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PumpkinSly · 2025-09-28T15:58:15+00:00

Aibu to ask what your worst playdate stories are (if you can still call it a play date at 9). DS has been to his friends this afternoon and has come home covered in what I can only assume is dog shit. The friend has two dogs and DS has come home with shit all over his shoes, trousers, t-shirt, and even in his hair. It doesn't even smell like normal dog shit. It is very cheesy in smell and it's all over him. He reeked. He said he spent time playing in the garden, but who lets kids play in a dog shit covered garden?! FFS! He's washed, we've cleaned the interior of the car, and his clothes are in the washing machine, so no long term damage. But I am sorely tempted to message the mother and tell her the state DS has come home in. DH thinks it's not worth it, and maybe he is right, so please, tell me your playdate nightmares to distract me.

AnnaBegins · 29/09/2025 23:11

Tame compared to some on here, but my NCT friend invited me and my son over for a play date with her daughter. On arrival, she told me to take the children upstairs and keep the door shut so we wouldn't disturb her, as she was working and also prepping for child's 1st birthday party. I was literally just the unpaid childcare! Made my excuses after a short time and never accepted another playdate invite from her.

deste · 29/09/2025 23:18

Was asked to give my DD’s friends son a lift to an after school club. I took them home for a quick bite and he decided to run wild through the house and started to jump off the back of the sofa on to the floor. He the proceeded to kick the roof of the car with his dirty shoes.That was the end for me.
Another child came back with another friend and ours before gymnastics. I gave them pizza, crackers and cheese and a drink. She asked if i had anything else to eat but i explained we were going on holiday next day so had very little in the house to which she told me “ I had to be kidding”. She went and opened cupboard doors and found some biscuits and could she have them. I didnt realise they were still there so they must have been out if date so told her to go ahead and eat them.
That was the last time i took her anywhere.

CandleMug · 29/09/2025 23:22

wannabedogwoman · 29/09/2025 16:32

Neighbour had 2 DC very similar in age to my 2. Every so often we went for coffee in one of our houses, whilst the DC played. We'd both been busy and not met up for a while when I bumped in to her in the street and we both agreed we needed to meet up again soon and pencilled in a day/time. She contacted me a few days before to say she had an old friend visiting for a few days, but wanted to catch up so would it be OK to come over to mine and bring her friend. Not a problem. On the day, she called to say actually, could they come a little earlier. Again, not a problem. When they arrived, the DC started playing and she said she and friend had really wanted to visit a new shop in town that was not very child friendly (lots of breakables etc), so would I mind if they popped down whilst the DC were happy playing- and they would come home via the nice bakery to get cake for everyone. It seemed a bit cheeky, but I agreed. They seemed to have been a long time and I was considering calling to check that everything was OK when she called to say they ended up quickly nipping to another similar shop in the next town as well and 'lost track of time', but as it was now lunch time they'd just ordered themselves some lunch but would be back very soon 'with extra special cake for you to apologise for being so ditsy'. They finally appeared at about 5pm (having dropped her DC just before 10) with a box of Mr Kipling country slices which very much added insult to injury as they are particularly unpleasant and there were not even enough in the box for each of us and the DC to have one. I half expected a proper cake/apology after her friend had left (or at least an offer to look after my DC one day) but no, nothing.

What an absolute cheek!!! Some people are literally shameless!

3678194b · 29/09/2025 23:35

DD was having 3 friends around and to stay for dinner. Two of them had never been to ours before but all was good, texts had gone back and forth between me and their parents.

In the days running up to the playdate I said to DD, as it's Sunday I'm planing to cook a roast dinner, probably chicken, would all your friends be okay with that? All being teens and they eat together at lunch etc so didn't think twice about asking her this.

So on the morning I've gone shopping for dinner, friends get dropped off and I get the dinner on. It's a Sunday afternoon.

DD comes to me as says 'friend A doesn't eat chicken, she's vegetarian'. I was secretly distraught thinking what on earth do I do now, it's after 4 pm, all the shops are shut, I've got nothing else in.

