What's your worst playdate experience?

[PumpkinSly]

Aibu to ask what your worst playdate stories are (if you can still call it a play date at 9). DS has been to his friends this afternoon and has come home covered in what I can only assume is dog shit. The friend has two dogs and DS has come home with shit all over his shoes, trousers, t-shirt, and even in his hair. It doesn't even smell like normal dog shit. It is very cheesy in smell and it's all over him. He reeked. He said he spent time playing in the garden, but who lets kids play in a dog shit covered garden?! FFS! He's washed, we've cleaned the interior of the car, and his clothes are in the washing machine, so no long term damage. But I am sorely tempted to message the mother and tell her the state DS has come home in. DH thinks it's not worth it, and maybe he is right, so please, tell me your playdate nightmares to distract me.

Yes totally apologised for it and yes I thought too it was a bit harsh at the time, but they clearly didn't like us. Probably more going on though and might have been my fault too as people just don't like me either and I've never really understood why. But it's happened too many times now to be a coincidence. I just didn't realise being unpopular could be genetic. 🤣 But am sure they had their reasons so I don't bear a grudge or anything but just wished things could have been different as my DD thought the world of theirs. 💗

Not mine but friend went to playdate where the parent had made the cleaner wear shoe covers which made my friend feel really uncomfortable. My friend then had to endure a weekend in Devon with them in their second home which was horrendous. Scummy family who had awful behaviour.

Not a play date story as such but having taken my grandchildren to to soft play establishments over recent years Im absolutely staggered at the lack of care from parents towards some very young children. The amount of parents who sit with their backs to the play equipment, on their phones (naturally) while small children no older than about 18 months are wandering from the baby play section into the older children's play area is astonishing. Too busy on tiktok to care what their precious ray of sunshine is doing. Same parents who would kick ip an almighty stink if their child was injured😬

I think soft play was just made for THAT kind of parent. They really can get away with what amounts to neglect with very limited consequences.

My child took to playing with another at a mother / toddler group , I chatted to the mum . Following week we sat together whilst the kids played . She invited me to hers ( well it was her mum's place , just around the corner ) I excepted , and we went around .
Her mum seemed nice and welcoming and I stayed about an hour .

Completely unknown to me , I had taken myself and my child around to a house that was the local brothel and the mum was ' the madam ' and she ran a few women from there .

WTF!? 😳

@PansyPotter84 you were just a small child yourself and small children say what they see

AutumnWreath · Today 08:10

Completely unknown to me , I had taken myself and my child around to a house that was the local brothel and the mum was ' the madam ' and she ran a few women from there

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Whoops just noticed , accepted not excepted . Apols .

I had one when I was about 7, child came to my house first and she trashed my bedroom.

I'm not talking messy, I'm talking the floor was 3 toys deep across my whole bedroom, everything out of every cupboard/drawer/under my bed

But what really made it memorable, was the gleeful way she told her mum when she came to pick her up, calling it a pig sty etc

I was embarrassed, confused, and annoyed because it was her that made the bloody mess but she was putting it across like I lived like that.

She also told everyone in school, and I just remember being so confused with emotions, I didn't get it at all

It was the only time she was invited, but I did get an invitation back, just the one. I fully expected to do the same at her house, not in retaliation, but because I assumed thats how she played

It was so bizarre, we literally couldn't get enough toys out to even play with. Like we could get 2 barbies OR the Barbie car and bizarre things like that. The other toys had to be put away before anything else was taken out

The strangest thing? It wasn't coming from her parents, it was her making these rules, her mum was saying "let TellMeItsNotTrue get the Barbie car out" or whatever and she was insisting that I couldn't because she only wanted the 2 barbies out and her mum would just sigh and shrug

Yeah, not the point of the thread love but you can make another thread parent bashing if you like, not had one since this morning

@whatcanthematterbe81 how patronising are you?!? Calling the other poster “love” in that way.

