to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

[GooseAndSandals]

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

I feel so ashamed of myself. For so many things.

Fair enough . I came from the opposite a family that doesn’t really believe much .
I also do not speak about it with anyone around me , ever , that includes my children and closest family members . The only one that knows part of it is my husband and that’s because on occasion I get very nervous and he notices and I have fainted a couple of times by forcing myself in situations I shouldn’t .
I’m not one to influence my stuff or beliefs including religion etc on others , specifically children as they are highly influential. As I’m not a religious person at all myself I think it’s important to let others decide what they believe from their own experience .

Are we related? 😳🥴

I know we can’t be. But are we? 🤣🤣

mine has business cards that specifically say ‘children’s author’ along with something else.

yes writing what you know it really important and children’s writing esp for under 10s (her range) needs structure.
I’m glad I can get a little bit for what I do but the best bit for me is the comments and response’s, others learning from me is a fabulous feeling.

Haha

Well we won't tell anyone...

That's sad that you felt you had to give it up. I have a knitted pig (actually Piglet from the Winnie-the-Pooh books) that I bought from a school Christmas fair when I was 9. I'm now 64 and he has been with me through thick and thin and brings me a lot of comfort when times are tough. I have made my DH promise that he will make sure he goes into my coffin with me (Piglet not DH 😁)

I've got a couple.

An ex got in touch with me at the end of last year. I haven't stopped thinking about him since and often have sexual dreams and fantasies about him even though I'm in a very long term relationship. I do feel guilt, like I'm cheating. Especially when I'm not really sexually in the mood for my current partner. I also haven't ever loved any other person romantically as much as I loved this ex, even though I've been with my current partner for the longest. I'd never do anything though as the ex was an abusive dick and my partner now is lovely and it's just an easier life. I can't see him breaking up with me unless I did something like cheat or become abusive (which I'd never do). I just want an easy life so am willing to settle and put up with what I've got. I do have love for my current partner, however.

My other one is that I genuinely used to have thoughts of wanting to kill a neighbour when they've been a nightmare to me (and to other neighbours) but wouldn't as they're not worth doing the time for and losing what I have. Thankfully said neighbour died a few months back and I genuinely felt so much relief because he made mine and other's lives hell. I do hope there is something after this life and he now sees the pain and trouble he caused, but I'll never know. Living by him genuinely made me feel suicidal and gave me PTSD. I used to pray he would die. I know that sounds evil but he really wasn't a nice man and was very abusive and threatening with me along with his other dusgusting behaviour.

Ditto. Wish I could re-do my life but still have my ds and dh. Anything you want to talk about?

@Taztoy I am sorry this has happened to you. You arent alone. Its a horrible disgusting crime and it happens to a lot of women and indeed happened to my daughter 9 years ago now.

I think that’s really commendable that you make sure you don’t influence others. I try to do the same with my kids. Letting them decide. My middle child is exploring religion atm (which is different as we are not religious family at all) but I try to keep neutral and she has asked to have religious studies on Sunday which we take her now for to explore. Not everyone is the same and I wouldn’t want to diminish anyone’s experiences or preventing my own kids to find what feels good to them.

Now that's a dark thing to share @GooseAndSandals!!

Most of us are just mediocre. Just by turning up and getting on with it you're doing better than many people. It's not good for your self-esteem to think like this though, careers aren't everything. By being self-aware you are already cleverer than the majority 🙄 🤣

I regret adopting my son.

I thought I was equipped to parent a traumatised/‘wired differently’ child and cope with whatever life threw our way.
I am absolutely not equipped and after 5 years of his teenage fuckery I feel like I’m broken now.

Part of me can’t wait until he’s an adult so that I don’t have to take responsibility anymore. Even though deep down I know that there is no way I’m ever going to feel like I’m not responsible for him anymore.

I find that often my friendships with women are superficial and boring (I tend to blame them) and with men there always seems to be a hint of interest on either side (or both) that sours the friendship. I'd like more friends (despite not liking people 😂)!

The resonates SO much @Vera87

It's nothing big. Just so many small shames. Feel like a failure.

Im ashamed of a lot of bad errors I've made but the important thing is to learn by them and move on. Otherwise it's consuming (easier said than done i know)

I had my dream job where I was doing really well and I was never going to leave.

I was forced out by a spiteful bully a year ago and I haven't found another job.

It's very painful for me to be rejected so I don't apply if I haven't got all the criteria. I have been shortlisted for 80% of the jobs I apply for, but had only one final interview and I didn't get the job.

Money is getting very tight and I'm terrified I'll never work again.

I judge people who have too many children and whose reaction to a surprise baby that they can't afford is not immediately to have a termination.

You’ve brought tears to my eyes - to be able to say all that without judgement, just understanding, is so incredibly powerful. Thank you.

oh that’s side. Im sure you bring a lot of worth into this world.

Do they ever interact with anyone or anything? Do they all scare you, or just some of them? How has this affected your life?

HR will tell you to apply if you meet 70% if criteria. Never doubt yourself nor give up

Firstly, I love cats, I think they are beautiful, but would never say out loud…I don’t understand why people keep cats and then let them roam around all over the place.

1. They kill the birds and small mammals, who are struggling enough, without cats to contend with (rats are admittedly not struggling).
2. They shit in my garden, especially if I create a veg patch🤢
3. They run out in front of my car. I’m terrified that one day I will be responsible for the death of someone’s beloved pet. If a dog was allowed to run around outside, people wouldn’t be surprised if it got run over. Why do people take this risk with their cats?

This also resonates with me so much - how sad so many of us feel the same!