I am scared my husband will be beaten or worse

[Flightsandfeelings]

I am married to a man who is brown and from Asia, he's been in UK 10 years and is a citizen. I am English and have always lived in the UK.
We are leaving where we live to move closer to my parents, which I am happy about for many reasons one being where we live right now is an incredibly hostile and racist place. One of the worst in all of the UK and has been for some time.
The area we are moving to is nice enough and we should be safe in our home l, which we aren't really now.

I am scared everyday when my husband goes out that he will be assaulted for being brown with an accent. I am also scared the same will be the case for when we move with the uptake in angry, mindless fake-news concerning people who look like him.

He is shouted at and people are aggressive already and we've both seen how it has gotten worse. Where we live people are burnt of their homes for not being white so my view of all this is coloured by that but not unfairly so.

This is terrible. Poor OP 🫂 We all need to resist this evil.

It's v hypocritical. I posted a thread in FWR about the poor Sikh woman who was raped for racist reasons. Several posters kept challenging why I 'picked this case to post rather than others' and denying the attack could possibly have had racist motivations.

I get maybe they were trying to reduce fear but I think it's important to discuss all aspects of threats to women rather than just brush over parts.

I do wonder if there would be the same response to a woman saying she was scared about her safety or if I had posted about an attack motivated by misogynistic rhetoric.

‘Everyone is at risk of attack’ 🙄 not everyone is at risk of a racist attack though, are they. Not everyone is at risk of a hate crime. Your persistence in diminishing the OP’s very valid fear is astonishing.
If your husband is really a police officer then you should really be much more up to date with the current climate. And ‘The left’ have not been whipping up hatred towards the police, at all. You seem very ill-informed for someone 1) claiming to bring balance to this debate 2) with such close proximity to a serving police officer.

Edit: oh, I’ve seen your further posts. Ok. Your agenda is crystal clear.

You do realise black kids are being shot and stabbed every bloody week and it’s not reported every time in the news don’t you?!

As a left-leaning centrist, I abhor leftist extremist that stir hate against people like your husband.

There seems also to be horrible sentiment against the police from some unpleasant right wingers. 26 police officers were assaulted today at the Unite The Kingdom rally.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cwydezxl0xlo

This man interviewed suggests someone shoot our PM!

https://x.com/evolvepolitics/status/1966882758028128502

On other threads people are trying to argue that any violence was caused by the Stand Up To Racism protestors. They probably did cause some, but there is plenty of reporting and video footage to testify that the Unite The Kingdom protestors did cause violence

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5409893-am-i-considered-far-right-now?page=40&reply=147133272

We will see who caused it at the trials,,anyway.

It would be very odd for the Stand Up To Racism protestors to attack police who were there to protect them, esp as I'd wager the Unite The Kingdom protestors were more physically strong & certainly outnumbered them by a huge amount.

Met police released a statement on their page. It’s very clear who the more aggressive side was and where the vast number of problems were coming from.

‘The Met’s policing operation is drawing down after a very challenging day that saw disorder, violence directed at officers and 26 officers injured.
While both protests began largely without incident, it is deeply regrettable that a number of those who were part of the ‘Unite the Kingdom’ protest became involved in disorder in multiple locations.’ It comes from the met police news page.

@Flightsandfeelings I’m so sorry you’re so worried. In the current circumstances I would be too. I have friends who I know are worrying right now for themselves and their family. It’s a very troubling time.

Thank you.

The worst feeling in the world is to be a stranger in your home town. Only the names on the graves in front of you are familiar.

To stay in a hotel, treated as a tourist, whilst your heart & mind drift back to family Christmases, kissy aunts, school times & strong friendships. Good times.

Then the bombs. My dad being kidnapped. The flight "across" to where I alone remain. But at least we survived :).

Blame it on the far left so called ‘progressives’. They created the conditions for this kind of thing to happen.

@Flightsandfeelings

I think about home everday and have done since 1973. So I feel for your family situation.

Why do think it's not reported on the news?

But not blame it on those carrying out the aggression or violence? Whatever side of politics they land on.

The only us v them are those that are choosing to terrify and hurt innocent people for a perceived, non existent threat.

Bit of an update on the NI situation.

0300 Saturday 21st September.

Albert St. Lurgan.

Sinn Fein Nationalist stronghold.

Large number of migrants attacked Irish Catholic homes.

Watch this space. Not even Loyalists would do that in that area. My bet? Guns are being cleaned.

I thought about this thread this afternoon when my dd messaged me to ask if we could try not to talk about politics at a family lunch this weekend because her partner, who is brown, is finding life very difficult at the moment for the first time ever and they need a break from all the awfulness. To be clear-we are all on the left and he was born in this country.

https://www.irishtimes.com/crime-law/2025/08/28/racism-out-of-control-in-northern-ireland-as-hate-crimes-reach-record-levels/

You are blaming far Right Racism on The Left?
"look what you mad us do!!!"

Apparently, everything Trump does or says is the Democrat’s fault…..

I've only read the first page so far and would genuinely be interested to know which area this is. Given the details you've provided how could it possibly be outing? You could be one of many couples I know personally and I'd have no clue it was you, except I've never heard of attacks locally.

You sound like the people on the far left who say that black people had no choice but to riot during 2020. Don't these Unite The Kingdom Thugs have any agency, seeing as they're so masculine?

Romesh Ranganathan was saying yesterday that his wife and son had been the victims of racist incidents recently for the first time ever. Which shows that it doesn’t matter how “integrated” you are….

JFC

If it's not going on around where we live, isn't mentioned in any Facebook community groups local to where we live, and isn't on the news or media how on earth are we supposed to know about it? People don't know what they don't know. How the hell is attitudes like yours helping people to learn and understand when we're being criticised for asking reasonable questions?

I assume you are in Northern Ireland.
Hard to know where to go, I’d think. There are still so many divisions (catholic/protestant, pro-Israel/pro-Palestine), flags everywhere.
I wish you all the best in your new home and hope your fears are eased in the new environment.

Can you come to north london op?