Rude/Disinterested not to ask about holiday.

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If you tell your friends/family your going on holiday, do they always ask how your holiday was when you get back?

Is it disinterested /rude not to ask and not mention it, and is it different with men and women?
Do you expect men to ask less than women?

TBH, unless I've actually "missed" you, in that you've missed something we would have done together, I've forgotten you went by next time I see you.

I always ask and my friends/family always ask me.

But myself and lots of my friends love travelling and so we’re often interested in what each other have done - e.g one friend is going to Japan next month (I’ve been twice so we’ll have quite a lot to talk about), I’m going to South Korea in a few weeks (one of my friends lived there for a year so again, we’ll have a fair bit to talk about). It’s like that most years - other friends this year took a three month sabbatical to hike in Patagonia, and another couple are off for two months in South East Asia. (I realise this is probably because we all are comfortable and can afford to do more ‘adventurous’ type holidays).

I don’t really know anyone that goes on beach/all inclusive type holidays and to be honest if they did - I’d probably just ask if they had a nice time but not expect that there would be loads to talk about, other than a polite chat about whether they had a nice time etc.

My friends and I are clearly in the minority but yes we do ask each other about our holidays. I love hearing about the different food, culture, beaches etc. I love seeing pics too. Each to their own I guess.

Depends what you mean by family. My brother wouldn't even know I'd gone away but if my mother was still alive she'd definitely know and definitely phone to ask how it went. If a close neighbour or colleague had just come back from holiday I'd ask if they had a nice time out of politeness, but wouldn't expect (or want) to see the video.

It's nice if people remember but I honestly don't mind at all if someone forgets.

I think you’ll be shocked by how many people ask to be polite but genuinely don’t care

Depends on the holiday. If it’s a once in a lifetime trip , it’s different to an AI week in spain

People have busy lives. Most people go on holiday in July & August, and if I were to ask in detail about people's holiday, I'd never get any work done.

A quick, "did you have a good time?" is normal.

Regardless of whether anyone was interested or not, I have raved on about my holiday this year. I’m certain some folk were bored stiff, but I don’t care. It was fucking epic.

I would ask yes however I work with a girl who cant afford hols so I dont bring it up if she with us. Or I keep chat general

I’m genuinely not interested in anyone’s holiday. Not being rude at all…other people’s holidays are just not interesting!

I would only ask it it was somewhere I might like to go, but an AI in Spain??? Nope not a chance.

I would ask, out of politeness. If it was a colleague at work there'd be actual interest from me, as hearing about someone's holiday is more interesting than work chat!

I normally remember that kind of thing, but I know not everyone does, so it wouldn't bother me if I wasn't asked.

I've never considered a male/female divide - I haven't noticed one and I wouldn't expect it more of women than men.

It depends what your interested in i love hearing about people's holidays mainly for selfish reasons to see if its somewhere I want to go in the future but if you want me to ask about your pet never going to happen im not interested in the slightest I don't want to see pictures I don't want to know what cute or funny thing they did its not just something that interests me.

I’d expect a ‘How was your holiday?’
Then a ‘Great thanks.’ Reply.

This is MN, where no one gives a hoot about anyone and you’ll be unreasonable for expecting friends and family to take 3 minutes to show an interest in your life.

In real life, yes it’s rude not to ask a courteous question about a holiday and to ‘glaze over’ if you mention that you had a nice time and briefly talk about it.

Male/female irrespective.

Frankly, unless they see some kind of once in a lifetime event, hearing about other people's holidays is usually deadly boring. Enjoy your holiday, but don't witter on about it.

Maybe I’m unusual but I LOVE hearing about people’s holidays! I get excited for them before they go, think about them whilst they’re away having a fantastic time and want to know all about it when they come back 😀

I do to

I think a brief - how was your holiday? And then expect maybe an about a paragraph response from you, maybe the odd follow up question and then that’s it’s. It’s quite dull when people tell you any more than that. But to not even ask at all, not even a very basic “how was your holiday” is a bit unusual/disinterested

Of course it’s not rude. I’m interested in people and if they want to tell me about their holiday, I’m interested and happy to listen, but I can’t remember the ins and outs of everyone’s plans and calendars. I’m probably more likely to ask work colleagues about their holiday (as it’s obvious they’ve been and come back) than anyone else as I just wouldn’t remember.

If I remember, I’ll ask. If I don’t, I don’t worry about it. I personally find it annoying having to have the same conversation over and over again with people when I get back from holiday so I’m always reasonably pleased when people don’t ask!

Women are more likely to enquire, because we are socialised to be polite and show an interest in the minutiae of other people's lives, but honestly, nobody cares, unless you did something very unusual like mountaineering in Colombia or paddling your own canoe down the Sepik River.

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Frankly, unless they see some kind of once in a lifetime event, hearing about other people's holidays is usually deadly boring
Boring? Yes I supposed if they go on about their holiday at an AI hotel and all they tell you about is how they used the pools all day long, describe in great detail the buffet and go on about how they drank themselves to oblivion every night.

But people who've been on a discovery holiday in Costa Rica, China or Cambodia, would you describe this as boring?