To ask my dad to pay for my wedding dress?

[LoveMyGirls]

I have found the cheapest/ most beautiful dress it's half price (£450 instead of £900) my dad wants me to find cheaper/ hire one.

I have tried everywhere I can think of, not many places hire and if they do it costs more to hire than to buy the one I want.

He hasn't said he won't pay for it but how unreasonable am I being if I insist I want this dress? Should I pay for it myself? (I'm far from rich, I've been with my dp for nearly 7 yrs and he has finally asked me!)

I even went to oxfam today and not only are some of them hideous but they aren't that cheap (£150 - £350) and would need alterations and cleaning.

AIBU?

can he pay some adn you pay the rest?

Split the cost - ask your Dad what he thinks is reasonable and then you pay the rest.

Suggest going halves with your dad.

Can your dad afford it?

[smile[ Poppy

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask him to pay, if he has offered.

It's unreasonable to expect him to pay.

Perhaps he could just donate a sum to be spent as you wish, if he would like?

I think you should ask him how much he would like to contribute and you pay the balance.

My parents paid for my wedding and I chose the cheapest dress I could find £160 from Laura Ashley .

£450 is reasonable for a wedding dress, when you think that a lot of brides pay about £2000 for theirs nowadays. Mine was £500 off the rail iirc.

It does sound like he didn't have a clue about the cost of wedding dresses when he offered to pay. 450 pounds seems reasonable compared to what my friends have paid.

Actually, I think mine was reduced to about £200 from £500

He's got quite a good job I think he can afford it, he's certainly not as skint as I am.

I think you should pay for it yourself. I don't really understand why grown women suddenly expect their parents to give them money just because they are getting married.

I think it depends.

If your dad can afford this without having to go without something he would ordinarily have, then I think if I were him, I would get it for you.

If he is going to have to make sacrifices/take on some debt in order to get you the dress, then no, he shouldn't get it for you.

and would echo what others say .. 450 not that much for a wedding dress

Is he paying for anything else?

Have you checked on Ebay or googled the designer. Sometimes you can get the same dress at a much reduced price.

Agree £450 isn't much for a wedding dress, but it is a lot for a dress that you are only going to wear for one day and clearly your father had absolutely no idea how much it would cost.
Would your father pay for half of it ?

Why on earth should you dad pay for any of it? What century are we in?????

It's your wedding and you should have the dress you love.

Ask dad for maximum he can pay, then put in whatever you can, get the rest from DP.

Alternatively... Have you considered making it a 'wedding list' thing? Tell your friends they can go to that store and pay whatever they can as a wedding gift to you. I've seen people pay for many expensive things (ex: honeymoon) this way. You should be able to pay for your wedding dress.

I paid for my wedding myself ( with dh of course) as I had left home and bought my own home years before.

THW - I've looked and the only one I saw that was nice but still not what I need is ok for £110 but if I wore it, it wouldn't be the dress of my dreams it would just be a white evening dress.
Stupidly I got a tattoo when I was 16 and now I need a dress that will cover it and evening dress's won't do that.

I thought it was the eighteenth century seeker! Am I wrong?

Well done you for finding a lovely dress for £450 - that's very reasonable.

Your dad sounds a bit old-fashioned if you don't mind my saying so.

If he can't afford it, ask him to give you what he can afford and you pay the rest.

It's not worth arguing over. There's still plenty of time left for wedding punch-ups, you havn't done the seating plan yet

Often parents want to stick to tradition and actually pay for their daughter's wedding.