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Had you heard of Charlie Kirk before yesterday?

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Havetoagree · 11/09/2025 21:28

Just that really? I hadn’t and wondering if I’m the only one. And why is it such a big story? I guess the association with trump. What would be the equivalent level of fame over here?

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MeTooOverHere · 12/09/2025 06:41

Worldgonecrazy · 12/09/2025 06:35

Yes. I’m late 50s. I enjoy having my views challenged, why do I believe what I do? Why did Charlie Kirk believe what he did? Where was our common ground, where was our divergence of thought? In our insta world it’s very easy to grab a short quote to make him a bad person. Much better to look at the context and background. He was anti abortion , I would love to live in a world where abortion was unnecessary. He believed women should submit to their husbands, I believe men should step up and be true partners. He believed that the victim narrative is not helpful to black Americans, I believe the victim narrative is not helpful to anyone.

He was murdered because he challenged people to think and encouraged debate. Those celebrating his murder are sick, evil people.

I look at the background and the context, and I find him even more appalling. Yes abortion should not be needed, men should be true partners and victimhood should not be a goal. But saying a 10YO rape victim should be forced to birth a child, men should control their wife and black people are bad and stupid is NOT the same as encouraging thought and debate.

YourLemonTiger · 12/09/2025 06:42

MeTooOverHere · 12/09/2025 06:36

True. He was not just 'expressing his opinion', he was being provocative.

"the assault on Nancy Pelosi's husband (as an example of political violence) without mentioning that Kirk openly praised that assailant and called for followers to bail him out of jail"

But isn't that part of what debate is? What about debating societies 'this house believes xyz' and then each side debates in agreement of the statement or against?

I don't understand why you're saying debate can't be provocative because surely it is by its very nature if certain subjects are being discussed and each side, for want of a better word, has strong views.

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 06:43

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:39

lol. This is the context.

“"MRS degree" refers to going to college for the express purpose of getting married to an educated man. Kirk said the girls in attendance should "be clear that's why you're going to college."

"We know why you're here, and that's okay," he said. "That's a really good reason to go to college, actually. Especially, an SEC school.”

Kirk went on to say that he thought college was "a scam," but lauded the idea of attending to get hitched. He added that college-aged students are at the "prime of their attractiveness."“

I am aware of the MRS degree. We used to make fun of unserious girls who were only in college to get a guy (didn’t always work out for them, lol)

While I’m making fun of them, Kirk is actually being nice and saying it’s an okay reason to go to college? What’s so bad about that? Full of single men who have drive and are relatively intelligent? Sound advice tbh.

And college boys are at the peak of their attractiveness—generally they still have a head of hair 😆 (I don’t believe in the silver fox meme, it’s middle age cope)

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 06:44

Childrenare4life · 12/09/2025 06:39

Yes, I watched a lot of his clips online. I thought him extremely intelligent, fair, honest, respectful and refreshing. I cried when I heard the news. I didn't agree with all his views but I don't agree with all my husband's views. I think the world lost a good guy.

Does your husband have views as strong as these though :

10yo rape victims should not be able to get an abortion

Having gay relationships is like being an alcoholic or drug addict

Abortion is worse than the Holocaust

Watching public executions should be an 'initiation'

Imo these differences would be much stronger than average couple differences of opinion.
Usually...

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:44

YourLemonTiger · 12/09/2025 06:38

I see, so Charlie Kirk wasn't debating in the 'correct' way?

The point is that the vast majority of what Charlie Kirk engaged in was not debate. It was highly manipulative, curation of short form narrative designed to provoke, humiliate, demonise, and evade interrogation .

LakieLady · 12/09/2025 06:45

I hadn't heard of him, but since Trump got back in I've found US political news so bloody depressing that I'm trying not to give it headspace.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 06:47

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 06:43

I am aware of the MRS degree. We used to make fun of unserious girls who were only in college to get a guy (didn’t always work out for them, lol)

While I’m making fun of them, Kirk is actually being nice and saying it’s an okay reason to go to college? What’s so bad about that? Full of single men who have drive and are relatively intelligent? Sound advice tbh.

And college boys are at the peak of their attractiveness—generally they still have a head of hair 😆 (I don’t believe in the silver fox meme, it’s middle age cope)

He's apparently saying it's the only good reason for girls to go to college though.

Whereas surely he'd give career as a reason for a man to go to college, but he doesn't mention that for girls.

Unless you interpret it differently? Pray tell if you do...

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:49

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 06:43

I am aware of the MRS degree. We used to make fun of unserious girls who were only in college to get a guy (didn’t always work out for them, lol)

While I’m making fun of them, Kirk is actually being nice and saying it’s an okay reason to go to college? What’s so bad about that? Full of single men who have drive and are relatively intelligent? Sound advice tbh.

