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Charlie Kirk- and the reality

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Tandora · 13/09/2025 20:14

So here we are- they have a suspect.
The very little we know about his politics suggests he was likely to be right wing, and came from a family/ culture that supported Trump. He also is said to be an introvert, in to video games , and possibly quite mentally unwell.

So there we have it- fancy that - when you live in a context where people have access to guns and some minority of people are not well, people get shot.

Nothing to do with the evils of the “left”. Nothing to do with trans people or “trans ideology”. Just senseless violence, because people who are not well have access to guns.

So what are we going to take/ learn from this?

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/09/2025 14:26

placemats · 14/09/2025 14:13

You are convinced that it's left wing extremism based on a website that's ultra right wing extremist - which you haven't denied. I'm saying that based on previous killings it's most likely to be ultra right wing extremism and that's where the base should start. Most domestic terrorism in the USA is from the ultra extremist right.

I’m not basing it on the website, ffs. I’m basing it on the receipts they have. I’m not a member, I just lurk occasionally, like I do on Reddit and BlueSky.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/09/2025 14:28

“The base should start” with the actual evidence not a predetermined narrative either way. The governor of Utah was clear what he believed and i expect he knows more than random posters on Mumsnet. The man and probably his friends and roommate too are under investigation.

WolfingtonBear · 14/09/2025 14:32

Shakeoffyourchains · 14/09/2025 12:55

A weak minded, immature, male liberal. Like all the others who have tried something like this.

Well this is awkward ⬇️

Worth reading further into this rather than relying on a simple pie chart. High rates of “Right Wing” extremist victim numbers arise because of one shooter/attacker being responsible for multiple deaths during that one incident.

Read more here:-

www.adl.org/resources/report/murder-and-extremism-united-states-2024

No doubt many will dismiss the source 🙄 but the figures/details speak for themselves. Just as in the second chart Radical Islamist attacks appear high in comparison to Muslim population, this is mainly because of a high victim counts during low amounts of incidents.

placemats · 14/09/2025 14:42

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/09/2025 14:28

“The base should start” with the actual evidence not a predetermined narrative either way. The governor of Utah was clear what he believed and i expect he knows more than random posters on Mumsnet. The man and probably his friends and roommate too are under investigation.

You are a random poster on Mumsnet.

ETA His family as well should be profiled.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/09/2025 14:46

I’m sure they are being and I didn’t say I wasn’t 🙄

Tandora · 14/09/2025 14:48

Insanityisnotastrategy · 14/09/2025 13:26

To quote your thread title '- and the reality', here is what he said:

"I can't stand the word empathy, I think empathy is a made up new age term and it does a lot of damage. Sympathy is a better word, because empathy means you are actually feeling what another person felt, and no one can feel what another person feels."

So no, you're wrong about what Charlie Kirk was saying there and it's pretty manipulative to start threads and make comments like this while (deliberately?) distorting the words and intentions of a man who's just been murdered. And I don't believe you have much real empathy OR sympathy, your posts clearly indicate you're using his death for point scoring.

I’m directly quoting Charlie Kirk on the subject of children being shot.

In April 2023, Charlie Kirk stated during his show that "we cannot allow" victims of mass shootings to "emotionally hijack the the narrative”:

Kirk's remarks were made in the wake of theCovenant School shooting in Nashville, Tennessee , which had occurred two weeks earlier.

I think you should inform yourself about the actions of the person you are defending before you accuse me of being “manipulative” for simply sharing the facts of his words.

The quote about empathy you shared was another thing he said in a different context (it was also a completely dumb thing to say as empathy is a is scientific and measurable human psychological capacity that is distinct from sympathy - but anyway that’s beside the point).

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/09/2025 14:52

Right wing US influencer Steven Crowder claims to have leaked internal documents from the County Sheriffs office and he already received the leak about the bullet casing (not sure how he’s getting all this stuff but it is interesting reading, although most was covered in the press conference on Friday). He’s published them on Twitter:

https://x.com/scrowder/status/1966536895925477634

Tandora · 14/09/2025 14:55

Tandora · 14/09/2025 14:48

I’m directly quoting Charlie Kirk on the subject of children being shot.

