If you are single, are you genuinely happy being single?

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I'm single and I'm perfectly happy. I wouldn't want anyone in my life right now or for the foreseeable future.

I'm currently on holiday with my ex.
We are friends, but no kids together and no finances to split when we called it a day.
Being on holiday has shown me - yet again - why this relationship ended. .. all to save the single traveller's supplement!
He is the most miserable person I know.
Can't wait to get back to my own home, my dog, and my happy single life!!
I'm 56, post menopause, with no sex drive - and that suits me fine :)

i’m happy being single although i miss sex a lot and haven’t been touched/hugged in over a year. I don’t want a man though, they don’t enhance my life.

Three years single after 18 year marriage, will never go down that road again! Very happy with my two teens and three cats 😁

I’ve never had a serious relationship(!) and I’ve been single for the last 5 years. I’ve been on/off the apps and had a couple of dates in that time but nothing special.

I’m very happy single and doing my own thing and can’t imagine life any other way now, but I guess I don’t know what I’m missing out on.

I was single from 34 to 48 and then met a guy I really loved. Turns out after 4 years he didn’t feel the same and ended the relationship. So, now single again at 53 for just over a year. I miss the sex and physical touch and the spontaneity of being able to do something with someone. I don’t have kids or any family so although I’m ok during the week I struggle with weekends as for my friends it’s “family time”. Ditto Xmas.

After I split with my ex, each time I saw him something new would annoy me about him.. things that I suppose I just didn't take note of while married as lots of things were just tolerated out of necessity.

Just how miserable he always is also one of them. And complaining about everything. Even the way he stirs his tea annoys me .. things you now take note of after you have been free of them ...

I hope the rest of the holiday is bearable and you are back to you peaceful home and life soon.

I am very happy single and have zero interest in dating.

I prefer to focus on hobbies, exercise, friends, my pets, garden & house and my passion for art.

I have had only disappointments when it comes to men and can't see how a man would add anything positive to my life now that I am middle aged and much more confident in myself.

I am very independent, neurodivergent and I value my freedom above anything else. I am one of these people who are just not made for relationships :)

Roughly eight years single. Was previously married for 25 years. Never doing that again. Being single is much better. I am happy every day and my mental health is fully recovered. I no longer wake up wishing I could pull the duvet over my head and hide. I've lost nearly 50 kgs gained by comfort eating my way through the marriage and am fitter than I have been for over 35 years. When my circumstances change, I shall get another dog and then I will have all I need.

Never ever been happier or healthier after 7 years single.

Absolutely love being single! I don’t have the space in my life to consider someone else and i honestly think I’ve become to selfish now.

I’m happily single, I have a lovely teen dd, a dog and cat and feel very fortunate with my lot in life.

Single since 2010 and never been happier.

I’m early 40s and think my marriage is ending.

Husband is handsome, kind, a good dad. Unfortunately found out he cheated (not physically but emotionally and exchanging of nude photos etc) when we were going through a bad patch a few years ago.

I don’t think I can get past it, hence the marriage will be ending soon.

I know I am going to miss him, and have absolutely no desire to date or get involved with anyone else…so reading these replies with interest.

I do worry about being lonely. I have friends, but most of them are married. I have no family except for my two young kids.

I’m guessing my best course of action would be to meet some new single friends.

whataweekImhaving I'd do my best to move past it if I were you. He sounds fine apart from having been a twat in the past. There's nothing out there and it's undeniably harder on the kids.

I've been single for over 20 years and am perfectly happy. I was also very happy being single before I got married. I would run a mile rather than have another relationship. I don't think I'm built for relationships.

Divorced 5 years and happily single. Don't have the slightest desire to venture into online dating. If I meet someone organically at some point in the future then great, but just happy concentrating on raising my kids and having my autonomy back after a 20 year emotionally abusive sham of a marriage. Wanting so badly to be in a relationship is what led to so much misery in the first place.