Ran out to the Sainsbury's local praying I'd be able to get something. About the only thing I could find was Quorn, astronomically priced but what can I do!

Cooked the dinner, called DD and friends to have it for my daughter to ask in front of everyone 'is that vegetarian gravy?' Thankfully it was.

I thought that's the last time I'm inviting DCs friends around and cooking dinner! It could have been so much worse.

StillTryingtoBuy · 29/09/2025 23:49

Skye109 · 29/09/2025 23:09

I didn't ever ask parents for money.
I couldn't have brought myself to say "Give me £X amount for the cost of a new xxx".
There were all different types of scenarios.
The one with the brand new Sylvanian caravan that had its door and hinges snapped off, I looked at the mum who had stayed for the playdate, and said "That's my DD's brand new birthday present, it cost £60 and she's only had it a week...." and the mum said "You can easily glue it back on. It's not Rupert's fault, it must be very cheap quality" and then she changed the subject. It never could be glued back on. The whole point of the hinges was so that the caravan door could open and close. Not be glued shut. I never said "Give me £60".
The boy that tore up DD's bedroom, dolls, drawings, I mean he was out of control beyond belief. He literally tore through our house. He was 11, not a toddler. His mother was present, she'd stayed for a cup of tea, and I have never in my life seen a grown woman speak in such a baby-girl sing-song voice to a child that age. She was saying "Ohhh, have you had a challenging day at school Duncan? I can see you're experiencing emotions of frustration and sadness Duncan. It's ok, I'm here, let's breath through this together...." whilst my DD was crying her eyes out at her belongings being ripped apart by him. Then the mum said to me "I think something has triggered Duncan to express anger, I'll work through it with him tonight. Let me know the cost to replace your DD's toys." She could see my DD's distress. I was so livid in this scenario that I actually did send her links on WhatsApp to all the toys her DS had ripped apart. I fully expected to receive newly bought replacements and I felt glad for DD that I would be able to give them to her and say they're from Duncan's mum to say sorry. But I never heard from her again. Never got a reply to my text. Never received replacements.
Other scenarios involved mums at my house smiling and faux eye rolling at their DC's "spirited" behaviour with no authentic apologies. I could never had said "Can you pay me for X Y Z that your nightmare of a kid has trashed".
Other scenarios involved the kids being round on their own without parents. Upon collection, I would tell the mum about the damage caused by their child, and I'd be met with an insipid and non comittal "Oh, sorry to hear that, sounds a bit tricky, please say sorry to Syke, thank you Noah....." Noah would stare blankly with not 1 spoken word of apology and mum would say nonchalantly "Tired I expect Noah, ok then, bye Skye!" and go home without one offer of compensation.
Meanwhile I'm left too gobsmacked to outright ask for the damages to be paid for.
Re the birthday presents hidden in the cupboard that got ripped open, that was a funny one. It was the dad that collected, so I told him. He said "Hmmm, doesn't sound like something my child would do, I'll chat to them at home and get back to you..." Later that evening I got a text from him saying "My child says it wasn't them that did it, it was your child". I said "No it wasn't my child because my child was with me at the time it happened, and I walked in and saw your child pulling open the boxes". To which he said "I'm never going to allow my child round to your house again if you're going to falsely accuse them of behaviour they'd never do. I'm not replacing anything because I don't believe my child did it.". And that was that.
I've just remembered 1 girl came round and ransacked DD's bedroom to such an extent that it took me 5 days to clean the chaos up. I don't mean 5 entire days. But 5 days of coming home from work and spending 2 hours after work over 5 consecutive days to clean up and clear up the damage done. I never told the mum about that one, I just resolved never to have her round ever again. I remember feeling tearful by day 3.
I've also just remembered another episode where DD's friend popped open one of those sensory balls full of white squidgy goo.....OMG it went EVERYWHERE!!! All up the walls, in the carpet, all over her hair, in her eyes, she was screeching that she couldn't see, Jesus Christ. It was all over her dress. I couldn't believe so much fluid came out of this ball. I washed her hair and face and called the mum to come early to pick her up. Mum sounded very put out. When she arrived, I said I can't get the marks off of my walls, it's stained the paintwork..." she looked at the marks on her DD's dress and said haughtily "I hope those marks come out! Come on Harriet!" and didn't give a shit about my walls.
There is so much more I could tell you about!