In April 2023, Charlie Kirk stated during his show that "we cannot allow" victims of mass shootings to "emotionally hijack the the narrative”:

Kirk's remarks were made in the wake of theCovenant School shooting in Nashville, Tennessee , which had occurred two weeks earlier.

I think you should inform yourself about the actions of the person you are defending before you accuse me of being “manipulative” for simply sharing the facts of his words.

The quote about empathy you shared was another thing he said in a different context (it was also a completely dumb thing to say as empathy is a is scientific and measurable human psychological capacity that is distinct from sympathy - but anyway that’s beside the point).

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I’ll await your apology @Insanityisnotastrategy

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placemats · 14/09/2025 14:56

This is presumption and is setting a basis for a motive that harms:

A person not yet charged who could be secretly not out yet within the LGBT community.

The family of the not yet charged man currently held in custody.

Tandora · 14/09/2025 14:58

Tandora · 14/09/2025 14:48

I’m directly quoting Charlie Kirk on the subject of children being shot.

In April 2023, Charlie Kirk stated during his show that "we cannot allow" victims of mass shootings to "emotionally hijack the the narrative”:

Kirk's remarks were made in the wake of theCovenant School shooting in Nashville, Tennessee , which had occurred two weeks earlier.

I think you should inform yourself about the actions of the person you are defending before you accuse me of being “manipulative” for simply sharing the facts of his words.

The quote about empathy you shared was another thing he said in a different context (it was also a completely dumb thing to say as empathy is a is scientific and measurable human psychological capacity that is distinct from sympathy - but anyway that’s beside the point).

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Oh and he also said “it’s worth it to have the cost of unfortunately some gun deaths every year so we can have the second amendment.”

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OnePlumQuail · 14/09/2025 15:00

I think people are reading far too much into this “groyper” thing. He wore a popular meme as a Halloween costume in 2018 and that’s all we can take from that, anything more is purely speculation.

What we know for a fact is that he was the only left-wing member of his family and was very angry with Charlie Kirk’s views. We know he lived with a gay, left-wing, trans roommate, who was also possibly his partner. We know the roommate talked at length on social media about transitioning, taking female hormones, and even changed his profile name from Lance to Luna. We know the roommate was friends with a transgender that celebrated the assassination on Twitter, exclaiming “we fucking got him!”. We know they were both active in online furry communities and Tyler followed an account that posts gay furry p*rn art.

None of this screams extreme right-wing groyper to me.

The people who are doubling down and insisting he must be a right-wing extremist because his parents are republican or because he wore a Halloween costume in 2018 are going to come out of this with egg on their face.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/09/2025 15:07

OnePlumQuail · 14/09/2025 15:00

I think people are reading far too much into this “groyper” thing. He wore a popular meme as a Halloween costume in 2018 and that’s all we can take from that, anything more is purely speculation.

What we know for a fact is that he was the only left-wing member of his family and was very angry with Charlie Kirk’s views. We know he lived with a gay, left-wing, trans roommate, who was also possibly his partner. We know the roommate talked at length on social media about transitioning, taking female hormones, and even changed his profile name from Lance to Luna. We know the roommate was friends with a transgender that celebrated the assassination on Twitter, exclaiming “we fucking got him!”. We know they were both active in online furry communities and Tyler followed an account that posts gay furry p*rn art.

None of this screams extreme right-wing groyper to me.

The people who are doubling down and insisting he must be a right-wing extremist because his parents are republican or because he wore a Halloween costume in 2018 are going to come out of this with egg on their face.

