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Had you heard of Charlie Kirk before yesterday?

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Havetoagree · 11/09/2025 21:28

Just that really? I hadn’t and wondering if I’m the only one. And why is it such a big story? I guess the association with trump. What would be the equivalent level of fame over here?

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OwlBeThere · 12/09/2025 06:12

Augustone · 12/09/2025 06:07

Mid 50’s here and I had seen his content. He seemed open to debate , respectful of whoever he was debating with and as far as I could see didn’t resort to insults or bad language (unlike some of the people he was speaking to).

Dh and both Dc also heard of him.

Well as long as he didn’t swear, being a racist homophobe and woman hater are all fine.

Ammophila · 12/09/2025 06:14

No, but DS (16) had. Said he'd seen him on YouTube or maybe TikTok.

waltercrimble · 12/09/2025 06:18

No but my teens had. I also saw a video of the murder in TikTok. I didn't realise what I was watching until it was too late.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 12/09/2025 06:19

Newton161 · 12/09/2025 06:12

You prove my point.

What point?

OwlBeThere · 12/09/2025 06:20

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 05:07

Ok I just watched the clip and you are being most disingenuous.

He was making a point about Ms Rachel’s Biblical statement. Nowhere does he think this is appropriate, but calling out her hypocrisy in using this verse to get attention on Gaza, but ignoring the problematic statements just before it.

That you’ve seen the clip and still repeat the lie reflects badly on you, tbh

Edited

At best he’s using the idea of stoning gay people to death as a joke. Which is abhorrent anyway.

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:20

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 04:46

lol there’s no way he thinks stoning is appropriate. Give me the clip or I assume you’ve just heard this from a third source and mindlessly parrot it.

And yeah, I know you can’t appreciate it, but Christians do believe that fetuses are individual humans with a soul. It’s not my belief, but it’s theirs. It’s not really that hard to understand though, is it?

And when he told a female college student that college was a scam and she should go get a “Mrs degree”, and that women are “not in charge” and should submit to their husbands? This is all “middle of the road” to you too is it? Nothing dangerous to see here at all?

BlueEyedBogWitch · 12/09/2025 06:20

MeTooOverHere · 12/09/2025 06:08

During the same Jubilee episode, Kirk was asked what he would want his daughter to do if she were 10 years old and pregnant following rape.
After calling the scenario graphic, he responded "The answer is yes. The baby would be delivered."

On his radio show, Kirk said: "Black women do not have brain processing power to be taken seriously. You have to go steal a white person's slot."

Following the tragic January collision between an American Airlines plane and a Black Hawk Army helicopter, Donald Trump said diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts were at fault. Kirk added to this when he said "If I see a Black pilot, I'm going to be like, 'Boy, I hope he's qualified.'"

After Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce announced their engagement, “This is something that I hope will make Taylor Swift more conservative," he said. "Engage in reality more… Reject feminism. Submit to your husband, Taylor. You're not in charge.”

Fucking hell. He really was a cunt, wasn’t he?

Underthinker · 12/09/2025 06:22

LateTubeAgain · 12/09/2025 06:04

Lots of people supporting CK’s right to free speech. Fine.

Then these same people commenting on the Oxford Union’s president apparently celebrating the death, and said he must be ‘mentally unstable’ and should be removed for his views. Oh the irony.

Intolerance of differing views and hypocrisy is everywhere.

It's not that complicated.

If you say objectionable stuff, criticising you, or even calling for you to step down from some respectable elected office may be reasonable, shooting you is not.

YourLemonTiger · 12/09/2025 06:23

OwlBeThere · 12/09/2025 06:12

Well as long as he didn’t swear, being a racist homophobe and woman hater are all fine.

I'm pretty sure @Augustone didn't mean that 🙄

Respectful debate of different ideas and beliefs is very important FGS.

NutellaEllaElla · 12/09/2025 06:24

Yes, I’m late 30s.

jeaux90 · 12/09/2025 06:26

Yea I’m 53. Seen quite a lot of his debates. I didn’t agree with a lot of what he said but no one should be murdered for opinions.

YourLemonTiger · 12/09/2025 06:26

BlueEyedBogWitch · 12/09/2025 06:20

Fucking hell. He really was a cunt, wasn’t he?

He certainly had some imo unsavoury views. But he still didn't deserve to be murdered.

The law isn't just for people you agree with or think are 'good'. It's for everyone, irrespective of what views they hold.

