AIBU for taking being dumped like a champ?

[Cantgetausername87]

Posted here for traffic and maybe to get some support/ have a laugh and a bit of a chat.
Been seeing this guy for 6months ... seemed to be going well and then he hit me with "I'm just not emotionally invested anymore." It was a weekend thing but I was actually quite happy.
All I said back was OK you've made your mind up and it was nice to meet you, see you around!
Pretty gutted to be honest. AIBU to front it the fuck out, and avoid blocking him to just have an air of indifference, so as to not inflate his ego.
Seeing as it's literally outta the blue I can only imagine he's seeing someone else.
Wise mumsnetters what to do?!

Omg. You got some air max 90s out of dumping someone! That poor bloke, but also well played to you 😂x

'I'm emotionally invested anymore' You had a lucky escape if that's how he spoke in real life! What an utter knob twatty lines from Ai and social media can fuck right off.
Good for you OP with your nice response at least you sound human and it probably knocked him back expecting you to be teary and fall prostrate at his feet.

I think you dealt with this really well. Well done.

Well done OP. Perfectly handled.

I don't understand why one wouldn't block in this situation? I don't understand how it indicates caring more or immaturity or whatever PPs are trying to suggest. Blocking/deleting is a clean, definitive action. Control your own environment. Why not?!

I was dumped loads when I was younger. They would phone me to say they didn’t want to see me again, I would say “okay then!” Because what was I supped to do, cry and wail?

Hell would freeze over before I begged for anyones attention or affection.

I had a few who were absolutely enraged by that though. Demanding to know why I wasn’t upset. I’d just tell them, you want to break up. That’s okay, I’m not going to beg. and if I was feeling very honest, I’d tell them that I was having doubts too because of x reasons and they didn’t like that either.

Silly little fuckers wouldn’t accept that though, they really thought they were some sort of prize to be fought for and that I should be asking what I could do to keep them. Fuck that.

When I found out my ex husband was having an affair, I wished them well and said I hoped he would be happy with her. He went fucking mental.

This misses the point entirely. Nobody likes being dumped but OP has held her head high and acted with dignity. I’d be very proud if I was her!

To be fair- what consequences?

He split up with someone he wasn’t that in to. This is actually good news for OP. He could’ve strung her along for years.

what should he have done? Married her so as not to hurt her feelings.

Blocking shows that you’re hurting so much that you need to avoid all further contact.

Definitely never stay friends with an ex, always my number 1 rule.

It can give relief from subconsciously waiting for a message from them. It reinforces your mental clarity on the fact it's over and allows you to move on.

I've done that before and it took me years to get over it. My relationship had been longer and he didn't care I never begged him or showed that I was hurt.

Looking back, I wish I allowed myself to be more vulnerable and properly grieve. I learned not do it again and instead, process every emotion including rejection and heartbreak. That's just my experience though!

Ha ha thanks!! I didn't request them btw!!

It’s not condescending. It’s a valid point.

we can all be suspicious of his motives, but he has been reasonable. Whatever the reasons, he just didn’t want to go out with OP.

he was perfectly polite. Why would you block?

just ignore his texts if you don’t want to speak to him again, but I think it looks petty to block people.

When I got dumped, I found a podcast that helped me loads. It was called "How to get over your ex" by Break up coach Dorothy. I started at the beginning and started every morning with an ep - it was life changing! Hope it can help others going through similar :)

At the risk of coming across as a bit obtuse, I really don't understand the problem!

Man and woman date for a few months on a fairly casual, weekend only basis (not casual as in not respectful but as in not really working towards progressing it.)

Man ends it in a respectful way using language like "not emotionally invested", (which is a completely normal turn of phrase anyway) when it can be hard to find the right words to end a relationship if the other person hasn't done anything wrong you're just not feeling it anymore.

Woman responds appropriately, reasonably and normally.

It's not a nice thing to happen but I can't see how this is particularly noteworthy.

I can understand the OP being a bit upset but
some of the responses are

Why do some men behave like that?! really?! All he's done is end a 6 month relationship.

This happened to me once, a total whirlwind and then nothing. I never blocked him, I just deleted his number , kept my dignity and moved on.

Yeah I was worried and aware it could be seen as caring enough/ being distraught enough to not bare the thought of seeing him again. But it does relieve anxiety of waiting/ expecting him to message or call.
Also there's nothing cringier than bounce back photos on FB. You know, the immediate girls night out and getting dressed up/ revenge photos.
If he's even bothered enough to guess (I doubt it) he may think it's because I'm upset. But he'll never really know will he? I'm unlikely to cross paths with him again anyway so that would be the only access to me x

Consequences for not feeling it? It’s only been 6 months a weekend thing you said. Would you have stayed with him after such a short time if you weren’t feeling it?

This.

Really, it's completely normal, healthy and right for short lived relationships to end if they're not right for one person.

What 'consequences' should there be?

I mean, she compared her to a 12 year old - so yeah, condescending.

Fair. If not noteworthy why respond? I'm sorry you don't like how some of my responses are - I was hoping it came across as quite lighthearted and with perspective. I don't think I've mentioned being devastated just a bit gutted/ embarrassed, and getting a general consensus on blocking/ social media etiquette along with other stories 😁

Keep him blocked too. If he thinks you've taken it too well, he may try and come back again wanting to be a shag buddy because he thinks there's no hard feelings. There's a lot to be said for going psycho and completely burning your bridges, it guarantees the little fuckboy won't reappear...... (half joking there!)🤣🤣

If you don’t block him, be prepared for the “how are you?” message in 6-10 months time when he’s feeling a bit lonely.

The 100%

Well done you!

Never stay friends with knobs. And anyone who says ‘I'm just not emotionally invested anymore” as a break up line is a knob.

He will want to stay friends and be on your social media to check up on you, don’t give him the satisfaction.

Block and delete everywhere.