Our son is 9, and cognitively 2.5 years old. He still isn’t toilet trained, has very limited vocabulary and even less understanding.
He sleeps for around 3-4hrs a night, and has huge emotional difficulties that can regularly lead to meltdowns that involve biting, kicking and hitting out at us.
He’s also hilarious, and very caring, and has the biggest smile that he reserves for his most special people. He tries really hard to play with other kids, even if he can’t speak to them, and finds absolute joy in everyday things like spoons.
He is complex, his needs are high, but he is who he is and we love him for it all. Warts and all.
He has exactly the kind of needs people on this thread would say cost a fortune in funding, and would require a cure because of the level of demand on caregivers and probably society.
I still cannot understand anyone who would change their children, or condone someone trying to make sure people like him don’t exist in whatever form they exist in.