Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim

[Jkam24]

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

Hang on. Back the hell up. Because people are questioning a 4yr olds accuracy you’re saying they’re not invested enough in their children and need to be better parents?

And this one

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdb9URkU/

I always liked this one

A little boy was doing his maths homework & saying:
2+5,the son of a bitch is 7.
3+6, the son of a bitch is 9.
His Mom: What are you doing?
Boy: I'm doing maths homework.
Mom: this is how your teacher taught you?
Boy: Yes.
Infuriated Mom asked the teacher the next day- 'What
are you teaching my son in maths?'
Teacher: Right now, we are learning addition.
Mom: You teaching them to say 2+ 2, the Son of a bitch
is 4?
Teacher after laughing: What I taught them was, 2+2, the
sum of which is 4.

@Lovelyladiesarenotinsecure ermmm no. I'm saying people always have an opinion on others and what their interpretation is of being too invested or not invested enough. How did you jump to that conclusion?

I don't think she's saying that at all. It's getting late, maybe you need some sleep?
Meant in the kindest way....

Odd. I would very much doubt this was the actual conversation.

The only thing I can think of is : are you all white/British? Converts ?(Most people of the Islamic faith are not )

By the way people - I am a teacher. I've seen both sides, where kids get the wrong end of the stick and also when a fellow teacher has said something that's not appropriate. You'd be surprised how much it happens and adults think they can get away with it because they're addressing a child. People are fallible. I'm keeping an open mind either way

@BollyKnickerz her dad is white so I would say she is ethnically ambiguous

This ^ sounds like a good opening gambit for the conversation

I wonder if it's that !?

I'd bluntly tell the teacher what was said. See her response and reaction and go from there.

My daughter came home from Kindergarten years ago very upset, Don't make me do it Mummy! She had a note about a fund raising event at the weekend, a Bring and Buy Sale, they had been told about it in Kindergarten but she was adamant she didn't want to take part. After I manage to stop the flow of tears it turned out that she had been half listening and heard Bring a Bicycle, she thought she had to take her bike and buy something else.

Nothing to do with religion, but when I registered my fourth child at school, I accidentally put the wrong date of birth. When they did a ‘This is me’ task, my child gave the correct birthday date, and the teacher told him it was wrong because it didn’t match the information on their records. It was a bit embarrassing to have to go in and tell them I’d made a mistake. Perhaps the school record for your daughter is incorrect?

I have a reception age child and, respectfully, the brightest kids at this age will usually have the most overactive imaginations!

Does your daughter get a Halal school meal? If not I'm wondering if this might be where the confusion arose.

Have you ever seen the description of the mum that is selling the last snow shovel they have left in the shop?

THAT is how there can be 2 sides.

YANBU.

But mumsnet won't afford your religion with the same level of empathy and consideration that they would give to other religions.

My child came home from reception and said they had been learning about sex ! Turned out they were learning about “sets” in maths!

@Owl55 I love all these funny stories! Unrelated but my daughter once asked what I was cooking - lentils - and she kept saying "oh like the movie!" I was confused but went along, realising after she went to bed she was referring to the movie Elemental 🥹

@DustlandFairytaleBeginning she does! I just find the whole thing so odd. We talk about religion related values as part of our day to day life but I haven't had a conversation with her where I've said we're Muslim until she asked directly today. So I'm wondering where did this conversation come from, I was surprised she even asked me as I wasn't aware she understood the concept of religion / being Muslim - but the thread has been helpful in suggestions of what could have actually happened. I think the one that makes the most sense is that she asked if her teacher is Muslim to which she replied no and that's where the mix up was! Hopefully there aren't teachers out there dictating a childs (religious) beliefs aside from universal human values ❤️

How do I stop replies on this bloody thread without deleting it? 🤣

I'm a retired Scottish secondary school teacher. I normally avoided the topic as well.

However...One time a teenage boy was mouthing off about his participation in Orange Walks and how he hated Catholics.

"Why do you hate Catholics?"

"Cos I'm a Protestant."

"Are you a member of a church?"

"Naw. Only Catholics go to church."

"I beg to differ. I'm a member of the Church of Scotland, so I'm a Protestant."

"Protestants don't go to church."

"I assure you that they do. You're telling me that you've never been inside a church..."

"It's just Catholics that do that."

"So what makes you think that you're a Protestant?"

I can't remember the full conversation now, but the poor lad seemed to think that "Protestant" meant "atheist". I suppose that he might have tried to make a case for "Protestant" as signifier of cultural rather than religious belief but he wasn't up to that: I rather think that he also believed that only Protestants played the flute [badly].

I half expected a parental complaint, but there was none.

YANBU if the teacher said this, but I voted YABU as you are angry solely based on what your DD has said.

Drop the teacher an email/ have a chat at pick up and ask where your DD might have got this impression, or if she did say that, why?

I think this is quite feasibly what has happened then. The teacher has a preconceived idea in her head of what a Muslim child looks like and your child does not fit that image. You can set her straight tomorrow if this is the case and the teacher will learn not to make assumptions.

I know, there are some very tough people on here apparently! But when the children start reception, it only feels like 5 minutes ago that they were little babies, and it is easy to feel helpless as a parent because it's hard to know what's really going on in the classroom, and you never know how much to believe of what they say. But obviously it's going to be upsetting seeing your child cry! Good luck anyway!

I’m astonished you’re as bothered as you are, considering you’re a teacher yourself.

Get a grip.

It is a misunderstanding because I can almost guarantee a four year old got it wrong.

Seriously step back and think about this. There is nothing untoward here don’t look to be offended.