Husbands can’t clean kitchens

[dreamornot]

Me: Who used the last piece of kitchen roll without getting a new one out?

DH: smugly probably the person who cleaned the kitchen.

Me: Looks left at the unloaded dishwasher next to the dirty sink with a pile of stacked dirty kitchenware that doesn’t go through the dishwasher… Looks right at the saucepan with last night’s mashed potato in it sat on the stove …. Looks down at the dirty work surfaces that nobody has attempted to wipe.

In what world does this constitute a cleaned kitchen?

YABU- Husbands are excellent at cleaning kitchens, this is a clean kitchen
YANBU- Husbands live in an alternate universe where this is considered clean, but it isn’t.

Mine is pretty good at cleaning anything and everything. He cooks well too.

If you spend your Sunday going on Mumsnet telling people to leave their husbands with little to no information on a relationship.. you are the one with the problem and should pursue therapy. If you think other people doing this is normal/ok you also need therapy.

Show me where I called my husband useless? What a bizarre and weird take.

Op - I’m not the one who posted complaining about how useless my husband was, and then getting snippy with everyone agreeing that yes, he is useless, but no, other husbands aren’t like that.

?!? wtf? Your own opening post was literally a description of how useless your husband is?!? Your responses have been beyond strange.

You're the one moaning about how your husband can't clean a kitchen - of course that makes him useless.

My husband cooks basics meals, loads and switch the washing machine, clean the toilet and throws the bins out ...I do everything else. Tiny behind him, scrub the kitchen, put clean dishes away, hoover, dust and take the cobwebs down which are many here, not sure why

I am actually glad my husband does even this. Forgot to add, he likes sweeping the floor on his knees with these small brushes and dust pans. I just hoover the whole thing ..with the amount he does at least the place stays reasonably okeish ( he works from home, I work out of the home) and when I am at home, I do the finishing touches and the proper tidy and scrub

What you mean is YOUR husband can't clean they aren't all incompetent arseholes

I would have agreed when I was with my ex! Fortunately current DP is very house proud, has always been the cleaner tidier one in his previous relationships and is more than happy to tackle the majority of household jobs - I’m lucky to have him.

My 11 year old boy can clean a kitchen perfectly. Because my husband taught him how to and because we expect him to. Im sure your husband must have some redeeming features but weaponised incompetence is a real turn off for me.

Yabu. Sounds like you chose a dud.

Easy there, she’ll tell you to have a hot chocolate in a minute…

Yeah it drives me nuts that this is such a common female bonding topic of conversation, though it's not as pervasive or awful as diet culture/weight-loss bonding. And at least both warn me off the kind of people I don't really want as my friends.

I just don't really get the mental leap from "my husband is useless" to "all husbands are useless". Where is the logic? Where is the science? Where are the observational skills?

For the record DP is a much better cleaner than I am and substantially more house-proud.

That was specifically aimed at you, with your posts not only in this thread but in other threads too. I genuinely feel sorry for you and think you need some hot cocoa and a relax. Hope this helps .

Final results 68% YANBU suggests that the ones shouting the loudest about their perfect marriages and domesticated spouses are the minority.

Are you my SIL?