Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim

[Jkam24]

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

They’re so funny at this age, my Dd came out of school one day a bit upset and when I eventually got her to say what was wrong she said ‘mummy, why didn’t you tell me you’re Scottish?’ I said I’m not Scottish, where did you get that idea from? And she said the teacher had said something about Scotland and followed it up with ‘that’s where your mummy’s from’ she had obviously mistaken my accent. DD wouldn’t have it that the teacher was wrong!

@PorridgeAndSyrup thank you, Ill definitely take this on board. Didn't realise feeling emotion in regards to a child I gave birth to would enrage so many people! You're either too invested or not invested enough - and this is from fellow mothers. People need to do better

Don't bother the teacher with this nonsense. Use your critical thinking skills and accept that it's a misunderstanding.

They have better things to do than this.

I would find out more first. Seems odd.

I think approaching the teacher to confirm your daughter's record is correct so that her dietary requirements are met could be a non confrontational way to open the conversation. I would tell her you are checking because of what your daughter told you and take it from there.

I’m not sure anyone is enraged at you feeling emotional towards your child. Bit hyperbolic that. I think people think it’s a ridiculous thing to approach the Teacher with.

Feedback to parents comes with a teaching position.
I don't know why pp's are being rude. OP is pleasantly replying.

Teachers are unfortunately untouchable on Mumsnet OP....they are always in the right and children in the wrong 🙄
(Then we wonder why kids grow up with low self esteem and other emotional difficulties)

Yes 4 year olds do embellish, confuse, imagine and misconstruct stories, but they can also be very honest.

Everyone is assuming the teacher hasn't said the comment for sure, but none of us even know her....and doubt she would be honest and admit it if she did say that!

Obviously many teachers would never say such a thing, however that doesn't mean none would! And situations like this are more likely around younger kids as staff will know that for the most part they won't remember then go home and tell their parents, or the parents won't believe it, so they can get away with it.

Something has clearly been said to upset this child (so comparisons about imaginative stories arent really relevant...this isn't just her having abit of fun) It needs following up for sure OP for the sake of advocating for your child, although unfortunately i'm not sure you'll get to the bottom of it.

I hear what you are saying, but I suppose for people who have experienced discrimination on the grounds of race/religion (potentially many times), they are potentially more likely to remain cautious distrustful until proven otherwise, and for good reason. I think it can be hard for people who are part of the “majority” in a particular area to understand that. Therefore the anxiety about their child being discriminated against is also higher.

@Jkam24 if I were you I would gently check it out with the teacher… “Dd was telling me you were talking about religion, I think she may have got confused…” I think the teacher’s response will give you a lot of info to go on about their outlook. I would really hope that the recruitment and training of teachers would mean that this would not happen

@KitsyWitsy Im happy to accept it is a misunderstanding after clarification. After all what if in the unlikely event it did happen and the teacher holds and states out loud the same views of that children can't be Jews, Christians, Hindus, Sikhs, Wicca, Agnostics, Atheists etc? It's just not her place and I will do the right thing by addressing it just in case and do it without trying to hurt anyone. Its not nonsense, it matters. It would matter equally if the teacher said that a child can't be an atheist.

This

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My brother did this about his baby brother. He was the youngest. The brother he talked about was his hamster. My parents found out when the teacher asked after Freddie and a weird conversation ensued.

No, teachers are not "untouchable" on MN. That's silly. Why make sweeping statements like that?
Most people have supported the OP's wise decision for clarification. No doubt if she has concerns, she has the wit to take it further.

My child, aged 4, told a teaching assistant his dad was in the war. The TA told him not to be ridiculous, of course his dad wasn’t in the war.

I went and spoke to the TA. She laughed and said to me “Of course I told him not to be so silly. Of course his dad wasn’t in the war.”

I told her went faught in Iraq and some of them died. She looked stunned and apologised profusely.

Yes one of the teacher standards does relate to communicating with parents. This is more about the child’s progress etc though. I mean it’s as though some posters think the teacher went up to the child and said ‘ hey you’re not a Muslim’. Come on! Where is the common sense? This is why I think the op will sound silly if she raises it.

@40andlovelife Im not sure what to say to you except this is the internet and it was supposed to be hyperbolic. I would also advise on actually reading the comments as most people have advised to just ask.. can't do anything right us Moslems!

AIBU is the worst cesspit to be fair, there is also a Muslim parents section where you might get more sensible responses. I've been on Mumsnet for 18 years and its always been quite hostile so I only use it for advice on general topics on here.

Perhaps this thread has run its course. There are plenty of opinions and further comments seem to only be getting op all het up.

My ds is half Arab and doesn’t look it at all. Blonde hair, white, green eyes, no typical Arab features. People are always shocked when they see his last name and probably think I’ve been with the milkman.

They're also shocked when they realise he eats halal food or starts speaking Arabic. Could it not be that the teacher wrongly thought she was not mixed hence presumed she was not a Muslim?

My DD was terrified of "Jerry" in preschool, she kept saying he stared at her, he looked angry, when I asked the teacher about Jerry, he was the classroom puppet, teacher used to tell stories. 🤣

@PlaceIntheClouds "all het up." Here's another useful one!

I have no idea why you would think my opinion has anything to do with you being Moslem. People can have different opinions. You came on here asking for opinions. I gave mine. You don’t like it so have attributed the fact my opinion conflicts with yours to your religion. Please grow up.

@40andlovelife I don't dislike your opinion, I took it on board but pointed out to you that most have advised to speak to the teacher yet you are saying it's ridiculous to do so.. give me strength.

Don't let people put you off @Jkam24

You have every right to check whether that was said to your child because if so, it's inaccurate.

And try not to be defensive or argumentative if that HAS been said (although I know you will feel annoyed)
Just pleasantly correct the misinformation.

Good luck....

Your post made me think of the sketch and the misunderstandings or lost in translations kids have

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