Some parents deserve a bashing and it is the ones who leave their kids do who knows what in a soft play whilst glued to their phones. We’ve all seen them!

Yes, i meant to do that

I know, but I still can’t help feeling bad about it.

She got teased by other kids quite a bit as a result of what I let slip.

If she’s on here and recognises
the story, I’d like to apologise on behalf of my 6 - 7 year old self.

I understand, now that I have an autistic DD with the same issue!

Karma and all that…

The other mum went to the toilet for 20 minutes, came out and said she had food poisoning

A mum polished my son’s school shoes and my heeled boots. She would have done my husband’s too but I feigned not knowing where the colour for his shoes was probably didn’t have it.

Kids were 6 and only knew the mum in passing but figured she was quite intense. Settled down with her for a drink in the kitchen. Eventually, kids came in from the garden wanting a particular game set up. I went outside to do this (five mins).

I came back to find she’d gone through my cupboards to find shoe polish and a brush and was furiously polishing my son's shoes with mine and my husband’s at her feet.

I then did the awkward polite, “Oh you really don’t need to” weird conversation… “leave my shoes, I can’t guarantee they don’t smell,” they’re fine honestly”. She meanwhile doubled down on shoe cleaning, saying clean school shoes gave her pride and she was always taught people will judge you on your shoe shine. If she could leave with one happy memory of today it would be to leave our family with clean shoes.

Couldn’t wait to get her out and spent some time later as a busy working mum a bit paranoid our shoes weren't clean enough.

Now I am menopausal, longer in the tooth and grumpy and know our shoes were always just fine.

I think I'd prefer the bad behaviour or a messy house to this outcome. Your poor daughter.

Final one I can remember, not really a terrible play date as such but still memorable. The mum came over with her DS who had a play date with mine. She was a really nice woman and stayed for a coffee but as we chatted she kept glancing round and making comments about my housekeeping, eg she noticed the hallway flooring was scuffed, the walls had marks, asked why I didn’t use such and such a cleaner for the skirting boards etc. While my back was turned she then went into the garden and brought the clothing in and as I urged her not to bother she sniffed the basket of clothes and said “oh so you don’t use fabric conditioner then?” (I do!)

She then went to check on the boys, came back and suggested we make a chocolate cake as a baking activity with the DC. I was a bit flustered and said I didn’t have the ingredients she began reeling off. She seemed genuinely shocked that I didn’t have what she considered to be cupboard staples to make a cake. I felt judged as I handed the boys my shop bought snacks😂 The entire afternoon left me feeling really incompetent!

Are you always so condescending?

Looks like it sweetie

I don’t mind hosting playdates and am better at keeping them under control these days. I now expect rude and demanding behaviour from the kids and am no longer shocked by the absence of manners. It’s really common for kids to make specific demands about food or drink and I shut that down quickly (obviously I am considerate if they have allergies, but I’m talking about demands for coke or specific snacks they have spotted in my pantry which aren’t for them). I’m a lot firmer these days and don’t try as hard to be the nice mum. That has helped to keep them under control.

I do remember being upset on one occasion by a child opening and playing with a sealed game that I’d stashed in a spare room- it was supposed to be a gift for my godson but was no longer in a condition to be gifted once she had opened it. In a similar vein, I felt sad for my dd when some other children opened something she had been given and was saving, and they basically wrecked it- with no apology or consideration.

So- nothing specific but really entitled, demanding and rude children does seem to be the norm.

Also completely disagree with the poster upthread who said well behaved children is a red flag and sign of abuse. That is completely bonkers but maybe that attitude explains why so many children are awful brats these days, ie if their entitled behaviour is tolerated

100% this!

It’s like that stupid slogan from years back which said “Dull women have tidy homes”.

Er, not necessarily.

Some people have to put others down to justify all kinds of things.

It’s actually’Crappy Parent Bashing’.

Long may it continue.

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