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Were these kids good friends with your children? It seems so strange that children they were friends with, played with at school etc would suddenly become so monstrous on a play date. Were your kids surprised by how the play dates went?

QuaintPanda · 30/09/2025 08:06

Eastie77Returns · 29/09/2025 22:58

‘must that child be here? What can you do with a child like that?’

I’m sorry your son went through that but this wins the thread🤣🤣🤣

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I laugh at it now 😂. It’s translated from German, but this kid had form for coming out with slightly off phrases verbatim that he‘d clearly got from someone elderly. Think there was some Gestalt processing going on.

We had to feed him as his parents left him with us for 5 whole hours. We gave him a placemat with animals on a world map and he kept on gushing (to me, not to ignored DS) ‘oh look! There’s a white bear! Isn’t that a lovely brummy beary!’

MyDeftHedgehog · 30/09/2025 08:43

I'm staggered at the behaviour of some of these children and even more staggered that the hosting parent seems to allow it. I cant imagine ever behaving like that at someone else's house and I wouldn't tolerate it from my children or their friends.
Call me an old fashioned boomer but it seems to me that some of these horrors would benefit from having their arses whooped

I'll get my coat.......

Soontobesingles · 30/09/2025 08:56

TheatricalLife · 29/09/2025 13:23

I had that when I was a kid! I remember sitting and watching the family eating their tea at the table (a proper, plated hot meal for the dad, mum and three kids) while I had nothing. I was expected to sit and wait quietly in the adjoining living room -I wasn't even allowed the TV on. I don't think I ever mentioned it to my mum. I definitely never went over again, despite being asked.

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I also had a friend whose mum would
do this regularly when I went over there to play, serve a full cooked dinner or lunch and nothing for me. I wasn’t a particularly food oriented child so though I noticed, I just assumed ‘one of those things’. Now I cannot fathom how you could have a small child in your house and not offer the anything! Not even a packet of
crisps! People are very weird.

PansyPotter84 · 30/09/2025 08:59

MyDeftHedgehog · 30/09/2025 08:43

I'm staggered at the behaviour of some of these children and even more staggered that the hosting parent seems to allow it. I cant imagine ever behaving like that at someone else's house and I wouldn't tolerate it from my children or their friends.
Call me an old fashioned boomer but it seems to me that some of these horrors would benefit from having their arses whooped

I'll get my coat.......

That’s definitely a generational thing.

We have some friends who have adopted the gentle parenting thing since having
kids and they are both horrors (one boy and one girl).

The parents are both “at a loss” about what to do about their kids’ behaviour but say that the grandparents have suggested giving them a smack when they misbehave (to which they were horrified).

The middle way seems to have always worked for us (so far) no smacking, keep calm but save the raised voice or shouts for serious situations for effect, natural consequences and loss of privileges for punishment when needed, not being afraid to separate children if fighting (very rare) or
to shove child away who is trying to hit me (only happened twice).

Also not being afraid to point out behaviour expectations in public:

eg “remember, there are other people on this coach who you should think about- so best keep the noise down, eh?” (prompted nodding approval from elderly passengers followed by complements on their behaviour at the end of
the journey from some of them)

chipsticksmammy · 30/09/2025 09:38

I am not afraid to parent or tell other kids to PACK IT IN. I do accept my house, belongings or my kids being attacked by other people. The second something is broken it all stops and the child goes home.

I once went outside to my own garden to find a neighbours kid on the trampoline and DD in tears. He had come in univited, sworn at her and when I asked him to leave he told me to f*ck off.

I left him in the garden and marched his mother round to remove him. I havent spoken to any of them since.

