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WhatNextBanana · 10/09/2025 22:58

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/us/comment/2025/09/10/charlie-kirks-shooting-terrible-moment-american-democracy/

Political violence on the rise.

People are getting angry when people have Political views they don't agree with. Freedom of speech must be allowed not shutdown.

Tragic news of a young family man shot by someone today. Please remember he was a human with a family. Violence is never ok.

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DipsyDee · 12/09/2025 18:43

It’s seems to me that America is imploding and the fight is on for its very soul. Trump has brought so
much division and despicable behaviour to the Oval Office that Americal’s falling apart is no surprise. I wouldn’t love there to can if you paid me.

Mustbethat · 12/09/2025 19:10

MoFadaCromulent · 12/09/2025 18:39

This white Mormon who grew up with guns being in custody is forcing some real handbrake turns online.

Oh been for a quick look. That shit’s hilarious.

everything from they’ve got the wrong person, to it’s a government cover up, to he’s been “radicalised” after one term at university and basically saying universities are responsible for corrupting the youth of America, don’t send your children or they’ll become murderers! I

anything but accept he’s a white MAGA donating pro gun Christian.

KhakiTiger · 12/09/2025 19:13

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 15:28

What an imbalanced perspective. Some left are dangerous. So are some right. Stop dehumanising whole groups of people, you should be ashamed of yourself.

Here is list of right AND left violence in the US in recent years.

On The Right
1.The murder of Melissa Hortman and her husband
2.The attempted murder of John Hoffman and his wife
3.The attempted kidnapping and murder of Gretchen Whitmer
4.The attempted kidnapping and murder of Nancy Pelosi and the brutal assault on her husband Paul with a hammer
5.The attempted murder of Esther Salas and the murder of her son Daniel
6.The attempted arson of Josh Shapiro and his family while they slept during Passover
(I've seen people say this was a Left wing murder attempt bc it was an anti Semitic attempt to blame him for the Palestine situation. However, the would-be murderer voted Trump in the last election and previously had been an independent. There are also Palestine fanatics (not just reasonable campaigners) and anti Semites on the right, though it is more common on the left, so I don't think it should be labelled Left just bc it's those things)
7.Pipe bomb sent to Biden

On The Left

1.Two assassination attempts on Trump

(One of which killed a bystander)

3.Attempted murder of Brett Kavanagh

  1. Murder of Charlie Kirk
  1. Murder of Israeli Embassy couple
  1. Anti Semitic attack in Boulder, Colorado
  1. Minneapolis shooting of Catholic school children.
  1. Nashville shooting of Christian schoolchildren
  1. Bomb at RNC

United Healthcare CEO Brian Thompson's murder is more difficult to classify as murderer held a mixture of left and right views, and was unaffiliated to a party.

BLM protests led to 25 deaths, by a mixture of left and right wing perpetrators. Will break this down later.

Tesla attacks on vehicles seem aimed more at the vehicle but also appear to intend to endanger human life- which they have.

ICE boxing and violence against ICE agents.

Bombing of 'crisis pregnancy' anti-abortion centres.

Bombing of IVF clinic by anti-natalist. This ideology is technically neither left or right but is more popular on extreme left than extreme right.

Others On The Right

The abortion clinic bombing planned in 2024 by a Neo-Nazi ex-Marine. He was also planning to target Jewish & LGBT people.

Mike Pence attempted lynching during Jan 6.

Heather Heying murder by neo-Nazi at Charlottesville.

Shall I copy paste you a list from Google too? Nah. Can’t be bothered. Look it up yourself.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:18

KhakiTiger · 12/09/2025 19:13

Shall I copy paste you a list from Google too? Nah. Can’t be bothered. Look it up yourself.

Edited

Look what up? I pasted acts of terrible violence by BOTH right AND left. I am fully aware of that there far too many evil & violent people on both sides.

Which left wing crimes have I missed? Please let me know

pointythings · 12/09/2025 19:25

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:18

Look what up? I pasted acts of terrible violence by BOTH right AND left. I am fully aware of that there far too many evil & violent people on both sides.

Which left wing crimes have I missed? Please let me know

You haven't missed anything. Some posters on here are as blinkered to the crimes of the right as other people are to the crimes of the left.

This is interesting https://www.adl.org/resources/report/murder-and-extremism-united-states-2024

In 2022, 2023 and 2024 all killings identified as having ties to extremism were connected to the far right.

