Holiday friendships fizzled out

[PerkyOchrePeer]

To cut long story short. I was introduced to someone. Seemed nice. Was from abroad. Went on holiday to ger country and net up and had a good time. She has come to my country to see someone. Not asked to meet me. We just happened to rock up at the same function and she hardly spoke to ne Theb she left to go on somewhere else and didn't even say goodbye. Just walked out. How rude

Good grief. No one needs to respond. We can go totally silent but you’ll still witter on.

Kindly - LET IT GO. For the love of the sweet Baby Jesus.

Most people with casual acquaintances would not be that direct/rude as it assumes that the other person has strong feelings that you need to reject. That assumption is presumably wrong

You do get a laugh on here at times like and wonder WTF is going on 😂😂

And if she decides not to have anything more to do with someone.... she ignores them LIKE SHE HAS TO YOU.

I remember the last thread as it was very odd.... but now OP you're appearing mentally unwell.

Do you not have much happiness in your life for this to be taking up so much of your headspace?

I couldn’t find any other post about this from the poster, could you please link for me?

Again??

It's under a different name and I'm not sure that's allowed?

That’s a very extreme reaction to a casual acquaintance. There’s no falling out, or disagreement, she’s just doesn’t ever think about you. You’re a friend of a friend who met up once, but you don’t cross her mind. At all. Why would she block you?

On your previous thread about this woman you ‘wondered if she was gay’ apparently. You’ve also posted more than once about being confused over your sexuality and being attracted to women although you’ve never had sex with one.

It doesn’t take a genius to work out what’s happened here. She doesn’t fancy you, OP. You need to forget this and move on. Stop obsessing.

Looking at your communication style in your other threads, I suspect perhaps she found you a bit difficult to talk to and lacking in manners.

You are an acquaintance to her and need to accept that.

Maybe she is less direct and expects people to read between the lines a bit.

Being direct and telling people straight to their faces is not always a virtue. It can be viewed as a little aggressive sometimes.

Anyway, I wouldn't dwell on it. You weren't really friends but just spent some time together once.

But you barely knew this woman, so surely you met her again in her country, you liked her but she didn’t like your company as much so didn’t arrange to meet you in yours. Just forget her. I’ve had friends come and go in my life and this is just OTT.

What you think is direct others may see as rude. Someone you havd met once or twice doesnt owe you an explanation why they don't want to pursue a friendship

Oh, I have no idea what username the old thread (or possibly threads) was under, I just recognised the situation — a friend of a friend she barely knew showed her around on holiday and, rather than being grateful, she was outraged that the woman wasn’t responding to her conversational gambits on WhatsApp after she’d gone home, and was fulminating about the unfortunate woman as if she’d ghosted her after years of friendship.

And yes, she appeared to think this woman had made a pass at her, unless I hallucinated that part.

I just remember it because it was so odd. Everyone said the OP was being unreasonable, and she just didn’t take it on board at all and kept pontificating about how people shouldn’t pretend to be your friend .

And the Divine Mary and the Donkey!

That is a very odd thing to do to every person who passes through your life. It’s you who is very odd, not her. She did a favour for a friend, was nice enough to you and has left it there. She doesn’t need to “break up with you.” It is very odd to tell people you want to stop contact and block them. It’s really just normal to stop chatting and move on from someone who was a passing acquaintance.

She is not the odd one here. You are behaving like someone obsessed.

What about Joseph?

The woman did not make a pass at her. After several posts where the OP got more and more irate at being told to stop being such a weirdo, she said something like, “I think she actually fancies me as she is gay but I’m not and I wouldn’t be interested in her anyway.”

The woman clearly did not fancy the OP. She showed her around as a favour for a mutual friend, said goodbye when OP was leaving and left it there. The OP has been clinging onto this “friendship” and cannot understand why this woman isn’t deeply invested.

They aren’t friends. That’s why.

You??
Again???
Surely this is just goady bollocks now???

But she would have to have been in contact with you in the first place, in order to stop contact! She didnt contact you when she was coming to your country. How much more direct do you want her to be about not wanting anything more to do with you?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5369411-crap-friend?page=1

One of the original threads. Gives a bit of context before anyone starts giving OP advice on reaching out to this woman.

It may come as news to you OP but not everyone is a cookie-cutter copy of you.

This woman handles things differently but she is still being clear - so clear everyone on this thread is clear. She isn't your friend. She never was your friend. She was a friend of a friend who extended some hospitality for the sake of your mutual friend.

She hasn't done anything wrong. She doesn't have to be your friend.

I remember that thread now, OP just rambled on about all sorts of things that were nothing to do with her original post, and kept going on about blokes she dated for some random reason.

Bully for you 🙄 she obviously didn't want anything to do with you and she doesn't owe you an explanation. The fact that you're still obsessing about this suggests that she took the right course of action. You come across as creepy and entitled.