Grown man just shouted at DD2

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We are on our third train. 5 hours into a journey . I have DD2 and DD3.
Colouring, reading , toy animals. A few goggles and the odd roar from the toy dinosaurs !
I just had to take both to the toilet to DD who was 2 this month could have her nappy changed. There was a tiny cubicle and as I laid her head on the floor ( no facilities ) she came distressed and scared which was made worse by the handier going off .

We returned to our seats and she was crying for 90 seconds and then she did let out a scream .

A grown man aged 45? 50 shouted for ‘For God sake shut up!’
I was agog.

The children have been quiet as mice for the past half an hour .
They Are 2 and 3 and I think they have behaved so well . I have sat on trains webere children have giggled or cried or babies cried non stop and I have and would never shout.

I feel upset and angry and annoyed . AIBU?

He can not tolerate anything over his ears but does use earplugs. They are not perfect though.
He used to wear a sunflower lanyard but he found people talking to him like he was a child. He also kept losing them.
Sadly he does have a criminal record for having a meltdown in public already and has been beaten up before too.

Because they are a toddler and cannot regulate their emotions any more than an adult with autism can, however one has every sympathy while the other is just a nuisance apparently. A toddler is a person not a possession of their parent, they didn’t choose to go on a train, didn’t choose to have to lie down on a filthy floor in a tiny cubicle to be changed (no offence OP I’m not getting at you just making the point that adults choose where they go, children don’t). They have every right to express themselves in the way that toddlers do if someone finds this annoying they can move and not shout at a vulnerable child.

Such a big man he was, bet he would have stayed quiet if it was the child’s Dad with her and not her Mum.

@thebabayaga2025
You have definitely shouted/got angry/overreacted in public at some point in your life. Absolutely 100 percent definitely.

No, never have. Not in six decades. Not once.

It's really very worrying that you seem to think that that is completely inevitable. And that you are so eager to stress how deeply you believe it.

Please seek professional help.

Should have said 'aww, are you having problems with your big feelings too?' and offered him a colouring book.

Arsehole.

In this situation you may be right but kids do seem to run uncontrolled now in many situations (not talking about the OP and her toddler or toddlers in general here)