Of course one can always argue methodology, but it is certainly incorrect to state that the left are the mass killers here.

phoenixrosehere · 12/09/2025 19:30

GetOffMyLan · 12/09/2025 17:24

Funny how this whole concept of belittling DEI initiatives and "meritocracy" comes out of an administration where EVERYONE is unqualified for the job that they hold and the only merit that is taken into account is how far they are willing to bend over for Trump. However doctors and scientists who actually went to school and EARNED their credentials are losing their jobs based on their skin colour. You have it backwards, they are replacing qualified minorities with unqualified Trump bootlickers so who is actually getting the leg up here? Shocking that people can't see this.

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Agree.

Right now, several HBCs are under lockdown due to reactions to his murder when HBCs have nothing to do with it. I highly doubt those colleges and universities are making it up.

I do recall when the floods happened in Texas, they were trying to blame a Black fire chief for not going to help when the Texan city he was in was hours apart and anyone with google maps could look it up and see that for themselves but it doesn’t matter to some.

They did the same with the California wildfires, blaming minority fire chiefs for how bad it got and ignoring what actual weather experts were saying.

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:31

I just really wish more people on the extreme ends of the left AND right would move towards the centre and try and find some common ground.

I heard someone say once that culture used to swing like a pendulum. It now swings like a wrecking ball. Sometimes it feels like nobody is in the centre politically anymore but then I try and convince myself perhaps they should don’t shout as loud as either side. Neither side like the centre, either.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:35

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:31

I just really wish more people on the extreme ends of the left AND right would move towards the centre and try and find some common ground.

I heard someone say once that culture used to swing like a pendulum. It now swings like a wrecking ball. Sometimes it feels like nobody is in the centre politically anymore but then I try and convince myself perhaps they should don’t shout as loud as either side. Neither side like the centre, either.

Exactly, thank you! People on this thread acting like the right has no vile murderers, only the left. Others defending the assassination of a father of 2 toddlers. All vile.

EliosBackPack · 12/09/2025 19:35

He said empathy was a made up word, well I have empathy for his wife, children and family, no person should die like this - even though his beliefs were anathema to me.
He said some deaths were inevitable with the right to bear arms, so I wonder how the parents of Sandy Hook, Uvalde and all the others feel, I certainly have empathy and sorrow with them.
He will be made a martyr by the right wing and I wonder where were the flags at half mast for the two Democrat Senators gunned down recently and the sympathy for Nancy Pelosi’s husband’s dreadful injuries.
He DID do stuff, influencing people, particularly young, white men into his beliefs.
I am sorry a young man died as he did, but I do not mourn him.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:36

pointythings · 12/09/2025 19:25

You haven't missed anything. Some posters on here are as blinkered to the crimes of the right as other people are to the crimes of the left.

This is interesting https://www.adl.org/resources/report/murder-and-extremism-united-states-2024

In 2022, 2023 and 2024 all killings identified as having ties to extremism were connected to the far right.

Of course one can always argue methodology, but it is certainly incorrect to state that the left are the mass killers here.

Thank you.

To add to my post, I would say that Trump's assasin Crooks is neither right nor left as he had ties to both. Same for people calling Mangione left when really he was a bit of both.

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:37

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:35

Exactly, thank you! People on this thread acting like the right has no vile murderers, only the left. Others defending the assassination of a father of 2 toddlers. All vile.

It’s madness and it’s all to protect extreme ends of a spectrum when those posters likely sit around the centre of the spectrum themselves. That makes no sense to me. It’s very tribal.

After what has happened to CK, I have today made a promise to myself that I will stop referring to either the left or the right as one homogeneous mass and just say that I disagree with extremism in any form.

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:41

EliosBackPack · 12/09/2025 19:35

He said empathy was a made up word, well I have empathy for his wife, children and family, no person should die like this - even though his beliefs were anathema to me.
He said some deaths were inevitable with the right to bear arms, so I wonder how the parents of Sandy Hook, Uvalde and all the others feel, I certainly have empathy and sorrow with them.
He will be made a martyr by the right wing and I wonder where were the flags at half mast for the two Democrat Senators gunned down recently and the sympathy for Nancy Pelosi’s husband’s dreadful injuries.
He DID do stuff, influencing people, particularly young, white men into his beliefs.
I am sorry a young man died as he did, but I do not mourn him.

Here is another example of someone taking the empathy quote out of context.
He said he preferred the word sympathy as the word empathy implies you know how the other person feels and nobody can know exactly how someone else feels.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:42

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:37

It’s madness and it’s all to protect extreme ends of a spectrum when those posters likely sit around the centre of the spectrum themselves. That makes no sense to me. It’s very tribal.

