I've been single for many years now and I just think it suits me best. I am very independent and enjoy being on my own - but mainly because I compare this to past relationships where i've felt suffocated, disappointed, used and abused, or financially vulnerable. I come from a narcissistic family of origin, so I am probably more prone to get involved with toxic people. I can't be bothered to 'do the work' spend money on counselling etc, which i've done in the past, only to end up in the same position or sometimes worse.
I find men generally selfish, and as described by a PP, they do tend to view you as an appliance or sex dispenser. When I get older, I don't want to be discarded because i've got health problems as the statistics seem to say, neither do I have any interest in looking after some whiny old selfish man who is pissed off I can't cook him dinner
dying alone? no problem! wouldn't want someone to see me die anyway, it's not a pleasant thing to witness.
I lie in my bed each night grateful that I don't have to listen to someone else snore, get disturbed for sex, or have someone nicking the bedsheets.
I'm grateful that I don't have to spend my time preening myself to look perfect and wearing sexy uncomfortable lingerie which loads of them expect.
I enjoy watching whatever I want on the tv without someone mansplaining beside me, or turning it over to watch some boring sport.
I know that just by living on my own, my home and finances are pretty much secure as i've managed on my own for so long now.
Dating costs a load of money, takes up too much time and has generally been a waste of time in the past. I don't have the energy any more. My very limited sex drive can be sorted with a bit of masturbation and doesn't involve messy clean ups, or cystitis.
My free time is my own. I have no one putting me down, criticizing my appearance, being jealous of my mates, questioning where i've been.
There's a lot to be said for being single and it's how I intend to stay