Well said. That’s the evidence thats “emerging” at the moment, not that he’s far right, thats made up bollocks as far as the limited picture we have now shows. It’s scary how many respectable media outlets are uncritically printing that speculation as unquestionable fact. I agree that him just associating with trans people doesn’t in and of itself mean anything about why he was allegedly motivated to kill Charlie Kirk, it could be as shallow as that he just wanted to be notorious. I’m sure all the facts will come out in due course.

placemats · 14/09/2025 15:10

CJsGoldfish · 14/09/2025 10:55

The local traffic warden would probably do a better job that the FBI did, that's for sure.
I suspect a lot of the noise and speculation and rumours are designed to take the focus away from how inept they've become. He was only 'caught' because his family turned him in

Agree. Let's not forget that a man in his sixties was arrested and detained as a suspect. As if he could jump from a building.

Who walks up the stairs of a building and then jumps down from it?

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/09/2025 15:18

Skodacool · 14/09/2025 07:11

And the worst culprit is Trump. This tragic murder has provided him with the perfect way to deflect all criticism and he's milking it for all it's worth.

She’s talking about the glee and celebrations of ordinary people that he has been killed.It is worldwide and in that context is shocking to most people, a celebration of a death.
What a political leader has said isn’t making the same waves, as he is not celebrating a death.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/09/2025 15:20

WolfingtonBear · 14/09/2025 05:51

I’m so utterly weary of the constant lies and smearing of anyone who dares to question the “good” and “decent” ideology of liberals/the left. I actually feel despair at how willing so many are to believe what they first see on their carefully constructed social media algorithms with no care to research further. I read the OP and thought I am too drained to even respond to this, and what’s the point anyway, so thank you posting this. I note though that almost half of the AIBU votes show that the OP is considered as NOT being unreasonable even when talking such utter, directed, biased crap.

I am very firm with my young adult children that they MUST research both sides & check for accuracy before they start stomping around in outrage at anything they see on social media. They’re pretty good about doing so now. I would absolutely beg MNetters in particular - as a historically very left leaning site, to consider doing the same. Yes it prevents the thrill of excessive outrage and that addictive feeling that you’re a really GOOD person to be speaking on and displaying your grief on such matters, but if you don’t have ALL the info needed to understand complex situations, then you just end up sounding foolish and biased. Surely no one wants to present in that way publicly?

I feel the same.

placemats · 14/09/2025 15:20

OnePlumQuail · 14/09/2025 15:00

I think people are reading far too much into this “groyper” thing. He wore a popular meme as a Halloween costume in 2018 and that’s all we can take from that, anything more is purely speculation.

What we know for a fact is that he was the only left-wing member of his family and was very angry with Charlie Kirk’s views. We know he lived with a gay, left-wing, trans roommate, who was also possibly his partner. We know the roommate talked at length on social media about transitioning, taking female hormones, and even changed his profile name from Lance to Luna. We know the roommate was friends with a transgender that celebrated the assassination on Twitter, exclaiming “we fucking got him!”. We know they were both active in online furry communities and Tyler followed an account that posts gay furry p*rn art.

None of this screams extreme right-wing groyper to me.

The people who are doubling down and insisting he must be a right-wing extremist because his parents are republican or because he wore a Halloween costume in 2018 are going to come out of this with egg on their face.

What is a fact is that he was raised by parents who were registered Republicans and Mormons and has siblings.

The parents introduced guns and shooting practise to their son from an early age.

The father alerted the authorities once a $100,000 reward was set.

The suspected shooter, not yet formally charged, is 22.

EasternStandard · 14/09/2025 15:27

OnePlumQuail · 14/09/2025 15:00

I think people are reading far too much into this “groyper” thing. He wore a popular meme as a Halloween costume in 2018 and that’s all we can take from that, anything more is purely speculation.

What we know for a fact is that he was the only left-wing member of his family and was very angry with Charlie Kirk’s views. We know he lived with a gay, left-wing, trans roommate, who was also possibly his partner. We know the roommate talked at length on social media about transitioning, taking female hormones, and even changed his profile name from Lance to Luna. We know the roommate was friends with a transgender that celebrated the assassination on Twitter, exclaiming “we fucking got him!”. We know they were both active in online furry communities and Tyler followed an account that posts gay furry p*rn art.

None of this screams extreme right-wing groyper to me.