After what has happened to CK, I have today made a promise to myself that I will stop referring to either the left or the right as one homogeneous mass and just say that I disagree with extremism in any form.

It's heartening to see such a sensible & humane post.

EasternStandard · 12/09/2025 19:43

Mustbethat · 12/09/2025 19:10

Oh been for a quick look. That shit’s hilarious.

everything from they’ve got the wrong person, to it’s a government cover up, to he’s been “radicalised” after one term at university and basically saying universities are responsible for corrupting the youth of America, don’t send your children or they’ll become murderers! I

anything but accept he’s a white MAGA donating pro gun Christian.

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The Independent says he was politically unaffiliated and became more full of hate re Kirk over some months

Mustbethat · 12/09/2025 19:52

phoenixrosehere · 12/09/2025 19:30

Agree.

Right now, several HBCs are under lockdown due to reactions to his murder when HBCs have nothing to do with it. I highly doubt those colleges and universities are making it up.

I do recall when the floods happened in Texas, they were trying to blame a Black fire chief for not going to help when the Texan city he was in was hours apart and anyone with google maps could look it up and see that for themselves but it doesn’t matter to some.

They did the same with the California wildfires, blaming minority fire chiefs for how bad it got and ignoring what actual weather experts were saying.

What’s a HBC?

GeneralPeter · 12/09/2025 20:02

Mustbethat · 12/09/2025 19:10

Oh been for a quick look. That shit’s hilarious.

everything from they’ve got the wrong person, to it’s a government cover up, to he’s been “radicalised” after one term at university and basically saying universities are responsible for corrupting the youth of America, don’t send your children or they’ll become murderers! I

anything but accept he’s a white MAGA donating pro gun Christian.

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anything but accept he’s a white MAGA donating pro gun Christian.

There's very little confirmed information about the shooter right now. The MAGA donation looks like it's from a different Tyler Robinson who was 34yrs in 2020. We don't know the shooter's full motives or beliefs. He's from a Mormon family (most Christians would say that's not Christian, though Mormons disagree).

If you want to criticise people for jumping to conclusions and filling in the gaps with their own preferred profile, you shouldn't really do the same thing.

(I don't have any 'preferred' group for this to be. It's not a win either way).

MoFadaCromulent · 12/09/2025 20:44

GeneralPeter · 12/09/2025 20:02

anything but accept he’s a white MAGA donating pro gun Christian.

There's very little confirmed information about the shooter right now. The MAGA donation looks like it's from a different Tyler Robinson who was 34yrs in 2020. We don't know the shooter's full motives or beliefs. He's from a Mormon family (most Christians would say that's not Christian, though Mormons disagree).

If you want to criticise people for jumping to conclusions and filling in the gaps with their own preferred profile, you shouldn't really do the same thing.

(I don't have any 'preferred' group for this to be. It's not a win either way).

Oh completely, it's the about turn from those who were happy to proclaim this a trans assassin to start calling for patience and advocating for people not to use the murder to score political points or push their agenda that's incredible to see.

TinyIsMyNewt · 12/09/2025 22:49

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:31

I just really wish more people on the extreme ends of the left AND right would move towards the centre and try and find some common ground.

I heard someone say once that culture used to swing like a pendulum. It now swings like a wrecking ball. Sometimes it feels like nobody is in the centre politically anymore but then I try and convince myself perhaps they should don’t shout as loud as either side. Neither side like the centre, either.

I'll try and check my biases, but - to be upfront - I'm on the left.

Although your posts sound reasonable (and are, in parts), I don't think I agree them in their entirety.

In a US context, I don't think there really has been much of a swing to the left at any stage. Looking at the 2000s, we had George W. Bush (traditional right wing conservative), Barack Obama (a centrist Democrat), Trump (radical right wing populist), Biden (centrist Democrat), Trump again (more radicalized than the first time).

While I hate a lot of Trumpian politics - if he wins and election, then he gets to set and carry out his agenda - that's how a democracy should work. What makes Trump, and those around him terrifying is that they do not respect the democratic process. He and his supporters (including Charlie Kirk) embraced election denialism and tried to overthrow the 2020 election results. Democracy held - barely - as certain key persons in his first administration put democracy above winning. This time, all of those democracy-safeguarders have been sidelined, and we only have the election deniers left.

Election denialism seems to have become mainstream on the Republican side, and isn't an fringe position. I would, sadly, be very surprised if we see free and fair elections in the US again in the foreseeable future. Denying democracy is likely the most extreme position you can take in a democracy!