BlueEyedBogWitch · 12/09/2025 06:27

YourLemonTiger · 12/09/2025 06:26

He certainly had some imo unsavoury views. But he still didn't deserve to be murdered.

The law isn't just for people you agree with or think are 'good'. It's for everyone, irrespective of what views they hold.

Did I say he did?

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:29

YourLemonTiger · 12/09/2025 06:23

I'm pretty sure @Augustone didn't mean that 🙄

Respectful debate of different ideas and beliefs is very important FGS.

I read a very excellent dissection from a debating champion on why most of what CK is being idealised for is not genuine debate:

”There's going to bethere already isa lot of talk about "debate" in the present moment. That's because Charlie Kirk, killed yesterday in Utah by a sniper still at large, was a practitioner of a rhetorical performance that he and his followers characterized as a kind of debate.

Kirk's media machine would set the scene for such events by pushing provocative stories and short videos demonizing racial minorities, LGBTQ people, women and other targets. Then Kirk would visit campuses and hold forums using a "prove me wrong" format that invited students to challenge his viewpoints (viewpoints such as "If I see a Black pilot, I'm going to be like, 'Boy, I hope he's qualified'"). Kirk's approach combined rapid-fire questions, prepared talking points, and capturing contentious moments on video to shape a narrative for his online audience.

To be clear, Kirk had the legal right to do all of this, and it may have some value as political speech, as does a political ad or a rally full of polemic.

But equally clear, what Kirk was doing was engaging in a silly kind of mock-debating. It's something we've seen more of in recent years: individuals making outrageous statements and then appending them with taunts like “now debate me” or “prove me wrong.” I'm not going to get into whether we should be policing the meaning of words like "debate," but I am inviting debate educators and alumni to understand and to be willing and able to explain the difference between “prove me wrong” rituals and the kind of debate we teach and facilitate.

A helpful analogy for some: In Game of Thrones, at King Joffrey’s wedding feast (the “Purple Wedding”), the couple and guests watch a staged, grotesque mock jousting match performed by jesters, each representing one of the kings who had vied for power during the War of the Five Kings. The intent of the performance is to ridicule Joffrey’s fallen rivals and glorify his own reign, and it is obvious to some of the attendees that Joffrey intends it to humiliate certain wedding guests. It's an example of powerful people using mockery to assert dominance and provoke conflict.

What that mock battle is to real war, Kirkesque "prove me wrong" rituals are to meaningful debate. One important difference between the mockery and the authentic debate space is that in those “prove me wrong” rituals, participants are often unwittingly facilitating their own mockery.

Actual debating, even when adversarial (and it can be quite adversarial), is mutual. Both sides accept the premise that arguments will be tested, refuted, and defended on reciprocal, if not necessarily neutral ground. Even in the most competitive formats, there’s a tacit recognition of rules (although the rules themselves can be debated on similarly reciprocal terms). What makes baiting so corrosive is that it hijacks the aesthetics of debate (assertion, challenge, rebuttal) but strips away the accountability. Very often, it forces others to debate their own dignity from a defensive crouch, as if one were in a show trial in front of a gallery of laughing partisans.

I've seen public debates, on-campus debates, between fierce political and ideological opponentsstudent groups, guest speakers on opposite sides of an issueand those events invited and respected good-faith argumentation and, most importantly, some level of willingness to engage with complexity. In contrast, “prove me wrong” events favor quips and discourage line-by-line or wholistic engagement. We ought to at least gently explain that difference as often as we can.

I will leave it to others to do a deeper dive on Ezra Klein's opinion piece in today's New York Times, but I read the piece carefully, conscious of my own beliefs about the causes and solutions of political conflict and how they differ with Klein's. And I am still left with the conclusion that Klein's conflation of debate with rhetorical provocation is amateurish and irresponsible, and it results in a lack of both narrative coherence and narrative fidelity in the piece. Even his opening statement, "[t]he foundation of a free society is the ability to participate in politics without fear of violence." ignores how actual open dialogue is not possible when practitioners of "prove me wrong" rhetoric open their dubious invitations with statements that clearly demonstrate a desire for certain groups to live in fear of violence.

Some parts of the piece suggest Klein doesn't even know Charlie Kirk's full history, such as when Klein mentions the assault on Nancy Pelosi's husband (as an example of political violence) without mentioning that Kirk openly praised that assailant and called for followers to bail him out of jail (acts of praise for political violence, the kind of praise that Klein condemns when it comes from those celebrating Kirk's assassination).