Why should people stand for that behaviour?

EmmaOvary · 30/09/2025 10:11

I’ve got one. Child (5) comes over with little brother and mother. She and my son are playing in the garden with chalk and water, mixing it to make handprints on the ground. Fine, no problem. Child says to me with glee, ‘I’m going to do something really naughty and you can’t stop me’ and proceeds to run over to my laundry hanging on the line and put wet coloured chalky handprints on it. Mother just sighs and says ‘Oh dear. If you do these things, you won’t be invited back.’ Yeah, no shit.

chipsticksmammy · 30/09/2025 10:14

EmmaOvary · 30/09/2025 10:11

I’ve got one. Child (5) comes over with little brother and mother. She and my son are playing in the garden with chalk and water, mixing it to make handprints on the ground. Fine, no problem. Child says to me with glee, ‘I’m going to do something really naughty and you can’t stop me’ and proceeds to run over to my laundry hanging on the line and put wet coloured chalky handprints on it. Mother just sighs and says ‘Oh dear. If you do these things, you won’t be invited back.’ Yeah, no shit.

I would have calmly replied, 'No, you are not' and told the mother to stop him. I know thats a difficult to do, but her just sitting there is taking the piss.

I dont understand why this behaviour isn't called out.

Shakeyourwammyfannyfunkysong · 30/09/2025 10:14

EmmaOvary · 30/09/2025 10:11

I’ve got one. Child (5) comes over with little brother and mother. She and my son are playing in the garden with chalk and water, mixing it to make handprints on the ground. Fine, no problem. Child says to me with glee, ‘I’m going to do something really naughty and you can’t stop me’ and proceeds to run over to my laundry hanging on the line and put wet coloured chalky handprints on it. Mother just sighs and says ‘Oh dear. If you do these things, you won’t be invited back.’ Yeah, no shit.

WTF?! The mum was there?! If that was my child I would have physically stopped them and if I didn't manage to in time the kid would be spending the rest of the playdate handwashing that laundry.

EmmaOvary · 30/09/2025 10:17

chipsticksmammy · 30/09/2025 10:14

I would have calmly replied, 'No, you are not' and told the mother to stop him. I know thats a difficult to do, but her just sitting there is taking the piss.

I dont understand why this behaviour isn't called out.

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I did say that but she ran off and did it before I could get to her. I was in shock. Looking back I should have ended the play date there but they’d only just arrived. Parents are lovely but don’t have any boundaries with their kids. I couldn’t believe she didn’t tell her child to at least apologise.

Thewitchsong · 30/09/2025 10:22

My then best friend

I had 3 dc within 3 years and she had her ds (at around the time i had my no3) and 7 years later,had 2 dds within about 21 months of each other

We also had very different parenting styles

If we went to hers,I would make sure mine tided up after themselves/eat what was on offer (within reason,nobody would be forced to eat what they didnt like)/be polite/don't make a mess you don't want to clean up and just be a pleasure to host (and believe me,mine are not perfect!)

Hers had spent 7 years as a spoilt only child (I'm fully aware not all 'onlys' are spoilt,but all he had to do was point at something and it was his) had zero manners/would demand other food as 'this is shit!' while his mother stared at me to produce other foods out of my arse and as soon as it was time to leave,they'd just stand up and walk out,leaving me with the massive mess he'd made (and later,his sisters mess)

It got to the point id only host if we went to the park as I couldn't deal with a nasty brat who's mother thought he farted rainbows and could do no wrong-i remember my eldest asking why he got away with stuff that I would have bollocked her for

He once trashed my bathroom-sudocrem and shit up the walls,our toothbrushes in the toilet (hed pissed all over them),talc,shower gel and shampoo mixed into the mess,toilet rolls all over the floor and bleach (my fault for leaving that in the cupboard) all down my bath with towels dumped on top (the ones he had wiped his arse on)

He'd only gone for a wee (he was about 9/10 at the time)

