What's your worst playdate experience?

[PumpkinSly]

Aibu to ask what your worst playdate stories are (if you can still call it a play date at 9). DS has been to his friends this afternoon and has come home covered in what I can only assume is dog shit. The friend has two dogs and DS has come home with shit all over his shoes, trousers, t-shirt, and even in his hair. It doesn't even smell like normal dog shit. It is very cheesy in smell and it's all over him. He reeked. He said he spent time playing in the garden, but who lets kids play in a dog shit covered garden?! FFS! He's washed, we've cleaned the interior of the car, and his clothes are in the washing machine, so no long term damage. But I am sorely tempted to message the mother and tell her the state DS has come home in. DH thinks it's not worth it, and maybe he is right, so please, tell me your playdate nightmares to distract me.

School friend of my sons last summer they were aged 7. He just didn’t want to play anything at all, not interested in the trampoline, nerf guns, anything in my sons room. In desperation I suggested a bike ride to the local park but he said he’d never ridden a bike. We walked there (10 min walk) my son ran over to the play equipment and the child turned to me and said “there’s nothing here that interests me, I want to go back” man that was a long afternoon! Eventually he settled down to watch cartoons on Netflix turns out he had teen siblings and generally spends his time gaming he wasn’t impressed we didn’t have anything like that, I found it sad that a child of that age didn’t seem to know how to play.

Surely the mum noticed him leaving her house covered in dog shit? How could she not say anything or apologise? But also why is a 9 year old rolling around in dog shit, they would smell or see it surely

I have heard of people being allergic to paper

This.

I took dd to a childminders for a play date once. They had a soft play area in their house but it was really scuzzy. They also made loads of pizzas but I walked in when they were rearranging the pizzas in the oven and they put one on the kitchen floor!!! The floor was very dirty. We declined the food and made a hasty exit.

I remember going on a play date aged 10 or 11 and the girl’s 15 year old brother came into her room and made a lot of sexually inappropriate comments and then we all watched a highly inappropriate film together. That was very uncomfortable. Wouldn’t have occurred to me to tell my parents. Wouldn’t even have known how to raise the subject.

I stand corrected.
However I think he probably just doesn't like the feel of it.

DH and I took DD to a play date where we were both invited as we were friends with the other child’s parents. The idea was a coffee/tea/cake/catch-up afternoon for the four of us whilst the girls played. The reality was that the other child’s parents separated us almost immediately, so that I was in the kitchen with the Mum whilst DH was in the living room with the Dad. The girls were in the conservatory which conveniently had windows into both rooms. The parents proceeded to go into great detail, in separate conversations, with each of us about their relationship problems and wider family issues. Sadly they separated a few weeks later. DH and I may be the only people in the world who, between us, are aware of both perspectives. Sad for all involved, and definitely not the afternoon we were expecting.

I remember the Aloe Vera thing! My mum took me to a MLM ‘party’ at her friend’s, we had to sit there for hours and listen to the business model followed by a long gossip session about which of the villagers they thought were in the closet.

My daughter was at her friend's and their dog jumped up and clawed her tummy and chest and pushed her over. The dad said it's the dog's house not hers so he can do what he wants.

Needless to say she never went back.

The worst ones we’ve had involved a child scribbling all over the wall in ds’s room while I answered the door to his mum. The same child also mixed up the play dough in to one homogenous lump of brown.

The worst play date was when DD wanted her twin friends from nursery to come over for a mid morning play- fine, but then they were 45 minutes late (the rest of my children were 6, 2 and 3 months and I had a good routine for the baby which this was going to disrupt ).

The other mum left her other three children (I was an idiot and didn’t put the foot down). Then the slightly older sibling of the twins encouraged them to totally trash DD’s room- everything on the floor, total mess. The oldest sibling turned out to be keen on shooting everyone in the face with the nerf guns (his mum said they weren’t allowed them at home as they didn’t believe in toy weapons, I can see why). So had to distract him from that.

Then she was 1 hour late picking them up and was obviously pissed off when I didn’t offer to have them over for lunch. No I had not planned to have an extra 6 people for lunch when I had my own four to sort out including the baby to feed. Never invited back.

DD came home from a play date having had her ponytail cut off by the friend!

Our eldery neighbour asked for a playdate for his granddaughter (4) with my son (3). We had just moved to the area so I was very happy to meet some people and delighted when he said his DIL, her mother, would be coming too. A friend for me, at last! She came and we all walked arpund our garden together, her asking me a series of questions and explaining about her daughter's behaviour issues. She then proclaimed 'yes, this seems fine' and went on her way. The neighbour stayed for a few more minutes then 'popped home for a bit' and left me with the 4 year old, my 3 year old and my newborn baby.

I felt so stupid (and sad!) when I realised the mother had only turned up to inspect her free childcare provider. I have since made great friends in the area and make my expectations clear re playdates!

