fine.

But it's to do with appetite, not size as you well know...

Absolutely.

Speaking as as a fatty, it's the skinny drinkers necking cocktails who run the bill up.

I also think this is a good idea.

I don’t think over ordering necessarily goes by size either, but some people do order more than others, so often best not to split.

YANBU. I am vegetarian and get fed up of subsidising steaks. I also don’t drink much more than a single glass of wine. People tend to over-order when the bill is getting split. I recently paid £60 when my own food and drink cost £24. Fuming!!

I think it’s reasonable. With my brother and his with face up alcohol we stopped splitting family meals as they were not drinking and hence it was unfair for them to pay towards the alcohol which is expensive.

I'm so tiny, surely my bill should be tiny too

There I was, thinking the OP could just say "Oi, lardarse. We're not going to split the bill any more".

Yup.

Next up - OP claims they only eat a couple of slices each f cucumber a day and this makes them a virtuous human being with a perfect character

Not even that stealth

Oh cut the faux surprise.

No need to even mention its because they are larger. The problem is you dont want to pay more than your share and thats ok. But it would be the same if they were ordering expensive wine. Its unnecessary to point out their weight.