If you are single, are you genuinely happy being single?

[CarrotCrusader]

I'm single and I'm perfectly happy. I wouldn't want anyone in my life right now or for the foreseeable future.

But I'm not good at all at relationships, it's a miracle that I've got children. So I'm quite sad that I'm not as functional as I would need to be to have a fulfilling relationship. And I'd say that's just a fact 🤷🏼‍♂️

And if I didn't have children I'd be devastated.

If I had a crystal ball telling me I’d meet a man who would love and adore me (and not be a dick), then no, I wouldn’t be happy being single! But after being burnt so many times, I don’t have much faith in meeting a good man, so I am happy being single. If you ask me whether I miss good sex though… 100% yes, I do 😂

Mostly.

I've been single for the better part of 10 years. DD's dad and I split up when I was pregnant, but stupidly had casual sex on/off up until she was around 4/5. I was at my lowest then, because I wanted that family unit, which we never had, but can honestly say that this last decade has been far happier alone than it ever has been trying to mask my neurodivergence and demisexuality with a partner. I can be completely and unapologetically myself at home with DD (also neurodiverse) and that has done wonders for my wellbeing. Am fully prepared to spend the rest of my life happily single, unless the perfect person drops down from the sky and even then, they would have to accept that our relationship would be far from conventional. 🤣

Single for 13 years and happy. Mid 50s. 1 teenager who will be knowing out yo uni next year. Have a wide circle of friends and a good social life. Have a couple of men I see when it suits me.

I do occasionally think about a relationship and the things that could give me bit struggle to see how I could fit 1 in now.

I love it. There are so many opportunities to get into relationships but not many men are good enough for me to want to do it. I can’t be doing with mediocre men 😂

After divorce many years ago, I vowed I would never live with anyone again and if I met someone, they would have to live in their own place.

I lost my lovely home once when we divorced and sold it to split the finances, I never ever wanted to be in the position of losing it again if a marriage/relationship failed.

Been happily single, in my own mortgage free home ever since.

I’m single and on the whole happy. I like the idea of meeting ‘the love of my life’ but I think the reality is probably very different. I like the freedom and peace that being single brings and if I get offered a job in another country, I can just move.

I'm in my sixties and have been single for about 30 years - there have been a few relationships and a FWB for the last ten years but we only see each other intermittently.

I have lots of friends, see family often and enjoy my own company; I have never been as lonely as I felt in a marriage where the other person didn't want to be with me any more.

I look at friends' relationships and see compromise, usually by the woman; I don't know anyone who's in a relationship which seems completely equal and happy. Not envious at all, love my independence and freedom.

Awww no! Definitely a bit of a waste of time then! Let's just stick to dates with ourselves! 😁

@MyLimeGuide definitely!!! I couldn't stop chuckling about it all afternoon 😂 I said to my son I put my head over the parapet lol

I could POSSIBLY be in a relationship but they would have to live somewhere else and not talk to me very often. 🤣🤣🤣

I've been single for about 8 years. I actually can't believe its that long!
I really am too lazy and tired to date. I just can't be arsed with it all. Getting dressed up and having to be your best self and all that. I'd rather just be on the sofa in my pjs.

I can't imagine ever living with a man now or sharing a bed with one snoring and breathing and just existing in my space 😆

Reading the relationship boards on here make me feel happy to be single!

Yes, absolutely. I don't have to consider anyone else's needs.

I never feel lonely like I did in my marriage I love my space and my own company when my kids are not around. Am too busy couldn't fit anyone else in my schedule. I also don't like texting, talking on the phone etc

Single for over 13 years. I love it. I secretly feel pity for my coupled-up friends - which is quite funny, because I suspect they pity me and worry I am lonely. Whereas I really enjoy my own company and love being alone, even though I like socialising and being around other people.

I actually enjoy dating - but I have no intention of being in a relationship, so I generally don't do it, as it isn't fair.

Single for 11 years now, very content and independent. I have found myself thinking it would be nice to have a little sparkle and romance in my life though recently. I’m not sure I want it enough to give up my freedom and independence though.

Sometimes I think I could do with a bit more companionship, but as I don't want sex or romance, and I definitely don't want to share my living space, I think Ive ruled myself out! More seriously, I don't think Im good at relationships, and I've been through enough, as have my kids.

All of this!

100% I have figured out that I just don't have the capacity to give a relationship the energy, attention and effort it needs. There is no 'perfect' man that could persuade me otherwise. I listen to my colleagues talk about their OH and I just know I could not be arsed with it. I sometimes think there must be something wrong with me but having done 2 failed marriages over the past 25 years I know I will not go down that oath again, so at 48 that is it for me I am looking forward to the rest of my life doing exactly what I please.

Yes, I'm happier single than being in a relationship. However that doesn't mean I'm happy, if you see what I mean. Life has been shit recently, but that's unrelated to my relationship status.

No. Miserable. But then again I’m struggling with my mental health and I’m caught between thinking no one would want me and realising that actually no one I would want would want me…

I’m not a catch but also v picky 😂

Happily single for the last two decades! There is nothing positive that a relationship could bring to me, and there are very many negatives one could bring.

I am financially secure and independent, I don’t depend upon anyone and I have nobody depending on me. My free time is my own.
I have a few men friends for sexual reasons but they’re very much FWBs and know that’s all they will ever be.

Nope, thoroughly lonely and miserable.

I'm single for 10 years now and could never been in another relationship. I'm too selfish now 😄. I am too used to doing what I want, when I want and I admit to not being flexible in that. So I know even if the perfect man fell out of the sky, it wouldn't work.

I'm 99% happy. Only 1% not today was a bit tough as I'm a fairly new empty nester and I'm missing my DC a lot today. I don't even think a man could fill that void I have at the moment.