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Original poster

AIBU for taking being dumped like a champ?

127 replies

Cantgetausername87 · 19/09/2025 20:48

Posted here for traffic and maybe to get some support/ have a laugh and a bit of a chat.
Been seeing this guy for 6months ... seemed to be going well and then he hit me with "I'm just not emotionally invested anymore." It was a weekend thing but I was actually quite happy.
All I said back was OK you've made your mind up and it was nice to meet you, see you around!
Pretty gutted to be honest. AIBU to front it the fuck out, and avoid blocking him to just have an air of indifference, so as to not inflate his ego.
Seeing as it's literally outta the blue I can only imagine he's seeing someone else.
Wise mumsnetters what to do?!

OP posts:
SlashBeef · 19/09/2025 20:51

Yanbu I think it's perfect. Im sorry you're feeling crappy but it'll feel great when you're past this yucky bit and you know you didn't kick off or grovel or any of that stuff. Dignity fully intact. Onwards and upwards.

KilkennyCats · 19/09/2025 20:53

What to do?
Just move on, what else would you do?!

Thewalrusandthecarpenter · 19/09/2025 21:03

That sounds really horrible. Good for you for putting on a stoic front of indifference! Hope you’re ok and have friends you can vent to.

Brightbluesomething · 19/09/2025 22:32

Never let the buggers know they’ve got to you. Head high and keep moving forward.

LasVegass · 19/09/2025 22:35

I didn’t know people use “emotionally invested” in direct speech. Sorry he just sprung this on you.

Mrspatmoresapprentice · 19/09/2025 22:41

I think you did exactly the right thing. Poor little lamb was all ready to explain his lack of ‘emotional investment” (aka I want to shag someone else) and you just said fine, see ya! He will have been all ready for you to try and keep him so he won’t know what hit him 🤣🤣🤣
His ego will be bruised though so don’t let him in if/when he comes back.

ScurryfungeSpuddle · 19/09/2025 22:42

Ahh that sounds shit OP.

You're well rid.

Not that he did anything wrong in being honest, but you're well rid if that's how he felt.

Onwards and upwards!

Choconuts · 19/09/2025 22:46

Well played OP. This is the response people wish they’d sent

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Cantgetausername87 · 19/09/2025 23:08

Thank you everyone! I do feel quite proud and made the decision to block him. And given the sudden coldness an STI test is on its way!
Why do some men behave like that?! I was completely blindsided by it! And yes I do have friends to vent to in the real world, but do love a brutal MN perspective!

OP posts:
MoominMai · 19/09/2025 23:11

You handled that like a boss OP. Sorry you had to have it happen at all but he obviously wasn’t your person and on the bright side it wasn’t for a longer period that you were strung along.

PollyBell · 19/09/2025 23:13

Move on and not gove him another thought why would you want to do anything different?

BeefAndHorseradishSandwich · 19/09/2025 23:14

Sounds like you’ve dealt with it just fine, onwards and upwards.

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Cantgetausername87 · 19/09/2025 23:16

Thank you and obviously I'm going to move on! It's just so bloody embarrassing being dumped 😂 with the added pressure of SM now it's hard to know what to do. Do you stay friends with them? Or strike first and block them?! I went with strike first and block. Anyone got any good "being dumped" storied they'd like to share?!

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NoCommentingFromNowOn · 20/09/2025 02:02

Anyone got any good "being dumped" storied they'd like to share?!

Well the classic is Running in the rain, you know that one?

PollyBell · 20/09/2025 02:08

Cantgetausername87 · 19/09/2025 23:16

Thank you and obviously I'm going to move on! It's just so bloody embarrassing being dumped 😂 with the added pressure of SM now it's hard to know what to do. Do you stay friends with them? Or strike first and block them?! I went with strike first and block. Anyone got any good "being dumped" storied they'd like to share?!

I dont even see the need to block if a person has been dumped why would they contact the person they have dumped, I would just leave them to it and get on with my life this blocking thing used these days seems fine of you are 12 but why would a grown adult need to it?

IShouldNotCoco · 20/09/2025 02:15

PollyBell · 20/09/2025 02:08

I dont even see the need to block if a person has been dumped why would they contact the person they have dumped, I would just leave them to it and get on with my life this blocking thing used these days seems fine of you are 12 but why would a grown adult need to it?

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These kinds of men always come crawling back, that’s why. It’s often their MO.

PollyBell · 20/09/2025 02:18

IShouldNotCoco · 20/09/2025 02:15

These kinds of men always come crawling back, that’s why. It’s often their MO.

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I would just say i am not interested why would they need to be blocked?

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 20/09/2025 02:23

PollyBell · 20/09/2025 02:18

I would just say i am not interested why would they need to be blocked?

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Well if they contact you multiple times, which is not uncommon, you can’t just say ‘I’m not interested’ endlessly can you? Not everyone is easy to get rid of.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 20/09/2025 02:29

@Cantgetausername87

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/3800477-Dumped-by-text?reply=105242630&flipped=1

Purpleharlow · 20/09/2025 02:30

Cantgetausername87 · 19/09/2025 23:16

Thank you and obviously I'm going to move on! It's just so bloody embarrassing being dumped 😂 with the added pressure of SM now it's hard to know what to do. Do you stay friends with them? Or strike first and block them?! I went with strike first and block. Anyone got any good "being dumped" storied they'd like to share?!

Eh? I thought you were taking the high road and not blocking?

BashfulClam · 20/09/2025 02:34

I lost my dignity once and once only. After that even if I was breaking inside I would shrug and say ’oh well your loss! Stay safe’ then go home and cry.

it used to throw some of them right off.

MultipleChoice · 20/09/2025 02:44

KilkennyCats · 19/09/2025 20:53

What to do?
Just move on, what else would you do?!

She’s here for a bit of commiseration, it’s clear she knows how to move on.

OP - you’re handling it perfectly but sorry it happened, that must feel shitty.

MultipleChoice · 20/09/2025 02:46

PollyBell · 20/09/2025 02:08

I dont even see the need to block if a person has been dumped why would they contact the person they have dumped, I would just leave them to it and get on with my life this blocking thing used these days seems fine of you are 12 but why would a grown adult need to it?

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Because men like him often come crawling back later and who needs to waste their time seeing that? No need to suggest OP is being childish, she seems to be handling it pretty well to me. Also - she’s probably having a shitty day so, no need?

Francestein · 20/09/2025 02:54

You are not being unreasonable. Let’s be honest, his ego is going to take a big hit from this - especially if you move on quickly and are seen to be busy and happy without him. Guys like this can’t cope without thinking that they are the sun around which you orbit.

JustMyView13 · 20/09/2025 03:05

This is a solid approach, but personally I would still block him. Purely because there’ll be a day when you are (genuinely) indifferent about him, and he might decide to drop you a text which risks your happiness. I think maybe future you would probably be grateful if today you blocked him.