In the UK, there was Blair and Brown's Labour (a very centrist Lab government), a string of Conservatives (some moderate, some further to the right, no extremists of the MAGA sort) and now a very centrist Labour government.

The only leftward-swing has been specific to the transgender issue. Certainly, there's a fair amount of hostility at a grass roots level, but I do think it worth bearing in mind that, at a government policy level in the UK, it hasn't really developed in a partisan manner.

And, as I've mentioned a few times, political violence (particularly killings) in the US is almost always an extreme-right issue. It should still be condemned on those rare occasions where the extreme left engage in it, but I don't think they should be equivocated, given the massive disparity in frequency. E.g., I think most people would accept that male violence is a problem, and that pointing to the fact that sometimes women also commit violence is a lame defence, given the disparity in rates. The Right/Left split in politically motivated murders (around 95% to 5%) is actually more pronounced than the Male/Female split for violence and murders.

Things arent as severe in the UK, and I acknowledge that there are many, many inflammatory, uncompromising dickheads on social media, on the left and right. In the US, though, the problem is very much right wing extremism, which Kirk indulged in, and that should be recognized (although I do agree, that doesnt necessarily mean talking in absolutes).

TooBigForMyBoots · 12/09/2025 23:17

MoFadaCromulent · 12/09/2025 20:44

Oh completely, it's the about turn from those who were happy to proclaim this a trans assassin to start calling for patience and advocating for people not to use the murder to score political points or push their agenda that's incredible to see.

Yep.

DdraigGoch · 13/09/2025 03:18

thebabayaga2025 · 12/09/2025 10:00

Posted on the othe Charlie Kirk thread too. Bears repeating.

As JK Rowling tweeted earlier: "If you believe free speech is for you but not your political opponents, you're illiberal. If no contrary evidence could change your beliefs, you're a fundamentalist. If you believe the state should punish those with contrary views, you're a totalitarian. If you believe political opponents should be punished with violence or death, you're a terrorist." Three hundred and thirty three thousand likes and counting. Thank God for rational, compassionate voices who are willing to call a terrorist a terrorist.

And, as Elon Musk tweeted "The left is the party of murder".

Two people from opposite ends of the political spectrum, one who has traditional leftist values and voted left at the last election. One who is right wing and voted for Trump.

Both are correct.

Every single person crowing about the slaughter of a man in front of his young children for speaking words you do not agree with is a fascist and totalitarian, in favour of terrorism and murder.

I no longer respond to such scum, just to be clear.

And before yesterday I had not heard of him, but I quickly educated myself and discovered that he was a law abiding man who did not advocate violence but believed in free speech.

Those who have been screaming about the danger from the right with their guns turned out to be the violent and dangerous ones all along.

This aged well.

whereaw · 13/09/2025 07:25

Charlie Kirk wouldn't care about the people who laugh or say extreme things about him, or try to say what he believed was hateful or wrong. He wouldn't want their 'empathy' anyways.

He was ultimately putting forward a total position of what the ideal world would look like - and so if you pick apart different bits of it, it can seem shocking or wrong to you. But for many people he offered something to aim for - MANY men get a sense of purpose out of being the provider and protector. To teach them to work hard and do that gives them hope and purpose and strength. MANY women want to be able to be at home with their children, to love and nurture them, teaching them that that's good can rid them of societal pressures that scorn them for doing so. His wife also studied and had a career as well. I say this as someone who has not followed this path and works just as much as my partner.
He was anti-abortion. But that's because he was evangelical Christian. The Logos is Reason - if you believe life starts at conception and is a gift from God/ in God's hands, you cannot say it is ok in this situation but not that. Open debate about abortion is good - we should think deeply. It is a life. I say that as someone who's had one.
He believed that marriage should be between a man and woman. But he wasn't 'anti-gay', he thought gay people should be welcomed too. He has many gay supporters, e.g. Douglas Murray.
He was pre-guns for protection. I don't like guns, I'm not American and I don't understand the debate here fully. Yes his death can be seen as 'ironic' for this, but its also ironic for many other reasons. Mostly that liberalism should fundamentally be about accepting views different to your own, but clearly, based on comments we see here and elsewhere most 'liberal' people can no longer do that.

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/09/2025 07:43

TinyIsMyNewt · 12/09/2025 22:49

I'll try and check my biases, but - to be upfront - I'm on the left.

Although your posts sound reasonable (and are, in parts), I don't think I agree them in their entirety.

