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What would be the one thing that put you off hiring someone?

449 replies

greyrabbits · 17/09/2025 14:26

Of all the things that would put you off giving someone a job, what’s the one thing that’s a definite no thanks.

OP posts:
Bikergran · 18/09/2025 11:14

Badly presented application (I once received a job application written badly with crossings out on a bit of lined paper torn roughly at the top - for a clerical position!).
Being late for interview without a REALLY good excuse.
Poor personal hygiene/appearance.
Lack of preparation for interview.
General poor manners.

Bikergran · 18/09/2025 11:24

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 17/09/2025 16:50

I interviewed someone once who wasn't wearing a bra. She had absolutely enormous breasts and was wearing a satin blouse. I thought it demonstrated a lack of judgement on her part as it was very difficult not to notice!

I can top (or bottom) that. We had one job applicant (NHS clerical grade) in a very short skirt, and when she crossed her legs it was obvious she was panty-free 😳. This was a woman in her 40s. No, she didn't get the job.

TinyTear · 18/09/2025 11:31

K0OLA1D · 18/09/2025 11:08

But mine can be visable. I have a full sleeve on one arm. You wouldnt see it if I wore a jumper.

Would my offer be taken back on day one if someone saw a glimpse of tattoo. Is a ridiculous stance to have

I agree.
I personally am not a fan - but i mean especially face, neck or full hands

roseyposey · 18/09/2025 12:24

Pronouns after their name

LemonTwix · 18/09/2025 12:54

I declined someone without even reaching interview point once. I went back and forth 3 times trying to accommodate the times she could do, even though they were out of hours for us. Each time she had an issue, and was replying as if I was her mate arranging a meet up for a drink, with no capital letters etc. Told her in the end that clearly we couldn’t come to a mutual time therefore we were withdrawing the offer of an interview.

I’m a bit shocked at a lot of these responses, they are really narrow minded.

DramaLlamacchiato · 18/09/2025 13:20

Leypt1 · 18/09/2025 07:07

You know that's actually illegal?

Yes. As is not hiring/dismissing people for having gender critical views. Or
for being older. Or for being a woman of child bearing age. Doesn’t stop it happening.

They’d have to prove that was the reason wouldn’t they. They’d just be told they were unsuccessful.

Catpiece · 18/09/2025 13:31

TenaciousDeeds · 18/09/2025 10:42

I mean I was shocked someone would turn up in joggers!

Oh they have, trust me x

catlover123456789 · 18/09/2025 17:55

When they use lots of buzz words that essentially mean nothing.

MMUmum · 18/09/2025 18:07

Lack of common sense.
I was a nursing home manager specialising in dementia care. One of my questions for care staff was ' what would you do if you found 2 residents physically fighting?' One candidate said 'get in between and separate them' I said 'would you? ' she said ' yes, I did this before and got my wrist broken' I replied ' so in light of that what would you do now? She said ' still get in between and split them up' 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ she didn't get the job 🙄

LaughingCat · 18/09/2025 18:09

Not prepared/done the research
Giving too little detail in answers
Waffling on and on at top speed.

BeAzureRaven · 18/09/2025 18:41

Ineedanewsofa · 17/09/2025 14:57

Telling me how they thought I should be doing my job rather than giving examples of how they would achieve the objectives of the role they are interviewing for. As a senior woman in tech, this happens more often than you might think.
Also, the chap who called me ‘darling’ and ‘girlie’ during the interview was an instant NO, obviously!

Darling/girlie????? omg, what a nincompoop.

GiveDogBone · 18/09/2025 18:43

“Sorry I’m late, I was out painting roundabouts last night”

sassyclassyandsmartassy · 18/09/2025 19:04

Attitude. Their attitude to me is the key to everything.

if they want the job they will come with a can do attitude where they show interest and engagement.

Coffeetime25 · 18/09/2025 19:32

Outsideitsraining · 17/09/2025 15:57

Depends on the role I suppose. I work in professional services. I wouldn’t take advice from someone who’s judgement was so poor they thought pink hat to be a wise choice.