If we actually care about public discourse, we must stop mistaking provocation for dialectic. And while there are good arguments not to ban the provocations, advocates of authentic debate practices should carefully and proactively distinguish debate pedagogy from mock jousting matches designed to attract viewers and spectatorship at the expense of building mutual understanding.”

MeTooOverHere · 12/09/2025 06:31

" “Right now, you have an assassin out there on the street,” he said. “Nobody wants this guy running around.” " (www.msn.com/en-au/news/other/he-was-on-a-mission-experts-reveal-the-skill-charlie-kirk-s-killer-needed-to-pull-off-a-single-shot-assassination/ar-AA1MnyzC?ocid=hpmsn)

Must be kidding. In Australia right now they are into the 3rd week of trying to find a guy - known to police and locally - who killed 2 police and got away into the scrub. Problem they are having is they are pretty sure some locals are supporting/hiding him.

Charlie Kirk was a divisive figure who upset a lot of people. I would not be at all surprised to find out he was supported in his efforts in the planning stage, and is being supported now in hiding.

Mumofyellows · 12/09/2025 06:32

I’d never heard of him.

susiedaisy1912 · 12/09/2025 06:34

I’m 55 and I’d heard about him. Didn’t agree with some of what he said but admired his conviction to say what he believed in.

Worldgonecrazy · 12/09/2025 06:35

Yes. I’m late 50s. I enjoy having my views challenged, why do I believe what I do? Why did Charlie Kirk believe what he did? Where was our common ground, where was our divergence of thought? In our insta world it’s very easy to grab a short quote to make him a bad person. Much better to look at the context and background. He was anti abortion , I would love to live in a world where abortion was unnecessary. He believed women should submit to their husbands, I believe men should step up and be true partners. He believed that the victim narrative is not helpful to black Americans, I believe the victim narrative is not helpful to anyone.

He was murdered because he challenged people to think and encouraged debate. Those celebrating his murder are sick, evil people.

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 06:36

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:20

And when he told a female college student that college was a scam and she should go get a “Mrs degree”, and that women are “not in charge” and should submit to their husbands? This is all “middle of the road” to you too is it? Nothing dangerous to see here at all?

His wife literally has a college degree and iirc runs some sort of Christian clothing brand.

So again, probably taking things wildly out of context to smear him.

MeTooOverHere · 12/09/2025 06:36

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:29

I read a very excellent dissection from a debating champion on why most of what CK is being idealised for is not genuine debate:

”There's going to bethere already isa lot of talk about "debate" in the present moment. That's because Charlie Kirk, killed yesterday in Utah by a sniper still at large, was a practitioner of a rhetorical performance that he and his followers characterized as a kind of debate.

Kirk's media machine would set the scene for such events by pushing provocative stories and short videos demonizing racial minorities, LGBTQ people, women and other targets. Then Kirk would visit campuses and hold forums using a "prove me wrong" format that invited students to challenge his viewpoints (viewpoints such as "If I see a Black pilot, I'm going to be like, 'Boy, I hope he's qualified'"). Kirk's approach combined rapid-fire questions, prepared talking points, and capturing contentious moments on video to shape a narrative for his online audience.

To be clear, Kirk had the legal right to do all of this, and it may have some value as political speech, as does a political ad or a rally full of polemic.

But equally clear, what Kirk was doing was engaging in a silly kind of mock-debating. It's something we've seen more of in recent years: individuals making outrageous statements and then appending them with taunts like “now debate me” or “prove me wrong.” I'm not going to get into whether we should be policing the meaning of words like "debate," but I am inviting debate educators and alumni to understand and to be willing and able to explain the difference between “prove me wrong” rituals and the kind of debate we teach and facilitate.

A helpful analogy for some: In Game of Thrones, at King Joffrey’s wedding feast (the “Purple Wedding”), the couple and guests watch a staged, grotesque mock jousting match performed by jesters, each representing one of the kings who had vied for power during the War of the Five Kings. The intent of the performance is to ridicule Joffrey’s fallen rivals and glorify his own reign, and it is obvious to some of the attendees that Joffrey intends it to humiliate certain wedding guests. It's an example of powerful people using mockery to assert dominance and provoke conflict.

What that mock battle is to real war, Kirkesque "prove me wrong" rituals are to meaningful debate. One important difference between the mockery and the authentic debate space is that in those “prove me wrong” rituals, participants are often unwittingly facilitating their own mockery.

