Do you let your Yr 11 son keep phone overnight in bedroom?

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We never have. He's always complied until tonight when he's had a mini strop. Said he's the 'only yr 11 who has to leave his phone downstairs'. I obviously don't believe that but said I take on board his opinion and will think about it. I also said once he's left school and in college that's up to him. At the moment on school nights he has to leave his phone at 10pm. Weekends and school hols he has it. He says he always goes to sleep then around 11.30 - 12 but I have no way of knowing as I'm asleep. Aibu?

Phones out of rooms. We made it a family rule so husband and I are the same. Waaay better for everyone.

I never took phones off my dc. They went to sleep when they were tired.

Y11 DD had hers, but she was very good at self-regulating. Y11 DS doesn't have his on weekdays, but does at weekends/hols...he hasn't asked for it...yet! But he'd be much more likely to stay awake til all hours, so the answer will be no if he does ask.

no rule here. DS2 who is in yr 11 has never taken his phone up, but will take his iPad and sleeps when he is ready. I do try to get him upstairs by 10.30 though.

DS1 is 20 and took his phone up. Again no rules, just needed to be up in the morning for school

Nope

Nope

We don’t allow it and don’t plan to for the foreseeable future. Frankly I kind of wish someone would take my phone off me at bedtime, I would probably sleep a lot better!

No, mine charges his phone downstairs. TBH he’s very sensible and good at self regulating so if he asked to take it to bed I would probably agree, but he doesn’t ask.

Year 11 so 15/16, not 11 years old!

Yes misread and have edited ;)

Children shouldn't be allowed to have a phone at any time. Let alone overnight.

Yes (he’s in 6th form now) but we’ve always let him have his phone overnight. If he stays up too late and is tired in the morning, tough shit he’s going to school/sixth form anyway. He learnt that the hard way and now he’s generally asleep by 11pm on weeknights

Phone is blocked from 8pm so not an issue being in DS room. I find it easier than dealing with the nightly sulks about handing it over.

Nope. I have two year 11s. No phones upstairs overnight is standard amongst their friends too.

DD year 10 and 14 years old has always had her phone in her bedroom to charge as she uses it as an alarm. Always on silent from 10pm until 7am. She leaves it face down so the notifications are dark.
It’s more likely to be one of my work colleagues sharing a starry fell walk or glorious sunrise that wakes us…

10pm phone left on the landing. Helps establish good habits.

My son had joint custody of my grandson, who is now an adult but whilst he was in school at his dad’s house the phone stayed in the lounge at night. In his mum’s house he was allowed to keep his phone all night. He just adjusted and automatically just put his phone on charge in the lounge at my sons house without being told. He got a lot more sleep when staying at his dad’s. My son carried on with this ( obviously on school nights) until my grandson left school.

I think at 16 he needs to start being allowed to learn to manage these things himself. He might sit up on his phone until 4am sometimes, but then he’ll regret it and learn from his mistakes. You need to start preparing him for adulthood.

I grew up in the pre-phone era but I had one friend whose parents were still policing her bedtimes, wouldn’t let her have a TV in her room, wouldn’t let her use her Walkman in bed (showing my age there) etc when she was Y11 age and she massively struggled to adapt when she went to uni as a result.

I think yr11 is probably a good age to start managing his phone time for himself. At some point you have to let them take responsibility for their own time. As long as he's getting up for school and getting his homework done etc, not seeming tired and grumpy.

No. It's put in a different room .

My yr 13 still has to leave his phone outside his room! But he understands why and knows it helps him while he focus on A levels. He gets easily drawn in and ends up wasting too much time on his phone.
Everyone is better off restricting phone use.

I have a y10 and a y12. Phones aren't allowed in rooms in general, definitely not overnight, and downtime switches on automatically at 8.30 anyway. (We'd change this for the y12 but she likes it how it is.)

Phone and laptops out of rooms until they’re 18.

My son is Year 12 and we've always made him leave his phone downstairs to charge overnight. When he started sixth form earlier this month, he asked when he'd be allowed it in his room - I said I'd have to give it some thought. He said not to bother as he doesn't want it in his room anyway, he likes it being downstairs so he's not tempted - he was just asking out of interest to see what I'd say 😂

A 16 year old? Behave 😂