Kindly, Gently...

[MasterBeth]

Am I Being Unreasonable to think that writing Kindly or Gently at the beginning of a post is a pointless, performative piece of nonsense.

We'll decide if what you say is kind or gentle, thank-you very much.

kindly, have you considered anger management?

Thank you for your kind suggestion.

Unfortunately I received a gentle reminder that people who wish to enforce blunt objects on people's heads are not the audience that anger mgt. groups wish to attract and they'd kindly request that I do not attend.

To you it does but others have explained that to them, who may misunderstand tone, that is helps.

Why does your "I dont like it" matter more than their "I find it helpful"?

It absolutely does.

It also makes me think the writer has very poor writing skills and is a poor communicator.

I have NEVER received an email from a man with the words 'gentle reminder'.

I am offering my opinion which you are free to take or leave as you wish. I have offered no opinion on what matters more.

I imagine kindly or gently typed with the poster's head tilted in that voice children's TV presenters used or the teacher at school has to use for that one child they have to sugar coat to their parents on parents evening

I really don't. Because I am very happy standing up to a bully. But PA is like punching smoke.

Thank you, OP. It’s becoming a ‘thing’ on here (often in Relationships were it’s clear from the get-go that the OP is an absolute doormat) and it fucking annoys me.

What I find funny is 'Polite Notice'!

But you have offered your opinion in such a way as to try and shame others into not using it anymore.

And, to forestall your response, you really have.

Your language is deliberately belittling and shaming. In fact I would suggest that you are prompting others to also belittle and shame, it all a bit mean and bitchy.

YANBU. It’s all “Kindly, you are as thick as cement pudding and shouldn’t be allowed out of the house”.

Why they think putting “kindly” at the beginning makes any difference is a mystery to me.

People are free to use it if they want, sounds very patronising to me but maybe people need to grow a backbone and stop endlessly feeling judged if i want to say it i will nothing other people can say will stop that

People can have any opinion they want it shouldn't stop people using it

Why does it matter that men never use it? Perhaps they should use it more.

What's the difference in a reminder or a gentle reminder?

I stand up to bullies too. Hence this post. No one is going to bully me about the language I use - especially if I use particular phrases to express my awareness of how language can sometimes be harmful and is also easily misconstrued as such - especially online.

Or everyone should use it less?

With respect, you sound somewhat unhinged.

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I can see from this post that your preference is for an unnecessary wordy writing style so it is unsurprising that you use gentle and kindly too.

Oh no, not wordy!

Is this an example of the emails you send at work?

Noted

I’m a bully?

It's so annoying, particularly when it's a previx to a vitriolic dressing down of the OP.

I'm not exactly young and I would like to kindly and gently point out that it comes across as patronising.

@Gonners summed it up in If someone says to me "Would you kindly do X", instead of (for example) "Could you please do X", my hackles rise. I am also old, and it's something that has provoked that response for more than 50 years! In my professional life, I would never, ever have said or written it.

As for the 'gentle reminder', it is just a reminder.

I hate extra words like 'Please be advised that' or 'Please be aware that'. I'm bored already, just tell me.

YANBU OP

And to those who say it, Kindly Gently Fuck Off !