In a US context, I don't think there really has been much of a swing to the left at any stage. Looking at the 2000s, we had George W. Bush (traditional right wing conservative), Barack Obama (a centrist Democrat), Trump (radical right wing populist), Biden (centrist Democrat), Trump again (more radicalized than the first time).

While I hate a lot of Trumpian politics - if he wins and election, then he gets to set and carry out his agenda - that's how a democracy should work. What makes Trump, and those around him terrifying is that they do not respect the democratic process. He and his supporters (including Charlie Kirk) embraced election denialism and tried to overthrow the 2020 election results. Democracy held - barely - as certain key persons in his first administration put democracy above winning. This time, all of those democracy-safeguarders have been sidelined, and we only have the election deniers left.

Election denialism seems to have become mainstream on the Republican side, and isn't an fringe position. I would, sadly, be very surprised if we see free and fair elections in the US again in the foreseeable future. Denying democracy is likely the most extreme position you can take in a democracy!

In the UK, there was Blair and Brown's Labour (a very centrist Lab government), a string of Conservatives (some moderate, some further to the right, no extremists of the MAGA sort) and now a very centrist Labour government.

The only leftward-swing has been specific to the transgender issue. Certainly, there's a fair amount of hostility at a grass roots level, but I do think it worth bearing in mind that, at a government policy level in the UK, it hasn't really developed in a partisan manner.

And, as I've mentioned a few times, political violence (particularly killings) in the US is almost always an extreme-right issue. It should still be condemned on those rare occasions where the extreme left engage in it, but I don't think they should be equivocated, given the massive disparity in frequency. E.g., I think most people would accept that male violence is a problem, and that pointing to the fact that sometimes women also commit violence is a lame defence, given the disparity in rates. The Right/Left split in politically motivated murders (around 95% to 5%) is actually more pronounced than the Male/Female split for violence and murders.

Things arent as severe in the UK, and I acknowledge that there are many, many inflammatory, uncompromising dickheads on social media, on the left and right. In the US, though, the problem is very much right wing extremism, which Kirk indulged in, and that should be recognized (although I do agree, that doesnt necessarily mean talking in absolutes).

Hi 👋
You may be on the left but by the way you write, you certainly aren’t an extremist.

It is true that governments themselves haven’t swung to the far left, I agree. I also agree with your statement about democracy.

I was referring to public opinion. Sometimes it feels to me like it has become too extreme but as I said, I’m hoping that’s more down to people who are closer to the centre not shouting as loud. Maybe I need to spend less time on the internet but everything just seems so polarised at the moment with most people being more interested in ‘winning’ and defending their side than really listening to the other side (your post is an excellent example of not doing that by the way - so thank you)

You make a good point by comparing left wing vs right wing violence to male vs female violence. I haven’t looked up stats but I will believe you when you say it is much more a right wing problem. But even having said that, it feels like everyone of us can at least try to embody rational and logical debate (as you are doing here) and stop being so tribal and emotional about it all. I do find it depressing. I was on another CK thread last night and it felt like it was starting to move in the right way but I went back this morning and it had descended in to the usual cesspit.

Im not sure I even know what I am trying to say. I think I just wish that everyone, left or right, would try and keep more of an open mind and listen to each other and remember we are all human beings.

CantCallItLove · 13/09/2025 08:22

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/09/2025 07:43

Hi 👋
You may be on the left but by the way you write, you certainly aren’t an extremist.

It is true that governments themselves haven’t swung to the far left, I agree. I also agree with your statement about democracy.

I was referring to public opinion. Sometimes it feels to me like it has become too extreme but as I said, I’m hoping that’s more down to people who are closer to the centre not shouting as loud. Maybe I need to spend less time on the internet but everything just seems so polarised at the moment with most people being more interested in ‘winning’ and defending their side than really listening to the other side (your post is an excellent example of not doing that by the way - so thank you)

You make a good point by comparing left wing vs right wing violence to male vs female violence. I haven’t looked up stats but I will believe you when you say it is much more a right wing problem. But even having said that, it feels like everyone of us can at least try to embody rational and logical debate (as you are doing here) and stop being so tribal and emotional about it all. I do find it depressing. I was on another CK thread last night and it felt like it was starting to move in the right way but I went back this morning and it had descended in to the usual cesspit.

Im not sure I even know what I am trying to say. I think I just wish that everyone, left or right, would try and keep more of an open mind and listen to each other and remember we are all human beings.

I'm on that other thread with you and agree by the way. It feels like we're on quite a descent, and I fear more riots and more violence and more polarisation. It is quite clear that Trump is deliberately whipping this up, and that Kirk's murder will be used to inflame things further.

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