Rude/Disinterested not to ask about holiday.

[girlfriend44]

If you tell your friends/family your going on holiday, do they always ask how your holiday was when you get back?

Is it disinterested /rude not to ask and not mention it, and is it different with men and women?
Do you expect men to ask less than women?

I dont expect anyone to ask, whatever gender, its kinda boring

Wouldn't expect anyone to ask nor would I have enough interest to ask anyone either. If they decided to tell me anyway I would just glaze over.

I always ask people it's polite.

I agree I think it’s rude. But also very telling. The best people in your life will be happy for your own happiness/success.

I try but sometimes forget, especially if they've been back for a bit before I see them. With acquaintances like colleagues rather than friends I forget who has gone away and who hasn't.

No one but me is interested in my holiday so I really don't expect anything more than a perfunctory "Did you have a good holiday", answered with a "yes thank you" and the subject never being mentioned again.

If someone mentions it I'll ask them, but I can't be keeping track of who said they were going away. Your holiday is your own business. If you enjoyed it, good for you. You don't need your uncle/cousin/gran/dad asking how it was to validate it. If it comes up in conversation, fine.

I always ask - and like to see photos. Not because it’s polite but because I’m genuinely interested in knowing what they thought of the country they went to, their perceptions and what they did.

I'd forget they'd even been TBH.... I'd also not expect anyone to be asking me about my holiday either.

No - other people's holidays are the world's most boring subject!

I would ask, personally, but I'd hope they'd just respond 'Yes, lovely thanks!' and then change the subject.

But I have a friend who's obsessed with her and other people's holidays, though. When we're out with her (or at ours for dinner) she interrogates people all evening about how they got there, how much the flights cost, which airline, what it was like, queues at the airports, in-flight entertainement, hotels, transfers, meals, sight-seeing, resorts...oh my God, we lose the will to live.

Family and friends sure, it’s something nice and new to chat about
anyone else no

I’d say ‘did you have a nice holiday?’ and not want anything more than ‘yes, thanks’.

I would never bore anyone with holiday anecdotes or photos, they’re utterly boring.

It depends if it was part of a wider pattern of them "not showing an interest" in you. My mum and my sister are always very interested in our holidays and what we did each day and what the food was like and whether the kids had a nice time etc, and vice versa, because we have an interest in each others lives.
Whereas other people i know show absolutely no interest in what we've done, or where we've been and I think it speaks louder to what their general interest is in us as a family.

I duno this time of year it's hard to keep track of whose been where as so many people have been away. I didn't really expect anyone to be overly interested in my holiday but of course it was nice where they were.

I like to see some photos because I’m nosey but I don’t expect people to be interested in mine or remember I went away. People go away far more frequently than they used to so it’s hard to keep track of I won’t care if someone forgot I’d been away.

I usually forget that they’ve gone. But luckily most people offer information and chat about it without being asked.

I wish people wouldn't ask me. I was just saying to my sister yesterday that I'm sick of people asking me about our holiday. It was four weeks ago now. I always answer politely and briefly but it's so boring. 😂

I always ask ‘have you had nice time’, I’d like to receive a ‘yes it was lovely thanks’ response.

my MIL will list the times they woke up, the food they ate at breakfast dinner and tea. What they both wore and the average temperature per hour of the 7/14 day holiday. I’m not interested.

Sorry no, nobody is interested in your holiday. You sound quite entitled.

Yes, a little bit of chat is fine, especially if the listener has more questions, but rattling on and showing pictures unasked is tedious.

I have a similar friend! She actually showed us a full on slideshow in her house once, and is always pestering us for "lots of lovely pictures". She even kept bugging me on one occasion where I specifically said it was more of a spiritual than a selfie retreat.

Disinterested but not rude.

I love travelling and would always be interested in other's experiences. So yes - I would ask.

But if people didn't ask about my holiday I wouldn't be bothered. [Shrugs]

I'll ask if I remember! My memory is terrible, my friends and I go away a lot so often people forget to ask. If they definitely know, then its a little rude not to ask, but not a huge deal!

No, I wouldn't expect anyone to ask, not even family. Sometimes people might remember and ask how it went but it wouldn't bother me if they didn't.

I’m still waiting for my mum to ask me (well my daughter really) about a holiday we went on at Easter.

People with social skills usually ask or if they can’t remember would say have you been away? It depends why they aren't asking and whether it’s part of a wider pattern of being totally disinterested and self absorbed I think. Or they’ve asked before and rather than giving a brief answer you wang on for an hour or are boastful.