To feel humiliated meeting DP’s best friend for the first time?

[Masiemaise]

I have been with DP for nearly a year but only
met his best friend (and his wife) for the first time last night, as they live a few hours away and had a baby around the time I met DP so haven’t been free to meet up.

We went to a restaurant followed by a couple of bars in the city they are from, so were all a bit tipsy. DP’s friends wife works in the NHS and was talking about some of the strangest things she has seen.

She mentioned people turning up at A&E with items lodged in their bum. DP’s friend commented along the lines of he doesn’t know what would posses anyone to do that sort of thing.

DP then turned to me and said ‘you should see what she’s like when she gets home from bottomless brunch with her friends’ and burst out laughing.

I pulled him up on it last night and again today but he doesn’t see the issue. He has given a half apology but said he was joking and didn’t mean anything by it, and his friend/wife will know it was a joke.

Am I being a bit OTT with my reaction? It felt so unnecessary

God, people have lost their sense of humour these days.
it was a joke. You know, no harm meant just light hearted fun

Oh lighten up. Why “humiliated”? My DP has only 3 fingers on one hand because of an accident and if anyone asks about it when I am there he makes a joke about it still working with my clit.

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I'm sure he is delighted to be 'pulled up on it' not once but twice, at the last count. Who made you the arbiter of adults' conversations?

Oh yeah, that's absolutely right. Women have been told this for decades. If you don't laugh at the bloke's crude comments then you're obviously frigid and probably a lesbian. Either way you're a humourless bitch. C'mon girls, lighten up and indulge those poor menz.

wow you must be a laugh a minute, bet they're glad they made the effort.

Am I missing something? Unless you have massively misunderstood the meaning of bottomless brunch, and do in fact stagger home with a cocktail umbrella and flute of mimosa lodged up your rectum, he was basically saying that you're a bit tipsy after going to one? Which is surely the whole point of bottomless brunch? It would be weirder if you came back completely sober, as it would suggest that you drink so much normally that two hours of cocktails didn't affect you at all.

Seriously, where's the insult/humiliation? If you reacted to this mild joke with anything other than an eye roll or laugh then as the friends I'd be judging you, not him.

I can't see a problem. Just an off the cuff remark with no malice behind it.
Lighten up

Stop 🤣🤣🤣

I have a good sense of humour so wouldn’t bother me and I’d have likely responded with something that embarrassed him more I.e.. yes when I’ve had a few I look for anything I can find to put up your bum don’t I darling.

He might have just meant it as a silly comment but I think it's ok to be annoyed by sexualised jokes where you are the punchline.

He really hit rock bottom with that comment OP.

Do you always take things so literally and seriously?

😬 Bit of an over share.

Doesn't look like you have a sense of humour..all would have laughed and moved on in our group

I would have countered that with something about …you should see the state of him after a night out though .. then proceeded to tell his worst drunk/ sick / hangover story — keep the banter going

Humiliated?? Get a grip - it was a drunken joke. Who cares!

Would have laughed myself. It's a non starter. Lighten up.

I'm a bit wary of men who find it so easy to make their partner the butt of the joke.
Women are always then told to lighten up and not be so sensitive.
OP was meeting these people for the first time, and what she gets up to with her friends is not for him to mock her with.
His half arsed apology wouldn't impress me either.
OP, he sounds like a bit of a twat to be honest.

I read it as a joke that you are “bottomless” when you come back from the “bottomless brunch”, as in you have no bottom - rather than stuff things up it.
Harmless joke

This

I’m sure they didn't go away thinking you and your dp have a fetish for inserting objects into bum holes OP. I would have actually laughed this off, but I guess a year isn’t long to be learning about each others boundaries. Sounds like your DP will now know you didn’t like his attempt at humour, so will know for future meet-ups.

😂😂😂😂😂

😄😄 I thought the same. Now that would make me cringe if brought up in conversation with people I was meeting for the first time….

I wouldn't be with someone who thought saying that was appropriate or funny.

So he's effectively talking about/hinting at your sex life?

No I wouldn't like that either.