The people who are doubling down and insisting he must be a right-wing extremist because his parents are republican or because he wore a Halloween costume in 2018 are going to come out of this with egg on their face.

Interesting, looks like more is emerging.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/09/2025 15:27

LittleAlexHornesPocket · 14/09/2025 07:37

Seems to me that both the left and the right are desperate for this fella to be one from the "opposing team". What both sides fail to understand is that they are both responsible for the extreme violence because both sides have been demonising each other, refusing to listen, to compromise, or engage in nuanced discussion.

Whatever the killer's motivations were, there will be no "winners". Just more extreme discourse, more hateful language, and ultimately, more violence.

Excellent post.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/09/2025 15:39

Tandora · 14/09/2025 07:38

This is yet another totally unverified rumour started by unreliable sources.

We are still completely in the dark about this man’s motives- and given the widespread initial assumption that this attack was politically motivated and carried out by a radical lefty (, and the desperation of those in power in the US for that to be true), I think the lack of any evidence of motive and political leanings so far is telling.

in my OP I said that we know very little about this man’s politics but based on the little we know so far it seems more likely that he is right wing , and that he comes from a republican, Trump supporting family. This remains the case based on the only actually verified facts we have.

The (alleged) shooter is a white man from Utah. His family are registered republicans. Tyler himself did not vote in the last two elections. Those are the facts we have.

No that is just your assumption he was right wing, based on the political leanings of his family.
We won’t know more till further information is released.
In fact I think you just started this thread to tell everyone he was right wing when all the facts aren’t in.

OneAmberFinch · 14/09/2025 15:40

Tandora · 14/09/2025 14:58

Oh and he also said “it’s worth it to have the cost of unfortunately some gun deaths every year so we can have the second amendment.”

He highly values the second amendment as a protection against tyrannical governments (which you might disagree is a threat, but he clearly does), and makes the analogy with banning driving, i.e. that the benefits might outweigh the costs even if the costs are not zero. Children die in car crashes all the time. He is arguing against appeals to emotion like "if it saves ONE life it's worth it..."

In the same quote he goes on to suggest ways to minimise gun deaths in school shootings, by having more security guards in schools. He clearly isn't cavalierly wanting kids to die, he is just weighting relative threats differently from you.

I'm not American so I don't really see a few household guns as being that helpful against the US military... but I can comprehend his position.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/09/2025 15:41

RowanRed90 · 14/09/2025 07:39

It's not guns that kill kids, it's mentally ill people. Southport demonstrated that no gun is needed to kill children. If someone wants to, they will.

And he was radicalised online.

Skodacool · 14/09/2025 15:44

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/09/2025 15:18

She’s talking about the glee and celebrations of ordinary people that he has been killed.It is worldwide and in that context is shocking to most people, a celebration of a death.
What a political leader has said isn’t making the same waves, as he is not celebrating a death.

Well it’s my view that, beneath all his public expressions of outrage and condemnation, Trump is secretly grateful for something that’s diverted the flak he’s been getting. I’m not alone in thinking that all he cares about is his own skin.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/09/2025 15:45

meeleymanatee · 14/09/2025 07:40

If we are in the dark about his motives why did you start a thread about his motives?

Because she wants him to be right wing.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 14/09/2025 15:59

Tandora · 14/09/2025 14:55

I’ll await your apology @Insanityisnotastrategy

You're expecting an apology after repeatedly ripping words out of context and using them to whitewash your own behaviour? 🙄

So you disagree about empathy vs sympathy - how does that justify cherry-picking a quote to imply that he was being callous?

And oddly enough, your direct quote has a bit missing as well:

"And, of course, our hearts go out to the victims in Kentucky for every one of these situations. But we cannot allow them to emotionally hijack the narrative."

FWIW I disagree with him about guns, but he's right about appeals to emotion when it comes to making policy, and NOT in the way you are misusing it to justify your callousness towards a murder victim.

It's very obvious what you're doing and it's a shoddy way to behave in the wake of a death like this.

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