Husbands can’t clean kitchens

[dreamornot]

Me: Who used the last piece of kitchen roll without getting a new one out?

DH: smugly probably the person who cleaned the kitchen.

Me: Looks left at the unloaded dishwasher next to the dirty sink with a pile of stacked dirty kitchenware that doesn’t go through the dishwasher… Looks right at the saucepan with last night’s mashed potato in it sat on the stove …. Looks down at the dirty work surfaces that nobody has attempted to wipe.

In what world does this constitute a cleaned kitchen?

YABU- Husbands are excellent at cleaning kitchens, this is a clean kitchen
YANBU- Husbands live in an alternate universe where this is considered clean, but it isn’t.

Do you feel better after saying that?

I think you need a mug of hot chocolate and an early night luv.

Mine was amazing at it up to we became parents. It's like something just switched off and he always does a half job even when he thinks he's done it all. To be fair, parenting takes a lot of time in our house.

Mind does ours slightly less than adequately. I have trained myself to accept a slightly less than adequately cleaned kitchen as tolerable enough, because the alternative is me doing it, and I do not want to.

My husband does most of the cooking and kitchen cleaning. He actually doesn't get into the corners the way I would really or wipe the tiles etc as thoroughly but he leaves a reasonably hygienic kitchen and I come round every couple of days and do a deep wipe. I do most of the laundry but am a nightmare for not putting it away for ages so he comes after me tutting and puts away piles of laundry and does the ironing. I do more cleaning generally, he does more tidying generally. My point is regardless of how he is at the kitchen it should be roughly equal overall. I love to mean about my husband not wiping surfaces, he loves to moan that I'd happily live in odd socks.

Washing up and unloading the dishwasher isn’t cleaning the kitchen...

I deep clean the fridges and freezer every 6 months, whether they need it or not. Deep clean the oven if it’s looking a bit dirty or at least every 3 months. Empty the crumbs out of the toaster, descale the kettle, clean inside the microwave and sharpen all the knives every month. This kind of stuff makes a clean kitchen - wiping the surfaces is just something you do after you’ve cooked and eaten each night!

Simple rule: s/he who cooks, doesn't clean. Works for us.

Wouldn't work for me. I clean up as I go. Husband uses every pan and utensil.

I can’t cook, does that mean wives can’t cook?

My husband can and does clean a kitchen. Unfortunately this is literally the only room in the house he has ever cleaned or even tidied. This is because he does the cooking and hates to cook on an unclean surface.

So you only want responses from people in your situation then?

@CaptainMyCaptain tell me you don’t understand statistics, without telling me you don’t understand statistics.

You asked. People replied. You must have known YABU, because obviously some husbands can clean kitchens. There are many reasons for divorces. Not all of them result from unequal sharing of thr domestic load. Nobody is slating your relationship - just your husband's inability to clean the kitchen properly. If that's his only fault, you're lucky!

I’m currently upstairs sat in a big comfy chair with a drink and the cat on my knee, my husband is currently cleaning the kitchen. We don’t live together at the moment so it’s not even his kitchen!

He doesn’t want to and doesn’t have to as u’ll do it.

I'm intrigued by 'husbands'.

Do single men have kitchen cleaning skills that are lost upon marriage?

I don't understand why you think your husband is the same as everyone other man on the planet.

I don’t understand why you think the marriages of people on this thread are any different than the 42% that end in divorce.

Lol, OP you should know better than to start a thread on Mumsnet where everyone elses husband is absolutely perfect.

Has anyone said it's your fault for marrying him yet??

My DH cleans the kitchen far more often than I do

It's not a man problem, it's a YOUR husband problem

You shouldn’t have settled for a useless man. His fault he’s useless, your fault you married him.

I am sorry for you op that you are so unhappy in your marriage, that you need to hear from women who are equally unhappy. If you need that, and you can’t leave for whatever reason just start a thread saying ‘I am totally unhappy, but can’t leave for X reasons, please could I ask for solidarity from other women in similar situations.’ Rather than starting a thread with an incredibly sexist op detailing that people with penises are unable to clean, which is obviously nonsense, just to make yourself feel better. The 58% people who rather like their husbands, are bound to take offence.

Unless all those divorces are down to the husband not cleaning the kitchen properly that is irrelevant.

my husband does it better than me!!

Do people not realise that all this reductive guff about ‘Haha, men are rubbish at housework, they can’t clean, the useless fools’ is just propagating the sexist myth that housework is women’s work?

I don’t know why you think a) 42% equates to ‘all’ and b) that most people divorce over cleaning the kitchen, rather than the billion other reasons people split.