I’m only a mum to a 3 year old with no play dates under my belt yet however I’ll tell you about mine from 20 years ago😂

a friends mum used to do the deed while me and said friend were in bed next door. She’d be as loud as you’d like and would tell us to wear headphones.

same friend would make us encourage us to sleep in our uniform to go to primary school the next day.

the house would be a tip 24/7 and it was just horrendous. I used to have to get my mum to say no to sleepovers in the end cause I couldn’t tolerate it anymore. I don’t think I’d allow sleepovers unless it was a proper friend of mine 😂

DD was 4. Invited to first ever playdate. She was so excited. Both the other kids parents were there and they put on lovely M&S food for the kids, really nice pizza and snacks etc. looked amazing. DD took one look at the food and declared loudly that this was the worst food she had ever had!! I was mortified. It was so out of character and to this day I have no idea where that came from as it was (and is) so unlike her to be rude. Don't think BF parents ever really forgave us. Used to cross the road to avoid us after that. Took about 4 years to get invited again but don't think they ever liked DD really after that and who can blame them lmao 🤣

One where my 4yr old refused to leave the playdate house 😳. I had screay newborn DS too and nobody offered to hold him while I wrangled the 4yr old out of the house, so what ensued was really embarrassing trying to coax ds downstairs to leave while he screamed bloody murder, think clinging to doorframes, biting, scratching. The other mums just sat and stared whilst playdate host said 'you really have to go I have older daughter's piano tutor arriving soon.' I wanted to scream at her 'i bloody know Susan, I want to go too, would you just hold the baby while I sort this out!'

It was over the years ago now and I still cringe when I think about it. Ds had never behaved like that before and never did again. I went home cried, felt like such a useless ineffective parent and judged by those mums.

I've also had kids come to my home and behave terrible, things getting broken, damage to the house and one boy even swore at my lovely next door neighbour!

I had a friend come round to play with her 3 year old. My DS was potty trained so I didn't have a changing mat out, friend took her DS to change his nappy in the downstairs toilet and didn't ask me for anything, I thought nothing of it.

Luckily I walked past at the "right time" to see him laid on the hand towel from in there while she wiped his bum. The door was open because there wouldn't be space to close it while he laid down, I'd assumed she changed him standing up like I did when my DS was an older toddler.

She hung it back up and didn't say a word to me. So if I hadn't popped past we'd have happily carried on using that same towel 🤮

DD had a friend aged 7 over one day after school, the mum had provided a bag with about 3 changes of clothes which should have alerted me…DD came to me and said “Jodies done a poo in my room”, sure enough there was a massive one in the corner of the room, the loo was right next to it so no real reason for not using it. I gave her some clean clothes from the bag only for her to do it again about 20 minutes later. She was supposed to stay for tea but I rang the mum saying I didn’t think her DD was well enough to stay as she’s pooed herself twice. Mum sounded very weary as it was clearly a regular occurrence. I felt sorry for them both but didn’t feel inclined to have her back.

I invited a friend and her DD for a play date and she asked if she could bring a friend and her DDs too as they didn’t know many people in the area. Like a fool, I agreed. This woman brought two of the most precocious, misbehaved children I’ve ever met. They trashed my house. Took all the toys out into the garden and left them everywhere! Worst of all, the oldest child just kept going into the fridge and helping herself to the milk. When I put my foot down and said no more! The mother was not happy… and said ‘but Lucy is used to having what she wants to drink’. I said, Lucy can have a glass of water but no more milk as we need it for breakfast. The mother’s face was a picture. The worst bit was my friend left at 7 with her DD and then I was stuck with this woman I didn’t know and her awful kids. She just wouldn’t go home. I finally told her to go at 8.30 so I could put my DD to bed and get all the toys in out of the garden before they got lost or soaked in the rain. Never again.

@Sprinklesandsprinkles
That's disgusting and reminds me of one time my SIL brought her toddler round to play with mine. We were sitting outside and she took him in to change his pooey nappy. She did it on the kitchen floor and as she finished I saw her wipe her hands on the tea towel! Needless to say she hadn't washed them. She's a stranger to hygiene.

I posted about this several years ago. DP went to pick DD up from a play date and returned without her after trying and failing for one hour to get her out of the play date house. DD and her friend (literally) ran rings around him and the play date mum who apparently practised some form of gentle parenting and let the ridiculous situation play out in her house. I was at home sick and looking after toddler DS but DP suggested I get dressed and pick DD up as he couldn’t cope.

I received multiple instructions to LT(useless)B on the thread!

Arranged to meet a friend of DDs in the park during half term as there was an inflatables thing going on. Dad dropped her off with absolutely nothing. No lunch, coat, jumper, no money for entrance/ ice cream ( and it was agreed before hand she would need a packed lunch and some pocket money.) Dad was supposed to collect her mid afternoon but didn’t turn up. When I eventually got him on the phone he had decided to go into work and told me to leave her in the park to play and he would get her after work ( three hours on her own- apparently this was fine…) I wasn’t happy with this so she came back to ours. Dad promised he would be there at 5 as we had plans for the evening. He turned up at 8. Not a word of thanks or apology that we hadn’t been able to go out or the fact that I had an extra child to feed with no food in the house! No offer to compensate for the money I had spent on her. The absolute worst thing was that this is someone who was a social worker who was happy for his 9 year old to be left unsupervised in a park for hours! Furious was an understatement!

I had something very similar happen. A new mum at school invited a few of us and our kids to come for a get to know you playdate. Turned out to be a sales pitch form some essential oils. There was a woman there with this machine you put your hand on and it told you all your issues medical & emotional. All could be cured with an expensive prescription of oils. It was well awkward we one by one made our excuses and left.

When the four year child at my house on a play date’s car came off the Hot Wheels track her said, “God’s sake!”, only to be corrected by my four year old who said, “No. it’s fuck’s sake!”. 😱 we had no idea where he had heard that from.

Another one was the woman across the road invited some classmates round for a play in a paddling pool with her daughter. An hour in, the Mums said, “of course, Phoebe shouldn’t be in the paddling pool as she has a couple of verrucas, but we didn’t want to cancel”. 😖🤯