And college boys are at the peak of their attractiveness—generally they still have a head of hair 😆 (I don’t believe in the silver fox meme, it’s middle age cope)

ah I see so there’s nothing wrong with telling girls that college is a scam and that everybody knows that girls are only there to get an educated husband because that’s the time to do it when they are young and therefore most attractive. Nothing wrong with that at all.

I personally went to university to study. I wasn’t the least interested in leaving with a husband.
I went on to get a doctorate degree and didn’t meet my partner until my mid 30s. I would have felt personally humiliated and violated as a 14 year old girl to have to sit and listen to a grown man say such demeaning things to me. And hell will freeze over before I normalise that it would be ok - and nothing wrong- to say such a thing now to my DDs.

But you do you I guess. 😩

theiblis · 12/09/2025 06:49

Yes he was very much ‘on’ social media. Horrific for his family to be in the crowd when it happened and I would never wish anyone to be treated like that for their beliefs. However he was an awful maga talking head, who himself said ‘I think it's worth it. I think it's worth to have a cost of, unfortunately, some gun deaths every single year, so that we can have the Second Amendment,"
amoungst other vial rhetoric, the Cambridge debating society recently debated him and it’s was embarrassing to watch him against these students. Really not worth remembering after this week.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 06:50

Here's the full article :
Conservative commentator and activist Charlie Kirk told a 14-year-old girl to think about finding a husband when she asked for his advice about attending college.

The Turning Point USA founder was taking questions from the crowd at his recent Young Women's Leadership Summit in Dallas, Texas. A high school freshman walked up to the mic, mentioned that she was hoping to start a career in political journalism and asked for Kirk's "pros and cons" on attending college. Kirk responded with a monologue, pointed at the "young ladies here in high school," that encouraged them to spend their school years seeking out a husband.

"Who's here where your top priority is to get married and have kids? Raise your hand," he said. "Interestingly, I think there's an argument to bring back the 'MRS degree.'"

For the under-40s reading this, the phrase "MRS degree" refers to going to college for the express purpose of getting married to an educated man. Kirk said the girls in attendance should "be clear that's why you're going to college."

"We know why you're here, and that's okay," he said. "That's a really good reason to go to college, actually. Especially, an SEC school."

Kirk went on to say that he thought college was "a scam," but lauded the idea of attending to get hitched. He added that college-aged students are at the "prime of their attractiveness."

"You don't get much better than that. It doesn't get better after college," he said. "That actually was the reason why a lot women worked."

Pricelessadvice · 12/09/2025 06:51

No, hasn’t heard of him and neither had my parents. I’m 41.

Chobby · 12/09/2025 06:52

theiblis · 12/09/2025 06:49

Yes he was very much ‘on’ social media. Horrific for his family to be in the crowd when it happened and I would never wish anyone to be treated like that for their beliefs. However he was an awful maga talking head, who himself said ‘I think it's worth it. I think it's worth to have a cost of, unfortunately, some gun deaths every single year, so that we can have the Second Amendment,"
amoungst other vial rhetoric, the Cambridge debating society recently debated him and it’s was embarrassing to watch him against these students. Really not worth remembering after this week.

I guess his family and friends can take some consolation in the fact that he believed his own death to be ‘worth it’, in the same way that he believed school shootings to be ‘worth it’.

OwlBeThere · 12/09/2025 06:53

You can have meaningful, respectful discourse and debate whilst swearing.
I just think it’s a weird thing to bring up when the content of his speech is so hateful and divisive.

have you seen this? https://www.professorwatchlist.org This is a list of academics who have opinions different than CKs. This list is a free for all for hateful racists and misogynists to use to and send messages and leave voice mails to academics who are just doing their jobs, having a different opinion to CK. how come he can do that but when people meet him where he’s coming from and ‘express opinions’ he is allowed to harrass threaten and intimidate

TakeMe2Insanity · 12/09/2025 06:53

I had never heard of him. I’m shocked at the coverage he is getting especially considering his right wing racist views.

I was particularly shocked at how a witness had said the university had an open gun carry policy as if that would have kept them safer.

maddening · 12/09/2025 06:54

Whenlifegiveslemons · 11/09/2025 21:50

Respectful?! You're kidding, surely?! He was abhorrent, he was anti trans, gay, women, abortion, everything but human rights (but that wouldn't be much of a stretch). Mourn the deaths of children in Gaza instead.

Authoritarian! People can have different perspectives and ypu don't get to tell them who to mourn!

I didn't agree with everything he said but found the debates interesting- we should be able to debate without being shot .

CrushingOnRubies · 12/09/2025 06:55

Nope! Early 30s

babyproblems · 12/09/2025 06:55

WaffleParty · 11/09/2025 21:32

I had. He was not a good person. Said plenty of horrible things.