I rang my friend and all I got back was 'he wouldn't have done that-yours did it and are trying to blame mine' (mine had been in the garden at the time) and I found out later that he'd done exactly the same thing a few weeks earlier with his cousins at his grandparents and got to play on the PlayStation while the adults cleaned up the mess

On his way out,he spat at me twice and his mother ignored him and walked out with him smirking

His sisters where exactly the same and she couldn't understand why nobody hosted playmates with them more than once

She was my best mate from us being 12 years old but by God,I regretted it as we had kids,she was an amazing friend but had a massive blind spot when it came to her kids

chipsticksmammy · 30/09/2025 10:30

EmmaOvary · 30/09/2025 10:17

I did say that but she ran off and did it before I could get to her. I was in shock. Looking back I should have ended the play date there but they’d only just arrived. Parents are lovely but don’t have any boundaries with their kids. I couldn’t believe she didn’t tell her child to at least apologise.

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Ah fair enough, thats terrible. I would be mortified if my child even tried to do something like that.

Your washing would have come home with me and returned to you ironed!

Katiesaidthat · 30/09/2025 10:52

Skye109 · 29/09/2025 23:09

I didn't ever ask parents for money.
I couldn't have brought myself to say "Give me £X amount for the cost of a new xxx".
There were all different types of scenarios.
The one with the brand new Sylvanian caravan that had its door and hinges snapped off, I looked at the mum who had stayed for the playdate, and said "That's my DD's brand new birthday present, it cost £60 and she's only had it a week...." and the mum said "You can easily glue it back on. It's not Rupert's fault, it must be very cheap quality" and then she changed the subject. It never could be glued back on. The whole point of the hinges was so that the caravan door could open and close. Not be glued shut. I never said "Give me £60".
The boy that tore up DD's bedroom, dolls, drawings, I mean he was out of control beyond belief. He literally tore through our house. He was 11, not a toddler. His mother was present, she'd stayed for a cup of tea, and I have never in my life seen a grown woman speak in such a baby-girl sing-song voice to a child that age. She was saying "Ohhh, have you had a challenging day at school Duncan? I can see you're experiencing emotions of frustration and sadness Duncan. It's ok, I'm here, let's breath through this together...." whilst my DD was crying her eyes out at her belongings being ripped apart by him. Then the mum said to me "I think something has triggered Duncan to express anger, I'll work through it with him tonight. Let me know the cost to replace your DD's toys." She could see my DD's distress. I was so livid in this scenario that I actually did send her links on WhatsApp to all the toys her DS had ripped apart. I fully expected to receive newly bought replacements and I felt glad for DD that I would be able to give them to her and say they're from Duncan's mum to say sorry. But I never heard from her again. Never got a reply to my text. Never received replacements.
Other scenarios involved mums at my house smiling and faux eye rolling at their DC's "spirited" behaviour with no authentic apologies. I could never had said "Can you pay me for X Y Z that your nightmare of a kid has trashed".
Other scenarios involved the kids being round on their own without parents. Upon collection, I would tell the mum about the damage caused by their child, and I'd be met with an insipid and non comittal "Oh, sorry to hear that, sounds a bit tricky, please say sorry to Syke, thank you Noah....." Noah would stare blankly with not 1 spoken word of apology and mum would say nonchalantly "Tired I expect Noah, ok then, bye Skye!" and go home without one offer of compensation.
Meanwhile I'm left too gobsmacked to outright ask for the damages to be paid for.
Re the birthday presents hidden in the cupboard that got ripped open, that was a funny one. It was the dad that collected, so I told him. He said "Hmmm, doesn't sound like something my child would do, I'll chat to them at home and get back to you..." Later that evening I got a text from him saying "My child says it wasn't them that did it, it was your child". I said "No it wasn't my child because my child was with me at the time it happened, and I walked in and saw your child pulling open the boxes". To which he said "I'm never going to allow my child round to your house again if you're going to falsely accuse them of behaviour they'd never do. I'm not replacing anything because I don't believe my child did it.". And that was that.
I've just remembered 1 girl came round and ransacked DD's bedroom to such an extent that it took me 5 days to clean the chaos up. I don't mean 5 entire days. But 5 days of coming home from work and spending 2 hours after work over 5 consecutive days to clean up and clear up the damage done. I never told the mum about that one, I just resolved never to have her round ever again. I remember feeling tearful by day 3.
I've also just remembered another episode where DD's friend popped open one of those sensory balls full of white squidgy goo.....OMG it went EVERYWHERE!!! All up the walls, in the carpet, all over her hair, in her eyes, she was screeching that she couldn't see, Jesus Christ. It was all over her dress. I couldn't believe so much fluid came out of this ball. I washed her hair and face and called the mum to come early to pick her up. Mum sounded very put out. When she arrived, I said I can't get the marks off of my walls, it's stained the paintwork..." she looked at the marks on her DD's dress and said haughtily "I hope those marks come out! Come on Harriet!" and didn't give a shit about my walls.
There is so much more I could tell you about!

