AIBU to think my American neighbour is taking this too far?

[MelaniaLovesLemon]

She’s already invited us to Thanksgiving (yes, in September) and has given me a little to-do list...
Bring a casserole, make miniature turkeys out of whole walnuts(?), and have something prepared to say about what we’re thankful for, and I need to bring my own chair. She’s quirky, loud and brash with a weird husband, and has a habit of turning up unannounced with crazy schemes.

Recently she came for an aperitif in our cute garden, and practically inhaled the entire tin of prawn cocktail Pringles that I was saving for my DS and then simply helped herself to another glass of wine without asking, apparently she wants that wine for the dinner?

Another time she invited me round at 9am to taste test three different types of stuffing, for the Thanksgiving. I could not possibly eat all that at 9am!

I don’t know if I’m being rude thinking this is all a bit much?

What's the difference between 'talking down' and damning with faint praise, I wonder.

@Wallaw1
The chef in the video tells you how much water to add to the pot well after the brine is boiled. It's not much water - maybe a quart, iirc. The idea is that it's a concentrated brine that is then diluted and cooled by the addition of lots of ice. I used a humongous ziplock 'Big Bag' storage bag (2' x 1'8") inside a large mop bucket to hold the bird plus brine overnight.