I’ll go against the majority and say I don’t like being single. But I also couldn’t live with another man ever again. I do enjoy being single in many ways, plus I’m incredibly independent, but I miss having someone around in the background (if that makes sense!) I’m just out of a year long FWB type thing and miss the flirting, messaging and sex, but I dipped my toe back into online dating over the weekend and then started to think maybe being single isn’t so bad after all 🤣

I’m not single but even though I love my DP I miss it a lot. Even the best relationships bring a lot of compromise and limits. Men have to be so special to compensate for the loss of freedom and the irritations of cohabitation. And most aren’t.

There’s nothing like the freedom of being able to totally please and define yourself.

Sorry you are in this situation.

We all deserve to live happy. But, with saying that, going through the divorce process is tough too. The posts on here, from me and many others are from longer term single people. We are out the other side of this process.

Your marriage doesn't sound awful, but I get that he has hurt you. Is it because he broke your trust that you can't move on from?

I love being single, but getting to this point wasn't all sunshine and roses. Just wanted to mention this as this part doesn't come across in this thread.

Yes, everything @Highlighta said.

I hope it all works out for you, @whataweekImhaving.

Yes. I genuinely don’t understand the need people have to be in a relationship.
I’ve had a few relationships but I find it stressful and time consuming. I really don’t get much out of it.
I am far happier on my own.

I haven't posted because the question was aimed at single people. I am not single but I know romantic relationships and marriage is definitely not for everyone...

There are lots of happy singles out there as this thread is evidence of and you must absolutely do what you think is right for you.

. However if what you say about you husband is really true ( and I know snippets in a thread here cannot possibly encompass the whole of a life or relationship ) really think what you might feel 2-3 years after the divorce when your husband is with someone else, who your children may have to spend lots of time with, Someone you have no say over.

I am not saying to stay with your husband just for the children , I don't know your life and if you really cant forgive then you can't. You H was definitelya twat.. I am however willing to bet he will be in a relationship very quickly after you divorce. Especially if he really is handsome, kind, a good father and was just an idiot once a few years ago when you were having a rough time.

If that scenario of your husband happy with someone else.and you having to accept that oerson involved in your childrens lives genuinely feeels OK with you, then fine.

Just spend some time thinking about how that will feel and how it will affect your life before getting a divorce.

I am not saying that your marriage can survive what he did but in the situation you have outlined, I'd want to be very very certain it couldn't survive ( even if it was changed) before divorcing, particularly if I had young children.

Listen to what many of the single people str saying. They don't want the work of a relationship and that is a perfectly valid choice. All long term relationships require work, effort and compromise of some sort. Absolutely all of them. In good ones the work should be done by both parties, mostly feel good, even occasionally oyous even if it still take effort. Occasionally ( and it really should not be very often if the relationship is to be a good one) the work is messy and painful

Good luck, whatever you decide .

Very happy yes.
I have had good relationships, still very good friend with my exes, but deep down I had always craved being single.

When I was a kid, my dream life was to live alone in a small tidy flat, with a pet. Well, guess what...

I’ve been single a long time and mostly happy as I’m too used to being alone now, I’d be reluctant to enter a relationship as I like my freedom and peace too much and it seems like a risk to me to bother letting someone else in.

I will admit part of me would like to meet someone though, but only with someone who had the right intentions and was completely right for me, which I’m not sure will happen, so unless someone genuinely benefits my life, I won’t be front of the queue for a man. He’ll have a tough job trying to convince me to give him a shot 🤣

I have made peace with the fact I may be single forever now, and although when I think about it I think it’s a bit of a shame, im not devastated. I know that I’ll be fine if that is the case because there’s still happiness to be had elsewhere in life. If it’s meant to be, it will.

I honestly don't know how I could fit someone else into my life, even if I reached to. I'm as busy as I would want to be, and when I'm not busy I really value my downtime. I don't have the time, the energy or the inclination to try and fit a life partner into my life. I'm really not sure what someone could add without taking away something more valuable to me.

Sex? Don't want it often enough to justify having someone around so much.
Companionship? Got as many friends as I need in my life. It's funny now I'm at a time of life that people say is hard to make friends, I've got more now that I see regularly than since I was in my early twenties, most of which I've just gotten to know in the last couple of years).
House-stuff? If I can't do it, I know someone who can (for a price).

Thankfully, people in my life seem to have finally given up on me 'finding a new man'. For a few years there, it was a regular topic of conversation with a few select individuals).