Actual debating, even when adversarial (and it can be quite adversarial), is mutual. Both sides accept the premise that arguments will be tested, refuted, and defended on reciprocal, if not necessarily neutral ground. Even in the most competitive formats, there’s a tacit recognition of rules (although the rules themselves can be debated on similarly reciprocal terms). What makes baiting so corrosive is that it hijacks the aesthetics of debate (assertion, challenge, rebuttal) but strips away the accountability. Very often, it forces others to debate their own dignity from a defensive crouch, as if one were in a show trial in front of a gallery of laughing partisans.

I've seen public debates, on-campus debates, between fierce political and ideological opponentsstudent groups, guest speakers on opposite sides of an issueand those events invited and respected good-faith argumentation and, most importantly, some level of willingness to engage with complexity. In contrast, “prove me wrong” events favor quips and discourage line-by-line or wholistic engagement. We ought to at least gently explain that difference as often as we can.

I will leave it to others to do a deeper dive on Ezra Klein's opinion piece in today's New York Times, but I read the piece carefully, conscious of my own beliefs about the causes and solutions of political conflict and how they differ with Klein's. And I am still left with the conclusion that Klein's conflation of debate with rhetorical provocation is amateurish and irresponsible, and it results in a lack of both narrative coherence and narrative fidelity in the piece. Even his opening statement, "[t]he foundation of a free society is the ability to participate in politics without fear of violence." ignores how actual open dialogue is not possible when practitioners of "prove me wrong" rhetoric open their dubious invitations with statements that clearly demonstrate a desire for certain groups to live in fear of violence.

Some parts of the piece suggest Klein doesn't even know Charlie Kirk's full history, such as when Klein mentions the assault on Nancy Pelosi's husband (as an example of political violence) without mentioning that Kirk openly praised that assailant and called for followers to bail him out of jail (acts of praise for political violence, the kind of praise that Klein condemns when it comes from those celebrating Kirk's assassination).

If we actually care about public discourse, we must stop mistaking provocation for dialectic. And while there are good arguments not to ban the provocations, advocates of authentic debate practices should carefully and proactively distinguish debate pedagogy from mock jousting matches designed to attract viewers and spectatorship at the expense of building mutual understanding.”

True. He was not just 'expressing his opinion', he was being provocative.

"the assault on Nancy Pelosi's husband (as an example of political violence) without mentioning that Kirk openly praised that assailant and called for followers to bail him out of jail"

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 06:37

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 05:07

Ok I just watched the clip and you are being most disingenuous.

He was making a point about Ms Rachel’s Biblical statement. Nowhere does he think this is appropriate, but calling out her hypocrisy in using this verse to get attention on Gaza, but ignoring the problematic statements just before it.

That you’ve seen the clip and still repeat the lie reflects badly on you, tbh

Edited

I wasn't lying. Because I am not convinced that he disagreed with that Leviticus verse.

In the last few years, Kirk has been strongly influenced by the Christian nationalists Rob mcCoy primarily.

Pete Hegseth is close to Christian nationalist pastor Douglas Wilson, who believes there should be a death penalty for gay sex.

Republican Rep Tim Walberg has praised Uganda's death penalty for gay sex.

Republican Rep Rick Allen read the Bible passage where St Paul calls those who have gay sex (among a long list of different crimes) 'worthy of death', during a session on

Evangelical groups like Family Watch International have worked with Uganda to push for and then support the death penalty law.

So with Republican politicians and evangelicals with those views, it's not inconceivable Kirk could have agreed with that verse.

YourLemonTiger · 12/09/2025 06:38

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:29

I read a very excellent dissection from a debating champion on why most of what CK is being idealised for is not genuine debate:

”There's going to bethere already isa lot of talk about "debate" in the present moment. That's because Charlie Kirk, killed yesterday in Utah by a sniper still at large, was a practitioner of a rhetorical performance that he and his followers characterized as a kind of debate.

Kirk's media machine would set the scene for such events by pushing provocative stories and short videos demonizing racial minorities, LGBTQ people, women and other targets. Then Kirk would visit campuses and hold forums using a "prove me wrong" format that invited students to challenge his viewpoints (viewpoints such as "If I see a Black pilot, I'm going to be like, 'Boy, I hope he's qualified'"). Kirk's approach combined rapid-fire questions, prepared talking points, and capturing contentious moments on video to shape a narrative for his online audience.

To be clear, Kirk had the legal right to do all of this, and it may have some value as political speech, as does a political ad or a rally full of polemic.

