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What would be the one thing that put you off hiring someone?

449 replies

greyrabbits · 17/09/2025 14:26

Of all the things that would put you off giving someone a job, what’s the one thing that’s a definite no thanks.

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Supersimkin7 · 19/09/2025 09:59

Whiffy.

DramaLlamacchiato · 19/09/2025 10:01

pollymere · 19/09/2025 09:52

I think you'd find that "gender" comes under "sex" and "gender reassignment". You are not allowed to discriminate based on someone's gender when assessing them for a job.

Does it though? We are always told “gender” and “sex” are different. Saying that it is unlawful to discriminate against someone because of their “gender” is simply meaningless.

Case in point about employing NB people I read about yesterday- only free article I could see was a DM link but the claimant name is Saini if anyone wants to look it up. Who would honestly want to take on someone like that.

angela1952 · 19/09/2025 10:03

Once had an interviewee who arrived coked out of his head and flying. He didn't get the job, though he probably wouldn't have been any worse than the only other interviewee who turned up. She lied on her CV and was the most unhelpful person that we ever employed.

Gottonsomedraws · 19/09/2025 10:12

pollymere · 19/09/2025 09:52

I think you'd find that "gender" comes under "sex" and "gender reassignment". You are not allowed to discriminate based on someone's gender when assessing them for a job.

No, gender does not ‘come under sex and gender reassignment’. Sex is a biological fact and gender is not.

anon666 · 19/09/2025 10:31
  1. Lying.
  2. Putting a load of equality and diversity legislation upfront on the job application in the "please outline your suitability for this job" This happens in the NHS a lot, mainly woth people seeking work permits. It's always scripted and irrelevant to the job. I think they may have come across a statement bank online or something, trying to tick boxes. But it just comes across as a warning or a potential tribunal in the making."

Its not leaving a good impression of someone's suitability for the actual role. 🤔

DiscontentedPig · 19/09/2025 10:38

If it looks like I would have to spend significant time defending against their political manoeuvres then that's a hard no. They can go and work for one of the big banks, they'll fit right in.

Lengokengo · 19/09/2025 11:16

i interviewed a guy once who kept trotting out the same phrase all the time. (‘It’s all about heart and minds.’)he probably said it about 20 times in a 30 minute interview. It was probably a verbal tick, or he was nervous, but it was irrelevant to the questions, and became deeply annoying. We didn’t hired him.

CallMeMessy · 19/09/2025 11:20

Private education.

brunettemic · 19/09/2025 11:25

Outsideitsraining · 17/09/2025 14:51

Tattoos, coloured hair, stating their pronouns. Any of these three would be a straight no from me.

Any tattoos or something a bit more “extreme” like on their face?

brunettemic · 19/09/2025 11:27

Arrogance in an interview. It works both ways though, I once interviewed with someone for a role and he was so far up himself that no matter what feedback I got I was pulling out of the process.

Gah81 · 19/09/2025 11:30

Arrogance and lack of self-reflection. There's nothing you would do differently or improve in yourself or your previous work and projects? Really? Nothing at all?

Verv · 19/09/2025 11:46

Preferred pronouns, identifies as, bla bla.

DiscoBob · 19/09/2025 13:09

pollymere · 19/09/2025 09:50

I'm really surprised/shocked at some people's replies!

I'd be put off if they'd clearly lied about their abilities or previous experience. I'd also be put off if they seemed very bored or not interested in the job unless they had a communication disorder.

I wouldn't be put off by stated pronouns, tattoos, piercings, hair colour, clothing (not these days!), lack of eye contact, facial expressions.

Me neither. I think to discriminate based on hair colour or tattoos/piercings seems extremely old fashioned.

autumnsessions · 19/09/2025 13:14

Overuse of words - kinda, sort of, like, literally, obviously etc… I know it might be nerves - but the job requires our team to be in control of their nerves and what if it’s not and they just use these words all the time!

autumnsessions · 19/09/2025 13:15

DiscoBob · 19/09/2025 13:09

Me neither. I think to discriminate based on hair colour or tattoos/piercings seems extremely old fashioned.

Depends on the role you are recruiting for.

DiscoBob · 19/09/2025 13:19

autumnsessions · 19/09/2025 13:15

Depends on the role you are recruiting for.

I don't think a tattoo or piercing would stop someone from being professional and capable in any job.

Mokel · 19/09/2025 13:22

Regarding tattoos. Surely a face/neck tattoo of things like daggers, guns plus slogans like Hitler is god are off putting?

Idontdobumsex · 19/09/2025 14:12

Loubelou71 · 17/09/2025 16:42

Turning up in a big fancy car. Makes me realise I'm paying for that and possibly they're too expensive.

Is this for fucking real? You’re not paying for that, they are paying for it with the money they would earn working for you! Which judging by how you are coming across, would be as little as you can possible get away with paying them.

Zodiacrobat · 19/09/2025 15:03

Outsideitsraining · 17/09/2025 14:51

Tattoos, coloured hair, stating their pronouns. Any of these three would be a straight no from me.

Sincerely hope you have nothing to do with any recruitment, that’s so ridiculous.

RoverReturn · 19/09/2025 15:33

Someone who's jumped about a lot jobwise. A year here, then 6 months, etc.
My workplace have hired 2 ppl who it turned out had CVs like that, and the both only lasted 5 months in their respective jobs.

ridingfreely · 19/09/2025 15:34

On first impresssions - someone hugely overweight

autumnsessions · 19/09/2025 16:02

DiscoBob · 19/09/2025 13:19

I don't think a tattoo or piercing would stop someone from being professional and capable in any job.

Good luck with that professional services company you are running! I’m sure your clients have every faith in your team despite their appearance.

DiscoBob · 19/09/2025 16:29

autumnsessions · 19/09/2025 16:02

Good luck with that professional services company you are running! I’m sure your clients have every faith in your team despite their appearance.

What kind of company do you mean? Professional services like accountants and lawyers? I guess I'd never be in a position to employ people like that but it still wouldn't make me think they were any less professional.

Are tattoos and piercings really seen as that out there and alternative in this day and age?

SwallowsandAmazonians · 19/09/2025 16:35

I did an interview recently with someone on Teams and I won't be hiring. The person did the interview on their phone rather than a computer which I thought was unprofessional. They didn't mention a reason - it would have been ok if they had made an excuse.
I guess if there were perfect in other ways I might have overlooked it but it was off-putting.

CatkinToadflax · 19/09/2025 16:52

My son’s social worker is very pierced and tattooed. She’s wonderful. As soon as I met her I thought she’d be a good fit for DS, and she really is.