to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

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I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

Good luck and god speed on your mission 🤞

On the surface I have the perfect life.

Every so often I have the strong urge to blow the entire thing apart.

@Thaimonstera I'm dealing with exactly the same with my Dad, it's awful, isn't it? Mine lives 150 miles away, and lives alone. My sister lives another 300 miles north of him, and has a very busy and important job (she really does, I'm not being sarky!), so most care falls to me. I have 16 and 18 year old DDs, the eldest of which is off to uni this week, so I have plenty on my plate as it is. I'm having to travel up to my Dad each week now, often staying for a night or two, and he's still refusing to contemplate moving. I'm going to have to force the situation soon, and I'm dreading it. It's all so hard, I hope you have someone looking after you, too?

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I have already decided I won’t attend my stepmum’s funeral when she dies, in fact I will be raising a glass in joy.

My neighbour’s hubby is fit as hell.

I’m sick of listening to a friend with depression go on and on like a stuck record, I’ve given so much support and advice but she never takes it. She just wants to stay depressed because I think it gets her attention. It sucks the life out of me and I’m going to distance myself now.

My DC drive me mad this summer with constant squabbling that the day I dropped them back on the first day back I went home, opened a small bottle of Prosecco and drank it peacefully in the garden. It was the best point of my summer.

When MIL passed, I cried tears of happiness. She made my life hell for 25 years.

When FIL, who looked like he'd pass last year, rallied, I was upset. Also abusive to me, and he drains DH, wanting constant help and attention, leaving me resentful because our little family has never received that kind of attention.

I often dream I walked away before our wedding. DH turned out to be lazy & selfish & pretty much ignores me. I do everything. I can't have a career because he can't even get himself up in the morning, and has never cooked a meal beyond pancakes. I often wonder where the lively, ambitious man I married went.

I felt absolutely nothing when I was told after the event that my father had died. I used to wish I had been adopted and that my real parents were out there somewhere waiting for me to find them

It’s hard when this happens can you tell her your missing her friendship she might make more effort it’s sad when bf takes up all friends attention it’s happened to me loads dropped like hot brick. So do feel for you.

I can’t imagine speaking to anyone about it especially her.

Do an Alpha course and you are welcome to join any zoom group with believers

My ex and I split up over 6 years ago. I still can't decide if he was controlling, coercive and if he sexually assaulted me, or if I am making it worse than it was in my head. I have never dated since we split and cannot bring myself to make myself be vulnerable with someone. I am so lonely, but cannot see a way out.

Me too or have somewhere to go for me time.

Hell is real, and it's understandable to be concerned about it. However, there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. You can have assurance and hope even in death if you are in Christ. If you are not with Christ, I encourage you to call on His name tonight. God doesn’t want any of us to perish. As C.S. Lewis famously said, “Hell is locked from the inside.” Hell represents an eternal separation from God. If you have spent your whole life rejecting and turning away from God, He will not force anyone into His presence.

Hell is real, and it's understandable to be concerned about it. However, there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. You can have assurance and hope even in death if you are in Christ. If you are not with Christ, I encourage you to call on His name tonight. God doesn’t want any of us to perish. As C.S. Lewis famously said, “Hell is locked from the inside.” Hell represents an eternal separation from God. If you have spent your whole life rejecting and turning away from God, He will not force anyone into His presence.

I would try therapy if I was you it won’t always be that way.

I’ve always suspected my Dad wasn’t my real Dad. He died last year. In my 20s I had always wanted to send some of his hair off or his toothbrush for DNA tests. Now I don’t care if he wasn’t, he was an incredible person and I miss him terribly, part of me died the day he did and life has never been the same since.

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I often see spirits , I always have since a child . I don’t pick when I see them but I feel them and I see them often . I don’t tell people this as I’m sure most think I’m crazy or assume I have some control over this .

I hate my dog. I really despise it. It's not even about anything it does, just the mere fact that it's in my house constantly. I would love to rehome it but DH would never agree.

I actually enjoy that people are seeing my ex for who he is.
I spent years trying to hide it from everyone and actually even his mother is of the POV that I'm the only one to be trusted to see the kids OK, so when she passes, she says her house is going to the GC directly, he's to inherit nothing as he will just gamble it away anyway!

Don't. Open your New Testament and look for John 3 v 16. That's a wonderful news for you - and everyone.

I was sexually abused by a grandparent from when I was very young till I left home. Only very few people know and not my family. I think this is behind all the poor choices I have made. I allowed myself to be sexually assaulted almost daily, sometimes multiple times a day, in 3rd, 4th and 5th year of secondary school and never reported it to anyone, not even the times I was pushed into the toilets by the boys in question and raped.

Agreed 🤢

🥰 I'm so sorry. I hope you have good friends around you.

So so sorry to hear this. Sending you all thoughts, prayers and strength. Your 10 year old is brave and amazing and once treatment is complete will have an amazing life. 💐

Mine is that I think I will be relieved when my mother dies.
My siblings and I have done a lot of work to be free from the (legal, practical, mental) problems of previous generations

Thank you. I do, but I could never talk about with any of them except one whose been my closet friend for 54 years! I'm terrified they would see how disgusting I actually am.