But equally clear, what Kirk was doing was engaging in a silly kind of mock-debating. It's something we've seen more of in recent years: individuals making outrageous statements and then appending them with taunts like “now debate me” or “prove me wrong.” I'm not going to get into whether we should be policing the meaning of words like "debate," but I am inviting debate educators and alumni to understand and to be willing and able to explain the difference between “prove me wrong” rituals and the kind of debate we teach and facilitate.

A helpful analogy for some: In Game of Thrones, at King Joffrey’s wedding feast (the “Purple Wedding”), the couple and guests watch a staged, grotesque mock jousting match performed by jesters, each representing one of the kings who had vied for power during the War of the Five Kings. The intent of the performance is to ridicule Joffrey’s fallen rivals and glorify his own reign, and it is obvious to some of the attendees that Joffrey intends it to humiliate certain wedding guests. It's an example of powerful people using mockery to assert dominance and provoke conflict.

What that mock battle is to real war, Kirkesque "prove me wrong" rituals are to meaningful debate. One important difference between the mockery and the authentic debate space is that in those “prove me wrong” rituals, participants are often unwittingly facilitating their own mockery.

Actual debating, even when adversarial (and it can be quite adversarial), is mutual. Both sides accept the premise that arguments will be tested, refuted, and defended on reciprocal, if not necessarily neutral ground. Even in the most competitive formats, there’s a tacit recognition of rules (although the rules themselves can be debated on similarly reciprocal terms). What makes baiting so corrosive is that it hijacks the aesthetics of debate (assertion, challenge, rebuttal) but strips away the accountability. Very often, it forces others to debate their own dignity from a defensive crouch, as if one were in a show trial in front of a gallery of laughing partisans.

I've seen public debates, on-campus debates, between fierce political and ideological opponentsstudent groups, guest speakers on opposite sides of an issueand those events invited and respected good-faith argumentation and, most importantly, some level of willingness to engage with complexity. In contrast, “prove me wrong” events favor quips and discourage line-by-line or wholistic engagement. We ought to at least gently explain that difference as often as we can.

I will leave it to others to do a deeper dive on Ezra Klein's opinion piece in today's New York Times, but I read the piece carefully, conscious of my own beliefs about the causes and solutions of political conflict and how they differ with Klein's. And I am still left with the conclusion that Klein's conflation of debate with rhetorical provocation is amateurish and irresponsible, and it results in a lack of both narrative coherence and narrative fidelity in the piece. Even his opening statement, "[t]he foundation of a free society is the ability to participate in politics without fear of violence." ignores how actual open dialogue is not possible when practitioners of "prove me wrong" rhetoric open their dubious invitations with statements that clearly demonstrate a desire for certain groups to live in fear of violence.

Some parts of the piece suggest Klein doesn't even know Charlie Kirk's full history, such as when Klein mentions the assault on Nancy Pelosi's husband (as an example of political violence) without mentioning that Kirk openly praised that assailant and called for followers to bail him out of jail (acts of praise for political violence, the kind of praise that Klein condemns when it comes from those celebrating Kirk's assassination).

If we actually care about public discourse, we must stop mistaking provocation for dialectic. And while there are good arguments not to ban the provocations, advocates of authentic debate practices should carefully and proactively distinguish debate pedagogy from mock jousting matches designed to attract viewers and spectatorship at the expense of building mutual understanding.”

I see, so Charlie Kirk wasn't debating in the 'correct' way?

Childrenare4life · 12/09/2025 06:39

Yes, I watched a lot of his clips online. I thought him extremely intelligent, fair, honest, respectful and refreshing. I cried when I heard the news. I didn't agree with all his views but I don't agree with all my husband's views. I think the world lost a good guy.

Blessthismess2 · 12/09/2025 06:39

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 06:36

His wife literally has a college degree and iirc runs some sort of Christian clothing brand.

So again, probably taking things wildly out of context to smear him.

lol. This is the context.

“"MRS degree" refers to going to college for the express purpose of getting married to an educated man. Kirk said the girls in attendance should "be clear that's why you're going to college."

"We know why you're here, and that's okay," he said. "That's a really good reason to go to college, actually. Especially, an SEC school.”

Kirk went on to say that he thought college was "a scam," but lauded the idea of attending to get hitched. He added that college-aged students are at the "prime of their attractiveness."“

Sorchamarie · 12/09/2025 06:41

Yes. I have, and I have seen many videos of him sharing his some of his utterly abhorrent racist, homophobic and above all, misogynistic views. I assume anyone who claims to respect this man either hasn't seen much of his "work" or share said abhorrent views.

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