I've often seen the women complain constantly about the burdens of raising children. If it's not sleep it's school, it's what they're eating, not eating. Then when its teenage years, it's something else school refusing, rude and chatback.
But primarily, the complaints are in the formative years.When they're still very much dependent on care. And I get it, kids are difficult.Everybody knows it. In fact, everybody knows it to the extent I can't believe most women are surprised when they end up with this screaming baby that deprives them asleep and is constantly on them. What did you think it was going to be like...
I'm getting off point, but the point I was trying to make was this lots of people on here, and in real life, say it takes a village to raise a child and you need the village.
But then what do the mother's like her contribute to the village. You want to take from the village but don't contribute to it. You want the free child care and aunties and granny babysitting your children for you, so you can have a break but you don't want to give anything back.
In the specific example of this op, she's taken from the village but gives nothing back. She left her sister to spend every single christmas with their mother and do most of the care for her. Then when the mother's dead and the sister's divorcing social be alone, where is her village? There's nobody there for her.
Opi p used the village to dump her mother on, and now she's not willing to reciprocate to host her sister who'll be alone.
Being part of a village works both ways if you want to take from it and say you need help with your children and your emotional stress, then you better, provide it back. Be part of the village and invite that lonely relative, who has no one to spend christmas or their birthday with.