AIBU to not want to decide what’s for sodding dinner?

[MellowPinkDeer]

By far, the worst bit of being an adult is decided what’s for dinner. Ask the kids ‘ I don’t mind’ when they do, because they are pretty fussy. Ask DH he ‘isn’t bothered’ but of course SOMEONE has to be bothered or no one is eating anything??

I’m so over being the only person who has to think about this daily nonsense - are these responses from others just purely laziness?

AIBU to just serve up toast every night?!

haha! Story of my life but honestly my partner does not mind whatsoever. He is not that foodie so he never craves anything. I am the opposite! As for the kids, I stopped asking cause pasta is the only answer I get 😂 What helped me is keep a rotating schedule.(i.e. Monday is fish, Tuesday meat, Wednesday pasta etc.)

I hate this too. DH will say “so what were you thinking of doing for dinner tonight?”. I tell him what I’ve planned/prepared and he’ll often say “really?”.
Drives me up the wall!

Currently deciding what to cook tonight-any ideas? 🤣

What a great idea!

I think in your shoes I would pick one meal and serve it every night for as long as it took for the rest of the household to decide that actually, they DO mind.

Yes but you’ve still got to choose what’s on the menu plan! Decision fatigue can be a right bore.

There are some good meals there. And a great variety of veg and fish and meat.

Ham and parsley sauce! that brings back memories.

The “what’s for dinner?” Question bugs me so much, more so from my husband than kids, I understand them asking me but having another adult asking all the time is like having an additional kid!

I did a 3 week weekday menu, it makes food shopping easier as well, chops & changes abit but takes weight off but still so boring

My mother also used to complain about it wishing there was a pill everyone could eat instead.

I agree - picking something the kids will like, something that will reheat well when dh is home late, enough veg/protein/omega3 … when I’d happily just eat vegetarian curry with naan or soup every night!

But I picked all the meals by myself this week, as none of the family had any inspiration to offer.

Today I decided to please myself - so it was slow cooked pork glazed with spiced pomegranate molasses gravy, new potatoes and steamed veg. I was expecting open rebellion but the entire family ate it. And dh said how nice it was to have some different flavours!

I absolutely understand. I’ve had 43 years of it and I’m fed up too. Started leaving it to DH a couple of evenings a week.
Have you tried something like Gusto? DH much prefers to have instructions to follow.

I've recently brought this up as a major resentment to DH, among other things. He's lazy & if he does do dinner, it's eating time before he looks around & said what he should cook. He's a massive eater so nothing is quick & simple. It has to be huge, protein heavy & filling.

I told him I've had enough of doing it all & not being able to have a career because I have to do drop off/pick ups & everything because he won't step up. His answer? 'I'm open to suggestions.'

Yep. Absolutely fed up. If I could, I'd leave. But I literally can't afford it.

YANBU - I enjoy cooking and DH does clean up - he also makes dinner suggestions

I give the “I don’t mind, you decide…”people either/or options.

“We can have either sausages or hamburgers tonight. Pick one and the other will be on Tuesday.”

Act like a gormless toddler, get treated like one.

My mum used to serve gammon with white sauce,

They are OK, I sometimes use them. They also have an Indian and a Caribbean menu. Link below for more ideas.

www.wolverhampton.gov.uk/sites/default/files/2022-09/meals-on-wheels-afro-caribbean-menu.pdf

https://www.wolverhampton.gov.uk/sites/default/files/2022-09/meals-on-wheels-asian-menu.pdf

We have a rota of meals - no thinking required, except occasionally swapping out something we're bored of. We use supermarket delivery, and some supermarkets will let you store multiple shopping lists, so we set up four different lists, and then add to those for store cupboard items which are running out. Now DD is at uni, we have different lists for term/holidays.

Oh yes, totally agree!

it’s not so bad w just DH as he’ll eat virtually anything so I just cook what I fancy.

When adult DC are around it’s harder.I’m on a limited diet anyway cos of health issues - DS quite likes my food, but DD is way more fussy in terms of types of cuisine so when we’re all together its a pain.
It’s always been a drag to decide though & I used to meal plan a bit but then I wouldn’t fancy what was in the plan, someone had already eaten pasta for lunch etc!!

in Covid it was ridiculous as everyone was obviously here for every meal and getting up at different times so the kitchen was always in use.