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My neigbour had his new tv trashed by some idiotic kid who grabbed the edge and knocked it over, in front of neighbour and parents. My neighbour marched them to Carrefour and got an exact replacement. They were lucky it was a 500€ job and not the ones in the thousands.
Edited to ask: why would you do this over and over?

EmmaOvary · 30/09/2025 11:06

Thewitchsong · 30/09/2025 10:22

My then best friend

I had 3 dc within 3 years and she had her ds (at around the time i had my no3) and 7 years later,had 2 dds within about 21 months of each other

We also had very different parenting styles

If we went to hers,I would make sure mine tided up after themselves/eat what was on offer (within reason,nobody would be forced to eat what they didnt like)/be polite/don't make a mess you don't want to clean up and just be a pleasure to host (and believe me,mine are not perfect!)

Hers had spent 7 years as a spoilt only child (I'm fully aware not all 'onlys' are spoilt,but all he had to do was point at something and it was his) had zero manners/would demand other food as 'this is shit!' while his mother stared at me to produce other foods out of my arse and as soon as it was time to leave,they'd just stand up and walk out,leaving me with the massive mess he'd made (and later,his sisters mess)

It got to the point id only host if we went to the park as I couldn't deal with a nasty brat who's mother thought he farted rainbows and could do no wrong-i remember my eldest asking why he got away with stuff that I would have bollocked her for

He once trashed my bathroom-sudocrem and shit up the walls,our toothbrushes in the toilet (hed pissed all over them),talc,shower gel and shampoo mixed into the mess,toilet rolls all over the floor and bleach (my fault for leaving that in the cupboard) all down my bath with towels dumped on top (the ones he had wiped his arse on)

He'd only gone for a wee (he was about 9/10 at the time)

I rang my friend and all I got back was 'he wouldn't have done that-yours did it and are trying to blame mine' (mine had been in the garden at the time) and I found out later that he'd done exactly the same thing a few weeks earlier with his cousins at his grandparents and got to play on the PlayStation while the adults cleaned up the mess

On his way out,he spat at me twice and his mother ignored him and walked out with him smirking

His sisters where exactly the same and she couldn't understand why nobody hosted playmates with them more than once

She was my best mate from us being 12 years old but by God,I regretted it as we had kids,she was an amazing friend but had a massive blind spot when it came to her kids

This has got to be the worst. Oh my God. For me, this would be friendship ending. Have you ever actually said something to her about her parenting? She is raising children that will turn into awful adults.

QuaintPanda · 30/09/2025 11:29

I also once had a play date where a random child suddenly appeared.

Lots of the kids in the village are pretty free range - once they‘ve done their homework they roam the sports grounds, playgrounds, and their friends‘ houses. Tends to be multi-age groups roaming from about 3-6pm.

I had a group of kids in my garden - who I knew - and my neighbour had a group in his. I walked into the house to discover an 8yr old I‘d never met playing with my 4-yr old son‘s train set!

He‘d jumped over my neighbour‘s fence as we have more boy toys and the neighbour had two daughters. Neighbour hadn’t realised he‘d been there!

