to report every man who lies about his height on hinge

[PoliteEagle]

i've really had enough of it. Had another hinge date this week where the guy claimed to be 5'8. He was 5'5 at most, more towards 5'4. I reported his profile to hinge for lying about the height. How they expect to build a relationship on lie, I dont get it

For me - I don’t think any initial sexual attraction would last long if I didn’t find their personality and intellect attractive too. Intelligence is very important to me.

Yes but would you date without sexual attraction? When you sitting across a man at the table and notice that you don’t feel anything towards him and instead tempted to check out other men who are passing by? That’s what men achieve with their lies. Tricking a woman to a date with them and this is the result. And then they complain women are being shallow for having preferences.

I do have some sympathy with the guys who are short because isn't it true that online that makes a huge difference to your chances of a match? In real life you see the whole person, but online it's too easy to tick a box and say 'I want 6'5", blue eyes, trust fund'. Charlotte in SATC would never have picked Harry off a dating app.

So I can have sympathy but such a factual lie will get us off to a bad start. Photos are a tricky one because there is no one fact about how you look, whereas your height is your height. But yes, don't be ridiculous with photos either.

I had put 5'7" on my profile and genuinely believed myself to be this height for years, my now DP had put 5'9" it turns out that I am actually 5'6" and he is 5'10" so this worked out quite nicely!

I just got into the habit of expecting them to be about 2inches shorter than they stated! It’s a bit of a running joke amongst my friends…

Yeah, honesty, and feeling secure in ourselves is preferable. There is quite often an aspirational version of self portrayed in profiles, it takes time to realise what is actually real and what is not.

Methinks thou dost protest too much!
Are you a short man who lies about his height!
Go ahead and report, OP.

I think sometimes they might actually just not know. My DH is well over 6ft, I asked him how tall he was and he said "I think about 5ft 10" 🤦. I asked him if he honestly thought there was only a 4" difference between us and he just laughed (he can rest his head on the top of mine for reference).

Men don't tend to go to the drs etc like women do, they probably ask someone else who is around the same height as them and just go by that.

Well I don't like tall men and my limit is 5'9 (I'm 5'6). I filter by height on dating apps and I would be really pissed off if it turned out the guy was taller than he said. I wouldn't report it though.

Who are you, the date police?

It’s none of your beeswax who or what people fancy.
I’m with OP, short men who lie about their height should be reported, along with all the other liars 😆

Men don’t get castigated for fancying busty blondes so why should women be castigated for fancying tall men.

Too many short angry men on this thread, lol.

I always feel the need to comment these days as I don't want the conversation to be one-sided on these threads about how women who only like tall men are shallow.
I don't want my teenage daughter to just hear that message with no rebuttal from women saying that it's actually ok for women to only go for who they are attracted to.

A few years ago on threads like these women would barely defend themselves even though we shouldn't have needed to anyway, now women are speaking up, if you find it so boring then maybe don't read the threads.

Could you be any more hypocritical?

I take what has been said on line with a pinch of salt and see how things do when we meet that includes photos as often old photos

Or I did until I found it all a waste of my time and demoralising

The dating apps won't kick them off anyway as they want customers. They might block the reporter from the ones they report, which probably has already been done anyway.

Loads of people lie on dating sites. For men height and probably wealth job, for women age/weight and photos from years ago. If you kicked them all off then there would probably be 25% the people on there, and 25% the revenue for the site owners.

I think if you are a man you can lie about your height, because its an arms (legs :) ) race and a significant proportion lie so if you don't add a few inches then you are wasting money.

But I think given the strong female preference for men of greater height, if say a 5'5" guy adds say 2-3 inches which is entirely plausible for someone to carry off with big shoes and manage down over time in order to date more 5'2" women that is OK and as a strategy probably has a reasonable chance of success. But for a 5'5" guy to add 2-3 inches to hopefully date a 5'7" women that is a lot less likely to be worth the effort for either party.

1 inch is understandable but we are talking about men lying about 3-5'. Surely if you are 5'6 you cannot mistake yourself for 5'9-5'10...

That's great, but as humans we vary in what is important to us and what we find highly attractive.

For someone who values intelligence you don't seem to be engaging your brain here and you're showing no curiosity or critical thinking, you've just decided that one thing is shallow and the other isn't.

This exchange is getting a little heated so I was just trying to keep out of it while still reading it..

However, I want to pick up on this factual inaccuracy. I do have a 1st and PhD in mathematics, but it is a massive impediment to a successful career in a well paid job. I have openly admitted I am on a low wage in other threads.

For example, I would never be able to get a job in the Office of National Statistics. I have discussed in other threads how easy it is to 'falsify' inflation figures by mathematical trickery. A decent mathematician with a conscience is not going to go along with that trickery. If that person kicks up a fuss, he will quickly lose his job for 'any' other reason his employers invent. However, my experience is you are vetted before employment, at the interview stage. You will not believe the number of times I knew I was the most qualified candidate for a job, but lost out to people I knew were the least qualified.

You have to take on the morality of your employer. Sometimes, that morality is not, shall we say, optimal.

While I was still at university, I can remember a professor was fulfilling a government contract. It was good money for the university. However, from what I could overhear, he was being told his 'conclusions' were not what was required. He was an honest guy and was clearly cut-up about having to alter his real-conclusions to meet the conversely opposite desired result.

Yes if I found him physically attractive (assuming I have seen his profile on a dating app) and part of that physical attractiveness isn’t height based for me.

Makes no sense to me-you found him attractive enough from his photo to meet up with him in the first place. How does 3 inches change that?

Looking at a picture and seeing something appealing about a persons face doesn't equal sexual attraction.

we are not talking about money here but about intelligence which the poster equated to phd in her brother and his wife. So I asked her how her sister in law would feel when she came to a date expecting to meet a guy with phd and in reality turned up a guy who dropped out of high school. would she overlook her preference? I doubt so, but then she claims only other people preferences are irrelevant.

But, you (or someone) mentioned Uber drivers, but I cannot recall you mentioning drop-outs. I know people with science PhDs (including myself) who have taken low paid jobs because they cannot get graduate level jobs for a significant time.

Then maybe online dating isn't the right place to find a partner?

Sure but the same could be said for those who decide to lie on the app when online dating, maybe it's not the right place for them to find a partner.

You are cherry picking words. I think it was perfectly clear what I meant here

@kkloo if you met someone in real life you could measure him and make sure he meets your height requirements 😆

Not everyone knows their exact height. I can quite believe someone thinks they're 2 inches taller than they are-I only know my height because I used to always use one of those BMI machines where it tells you. And even then it varied by half an inch. I've probably shrunk even more since then, have no idea.

Look up any celeb and you'll find wildly different height estimates, even for women who have no reason to lie about it.