Husbands can’t clean kitchens

[dreamornot]

Me: Who used the last piece of kitchen roll without getting a new one out?

DH: smugly probably the person who cleaned the kitchen.

Me: Looks left at the unloaded dishwasher next to the dirty sink with a pile of stacked dirty kitchenware that doesn’t go through the dishwasher… Looks right at the saucepan with last night’s mashed potato in it sat on the stove …. Looks down at the dirty work surfaces that nobody has attempted to wipe.

In what world does this constitute a cleaned kitchen?

YABU- Husbands are excellent at cleaning kitchens, this is a clean kitchen
YANBU- Husbands live in an alternate universe where this is considered clean, but it isn’t.

I had one of the 'just leave everything, I'll clean it all up later' persuasion. Problem was that, for him, 'later' meant about six weeks. I would inevitably have to clean in the interrim, which would be met with 'Oh, but I was going to do it!'

Divorced.

I doubt many people divorce because their husband/wife can't clean a kitchen. My dad was a clean freak but a monumentally shit husband and father.

Sadly this is very true. My former partner told me after 10 years the reason he never did a single load of laundry was I didn't show him how to work the washing machine. He lived alone before we met and then admitted his mother did all the housework even when he lived alone. I truly believe men just can't do it and women are better off alone.

It is deeply sad for you if you have got to what sounds like at least 30 years on this planet without meeting a single decent man.

I have two sons, 10 and 12, they can use the washing machine, oven, tumble dryer, microwave, air fryer and kettle. They are pretty shit at using their laundry baskets, but I’ll work on that. They also know how to use a broom, vacuum and a mop.

they tell me they are expected to do a lot more than their friends, some don’t even make their own lunch box or do some washing up / load the dishwasher. My kids are not made to be slaves, but they are expected to be reponsibke and are learning to be independent. Their partners are not going to be their parents.

39 and yes sadly true. I truly believe not many men are who they say they are although it made me determined to raise my children differently and am pleased my own sons are more how some women describe their husbands to be even though they are young. My grandmother stayed single for 60 years when her husband died young and I have made the same decision to stay single. Reality can be hard sometimes.

Well obviously it’s not true of all men.
My husband can clean, but doesn’t do it often enough and when he does he expects a hat, a balloon, my gracious thanks and eternal gratitude (while giving me no recognition on all the other days that I do it).

Mines does a better job than me. I am a surface cleaner. He is a deep cleaner.
I do 4 rooms to his one but I know his has had a proper clean.

Mine cleans the kitchen every day. If he is out for the night and doesn’t have dinner with us I leave everything for him to do the next day.

But you were slating everyone else's!

My DH doesn't clean the kitchen to the level of a professional cleaner, but he does a much better job than your husband!

Has He become like this because:
1 He thinks it is your job
2 He is a dirty sl
3 He is not bright enough to work out

WTF is the matter with you?

What was the point of this thread?

If you're pissed off with your husband, do something about it

OP: my husband can't clean kitchens.... how useless is he?
Everyone else: we agree
OP: OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU THINK MY HUSBAND IS USELESS 😭 😭 😭

Hand him a laminated list and then he can see what constitutes a clean kitchen.

Although I'm the one who cleans generally, as my husband is chief cook in our house. When he does clean the kitchen. He definitely does do a better job than me.

Someone said LTB

It’s entirely up to you op whether you think this man is worth this.
as it is entirely up to others if they don’t.

I appreciate this TV reference!

My husband cleans the kitchen to his standards. I wash my cloths daily and the tea towel I think it’s rank to use the same one twice but that’s just me. He’ll leave the cloths soaking in bleach so the whole house smells like a hospital setting.

Oh I was married to him too (and happily
now divorced). He wondered why his fish died when I was away with work for a month: “Did you clean the tank? Even once?” Answer came there none, and I repeat, HIS fish.

My almost-ex husband cleans kitchens better than me. He has many failures but domestically he is rather good.

I’m fairly dreadful as it goes.

DP is pretty good at pitching in with keeping the house clean but he does this crazy thing in the kitchen…

He’ll wash up (and does it well) but instead of stacking it on the draining board or drying and putting it away, he’ll display it all on tea towels on the kitchen worktop. So despite the fact he’s wiped the worktops and washed up the kitchen will in fact look messier than before. I just don’t get it.

I think the point is that plenty of husbands can clean kitchens, your assertion that husbands are some kind of homogeneous mass was a bit weird.

Not sure why you're being salty about the fact your husband is lacking in an area that some other people's husbands aren't. I don't have one, so I can't vote 😂

Not trying to brag, but my DH is brilliant at cleaning the kitchen and always leaves it spotless after cooking unlike me.

Mine will fill the dishwasher, empty the bin, fold the washing (badly) but it never seems to occur to him that the hob & counter tops need wiping or that the floor is not self cleaning.

Similarly when he cleans the bathroom the floor, shower screen, mirror & window never get done.