😂the 80s called they want their judgmental views back

GabriellaFaith · 18/09/2025 19:59

When it's for jobs where I can literally hire who I like in my own opinion (ie our cleaner) as opposed to through a HR process with work, being rude, being a smoker (health reason and I hate the smell) or being mordidly obese (I want someone who has self discipline and can work hard, this in general terms indicates the opposite).

Through work, it's more professional lol and done on a points system as to how well they score against each criteria. So if they all prepared for the interview the most experienced person would get it.

Merida46 · 18/09/2025 20:41

AmberMaps · 17/09/2025 16:55

I can't believe how many people have said pronouns. The others are sort of silly and jovial but not hiring someone because they told you their pronouns is literally illegal. Gender is a protected characteristic. I hope these people are actually hiring managers.

Edited

There are nine protected characteristics, age, disability, religion/belief, gender reassignment, marriage/civil partnership, pregnancy/maternity, race, sex, sexual orientation and "gender" isnt one of them. Anybody who declared pronouns in their email would be discounted immediately.

Kerensa70 · 18/09/2025 23:50

DiscoBob · 17/09/2025 14:29

If they said something sexist or racist or extreme far right in the interview. Completely without context.

That they reeked of BO.

That they clearly had no interest in the job, had no experience and hadn't done any research so barely even knew the sector in which the company was based.

If they propositioned me sexually during the interview.

What about far left? Surely someone’s politics shouldn’t have to align exclusively with yours? There is more to people than politics

Friendlygingercat · 19/09/2025 00:10

Poor hygiene, grooming or choice of clothes
Rudeness to receptionist or colleagues
Cutting in or talking over me
Lateness without an acceptable reason
Lack of interview preparation/knowledge of what we do

Snakebite61 · 19/09/2025 02:21

greyrabbits · 17/09/2025 14:26

Of all the things that would put you off giving someone a job, what’s the one thing that’s a definite no thanks.

Any right wing views.

autumnsessions · 19/09/2025 03:02

I am put off anything people put on their application that is divisive. There’s just no need do it would suggest to me that they will not exercise caution with that subject in the office. This can relate to politics, religion, football teams and pronouns make me feel uncomfortable too - I’d be equally put off left as I would right - there is just no need, it has no relevance. Do not bring your whole self to work, it’s not the place. I feel strongly about many political issues but my team don’t need to hear my rants.

Rayqueen · 19/09/2025 03:07

Drugs, alcohol,language, attitude, dress sense

Whatsallthisthen2025 · 19/09/2025 04:16

Pronouns in resume. Says either they are mentally unstable or they celebrate people who are mentally unstable and that they cannot keep their politics to themselves but will lecture strangers about things other people give zero shits about.

DiscoBob · 19/09/2025 09:35

Kerensa70 · 18/09/2025 23:50

What about far left? Surely someone’s politics shouldn’t have to align exclusively with yours? There is more to people than politics

I guess any extreme politics. But I would be particularly unimpressed with any rhetoric that could be described as racist, sexist or xenophobic.

pollymere · 19/09/2025 09:50

I'm really surprised/shocked at some people's replies!

I'd be put off if they'd clearly lied about their abilities or previous experience. I'd also be put off if they seemed very bored or not interested in the job unless they had a communication disorder.

I wouldn't be put off by stated pronouns, tattoos, piercings, hair colour, clothing (not these days!), lack of eye contact, facial expressions.

pollymere · 19/09/2025 09:52

Merida46 · 18/09/2025 20:41

There are nine protected characteristics, age, disability, religion/belief, gender reassignment, marriage/civil partnership, pregnancy/maternity, race, sex, sexual orientation and "gender" isnt one of them. Anybody who declared pronouns in their email would be discounted immediately.

I think you'd find that "gender" comes under "sex" and "gender reassignment". You are not allowed to discriminate based on someone's gender when assessing them for a job.