Holiday friendships fizzled out

[PerkyOchrePeer]

To cut long story short. I was introduced to someone. Seemed nice. Was from abroad. Went on holiday to ger country and net up and had a good time. She has come to my country to see someone. Not asked to meet me. We just happened to rock up at the same function and she hardly spoke to ne Theb she left to go on somewhere else and didn't even say goodbye. Just walked out. How rude

So a friend of a friend who you've met a handful of times didnt make plans with you while in thecountry?

You again, OP? You really need to get past this. She was just being nice to you when you were in her country for the sake of a mutual friend. She went to a lot of trouble to make sure you had a good time. But you aren’t fruends. Let it go?

So a person you don’t like really, but who’s been nice to you as a favour to a shared friend of yours, who doesn’t want to be friends with you probably because you spent page after page cunting her off online isn’t nice to you at all party. Big deal, grow up.

Noooo! Can't be same poster?! Still banging on??

Uh-oh, I remember that thread and you are absolutely right.

Again? You’re still going on about this woman?

I’m beginning to think she should be concerned because you are obsessed. She was polite to you and showed you around a bit because she was being nice. She wasn’t making a friend, she was just doing a nice thing to help someone out.

She is not your friend. What is wrong with you?

Is this the same one as before? Still posting about the poor unfortunate who seems lucky to have escaped with her life?

Is getting very obsessive. Frighteningly so.

Have you ever thought of having therapy @PerkyOchrePeer ?

It’s just that your repeated threads about this women are showing that she occupies a lot of your thoughts, and you’re getting really quite enraged over behaviour which we have all told you over and over is very normal. This woman has acted completely normally. But you seem obsessed over it.

It looks worrying from here. You should consider talking to someone who can help you see that this person has not wronged you, owes you nothing and does not want to be your friend.

Oh I recognise you too Op, at one point she was so nice to you that she thought she fancied you.
I think perhaps your feelings for this woman are stronger than you realise. You seem very preoccupied with her and are taking a lot of easily explained behaviour very personally. Would it be possible to have a few sessions with a counsellor and see if you can unpick what you feel so strongly?

It doesn't sound like it 'fizzled out' it sounds like she made it very clear she didn't want anything to do with you. Leave it alone and move on.

I don't recall other threads, so can't comment on those. However, on the basis of what the OP has put here, it seems this person is a friend of someone else you both know. The friend introduced you, to this person and when you visited her country, she was kind enough to meet up with you. However, she's come to the UK to meet another friend, and you happened to be at the same function. You are annoyed this person didn't ask to meet up with you whilst here in the UK and the fact she left without saying goodbye. Looking at this from an outside point of view, I can say that this person isn't a friend, she's an acquaintance. You've met her a handful of times and you don't really know her. She was happy to meet up when you visited her country, because she was being nice. However, she clearly doesn't see you as a friend, and it's fairly obvious that she has no intention of wanting any further contact with you. You have read way too much into these few encounters you've had with her. Move on.

I can kinda see why now tbf

She doesn't want to be your friend.

If I decide not to have anything more to do with someone, I tell them straight. I say something like I think we should stop contact and then I block them from wassap.i am a direct person

Omg is it the same poster?

Maybe you are too direct for her?

Why can’t you let her go? What hold does she have over you?

But she is not you, OP. She almost certainly has no idea you are (a) still obsessing about her and (b) inexplicably furious with her.

As far as she’s concerned, she did you a favour some time ago for the sake of a mutual friend by showing you around when you visited her country.

From what I remember of your previous threads (and I didn’t look them up, I just remember them because they were so odd and angry), you saw this as an indication of commitment to friendship and got cross when she didn’t get the memo.

This is the one who made a pass at you right? You thought she might have been a gay woman? I think you're more intrigued than you're prepared to let on.

She's someone you met up with not a friend. You are too invested in this. It's a casual friendship that's all

This again?

Oh God, not again. Just leave it. She (possibly understandibly) doesn't want to pursue a friendship. No amount of MN threads is going to change that.

I thought it was more op believed the woman had a thing for her, adamantly negated this, but was furious when in fact the woman was actually disinterested?

Quite possibly @TallulahLikesHoola . I can't remember the full details and I am fairly sure OP was posting under another name at the time. It was all very odd though.

Why have you posted about this again, did you not read any of the responses on your other thread