Thought this also. I think he was a character who was all about targeting younger people to join the Trump / Maga movement.

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 06:56

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 06:50

Here's the full article :
Conservative commentator and activist Charlie Kirk told a 14-year-old girl to think about finding a husband when she asked for his advice about attending college.

The Turning Point USA founder was taking questions from the crowd at his recent Young Women's Leadership Summit in Dallas, Texas. A high school freshman walked up to the mic, mentioned that she was hoping to start a career in political journalism and asked for Kirk's "pros and cons" on attending college. Kirk responded with a monologue, pointed at the "young ladies here in high school," that encouraged them to spend their school years seeking out a husband.

"Who's here where your top priority is to get married and have kids? Raise your hand," he said. "Interestingly, I think there's an argument to bring back the 'MRS degree.'"

For the under-40s reading this, the phrase "MRS degree" refers to going to college for the express purpose of getting married to an educated man. Kirk said the girls in attendance should "be clear that's why you're going to college."

"We know why you're here, and that's okay," he said. "That's a really good reason to go to college, actually. Especially, an SEC school."

Kirk went on to say that he thought college was "a scam," but lauded the idea of attending to get hitched. He added that college-aged students are at the "prime of their attractiveness."

"You don't get much better than that. It doesn't get better after college," he said. "That actually was the reason why a lot women worked."

Yeah I see nothing wrong with this.

(I went to college to study and was pretty serious and did actually make fun of girls just there for the social life, but he’s just reassuring them it’s ok? In fact it’s not a bad idea for them? Where else are you going to find decent, intelligent men?)

I didn’t marry my college boyfriend but he’s a nice guy and it wouldn’t have been a bad idea. I just wasn’t ready but others definitely are and it’s totally healthy and normal.

Zapx · 12/09/2025 06:56

Yes I know who he is; seen loads of his stuff. Still can’t believe it.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 06:56

So a 14yo asked him for career advice, and he disregarded that completely, turned it to talking about marriage, that a Mrs degree should be 'the reason you go', and disregarded the many past (70s? - which period did he mean?) women who wanted a job for achievement, independence and/or intellectual stimulation by saying that the reason they worked was 'actually' to get a husband.

Interesting too he speaks about college age student girls being at the 'prime of attractivrness' . We know from his other comments that he thought women over 30 were 'past the prime of attractiveness' and so it was understandable men their age would pass them over.

helenafalco · 12/09/2025 06:57

A few if his views in the guardian

www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/sep/11/charlie-kirk-quotes-beliefs

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 06:58

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 06:56

So a 14yo asked him for career advice, and he disregarded that completely, turned it to talking about marriage, that a Mrs degree should be 'the reason you go', and disregarded the many past (70s? - which period did he mean?) women who wanted a job for achievement, independence and/or intellectual stimulation by saying that the reason they worked was 'actually' to get a husband.

Interesting too he speaks about college age student girls being at the 'prime of attractivrness' . We know from his other comments that he thought women over 30 were 'past the prime of attractiveness' and so it was understandable men their age would pass them over.

Sure sure, that’s why he married a woman who was like, five years older than him. Who holds a college degree and (I think) runs sort of Christian themed business

Underthinker · 12/09/2025 06:59

MeTooOverHere · 12/09/2025 06:41

I look at the background and the context, and I find him even more appalling. Yes abortion should not be needed, men should be true partners and victimhood should not be a goal. But saying a 10YO rape victim should be forced to birth a child, men should control their wife and black people are bad and stupid is NOT the same as encouraging thought and debate.

I dont share Kirk's politics. But many of your examples, and many of the negative things attributed to him in this thread are taken out of context.

The ten year old thing is a quite cruel example. He is known to be against abortion, so someone put to him the hypothetical situation that his own young daughter were raped and pregnant, which is a fairly low rhetorical trick in my view. CK is a Christian who believes abortion murder, most of us in the UK do not. His answer that he wouldn't seek an abortion in those circumstances now gets endlessly repeated as if he offered up the example of his own daughter being raped. He has had guests at his rallies who have spoken up about either having given birth after rape or themselves being the product or rape, and being grateful that they ir their child weren't aborted. They are not views I share, but I think to use them as part of the case that he is some kind of monster is wrong.

Thegreyhound · 12/09/2025 07:00

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 11/09/2025 21:52

He had opinions I never agreed with, but he was respectful in expressing them.

Oh well that’s all right then. As long as he was respectfully expressing racism, misogyny, antisemitism etc.

KhakiTiger · 12/09/2025 07:00

Yes and whether you agreed with him or not, he was articulate and spoke rationally. Unlike his opponents who always showed themselves up to be hysterical, hateful and a bit unhinged at times.

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