Spoke to the boy who was very polite. Then identified the kid who had invited him over the fence and told him I decide who comes in, not him.

Once random boy realised it wasn’t his mate‘s house, he left. And the inviter has not done that again. He‘s a decent kid, but gets carried away and needs reigning in from time to time. Fortunately, he responds well to me.

Carpedimum · 30/09/2025 11:49

When DS was 5, spontaneous invitation to an after school play date. We could barely get in the front door for some big toys, then once at the living room door I was struck dumb with the sight in front of me. Every surface and the floor was covered in toys. The mum had to tip toe to the kitchen, saying ‘ow’ as she trod on things. She told me to sit down but everything was just covered, so I had to move things and perch on the end of a chair. DS and her son just started playing but there was so much that it was frantic as attention bounced from one thing to another. She offered a drink but I declined because the place smelt awful and the kitchen looked in complete disarray too. Small house, but no excuse, I was genuinely shocked that people live like that. As an aside, she is the sister of a globally famous rock/dance musician who is mega rich but tight af.

sparrowhawkhere · 30/09/2025 12:03

Child stole favourite toy and denied it.

I was asked to have friends children as a favour for an hour or two on my husbands birthday, he was fine about it as our takeaway wasn’t coming until 8 and they were dropped off at 3:30…guess who was still here at 8?! The emergency wasn’t an emergency in the end but they’d used the ‘free childcare’ to go shopping!

Skye109 · 30/09/2025 12:14

Katiesaidthat · 30/09/2025 10:52

My neigbour had his new tv trashed by some idiotic kid who grabbed the edge and knocked it over, in front of neighbour and parents. My neighbour marched them to Carrefour and got an exact replacement. They were lucky it was a 500€ job and not the ones in the thousands.
Edited to ask: why would you do this over and over?

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Because it wasn't over and over with the same kid or same kids.
This was all different kids throughout all the different school years from year 1 to year 6.
I had hope I suppose. Hope that the next friend we had round would be well behaved.
I didn't just keep on inviting the same destructive kids around non stop.
I should counter this by saying that in between the scenarios I have described, we had plenty of playdates with different friends from school that were fun, happy and the kids were a delight to have round. These were the ones that got invites back again. They weren't all hellish. But I've described the hellish ones as it's a thread about bad playdates. And unfortunately the hellish ones were such hard work and there were so many of them that in the end I'm afraid it eroded my overall enthusiasm for having other people's kids round to my house. And I quickly learnt that having the mother in attendance was no help with the out of control ones.

Thewitchsong · 30/09/2025 12:17

EmmaOvary · 30/09/2025 11:06

This has got to be the worst. Oh my God. For me, this would be friendship ending. Have you ever actually said something to her about her parenting? She is raising children that will turn into awful adults.

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They are awful adults

(Sorry,I thought id written that)

None of them can hold down jobs (not their faults,it's the horrid bosses!)

They have no friends (everyone else's fault) and just slob about at home,smoking weed and baking vile looking cakes (which she puts on fb) while she wears herself out,running after them

I did try to tell her,more than once but she ignored me and the last straw (!) was when he leaned out of a window and kept spitting at us as we knocked on her door

She opened the door to us covered in spit and asked what had happened

I pointed to her ds (then aged about 11/12) and said it was him (which was true,I had no reason to lie)

She told me it couldn't have been him as he'd not gone near a window all day (he was hanging out of it!) and I saw my dc just look at me with that look on their faces (and I can't blame them)

I used to be a people pleaser but id had enough and told her to pull her head out of her arse and see what she was doing to her dc

She slammed the door in my face and we had to walk 3 miles home again covered in spit (and I think a bit of snot)

Friendship over and to the day I left my hometown (a few years later) she never spoke to me again

All because I refused to be spat at

Ivesaidenough · 30/09/2025 12:32

"he looked like an extra from the battle of helms deep."
😆

chipsticksmammy · 30/09/2025 12:55

Spitting is assualt in the UK.