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Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim

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Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:45

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

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Petitchat · 12/09/2025 18:35

PurpleChrayn · 12/09/2025 17:36

My 4-year-old told me the teacher put her in a cage. They chat an awful lot of shite at that age. Just ignore.

But the teacher has admitted she said it...

cumbriaisbest · 12/09/2025 18:35

Is this a state school? God help teachers...any God will do.

CaptainMyCaptain · 12/09/2025 19:07

cumbriaisbest · 12/09/2025 18:32

I can't understand how a teacher with 30 odd demanding children managed to have this conversation.

I wouldn't need to have taken long. Teachers do talk to children.

cumbriaisbest · 12/09/2025 20:37

CaptainMyCaptain · 12/09/2025 19:07

I wouldn't need to have taken long. Teachers do talk to children.

Yes and they've got better thigns to do that discuss Islam with a 4 year old.

CaptainMyCaptain · 12/09/2025 20:45

cumbriaisbest · 12/09/2025 20:37

Yes and they've got better thigns to do that discuss Islam with a 4 year old.

I was a teacher of young children for 30 years and we talked about all kinds of things although I don't remember a conversation about Islam. It doesn't have to be in depth but it's a way of building a relationship and I enjoyed it. Admittedly most of my career was before Academisation and teaching by script.

SweetnsourNZ · 13/09/2025 03:13

Jkam24 · 11/09/2025 12:12

Teacher said she did say it because she doesn't think children can have a religion. I didn't say much but will have a think on how to move forward - it's ok for her to think that but not for her to say it, but I am not looking to get her into trouble, rather to clarify that stating this out loud to a child is beyond her position.

To the rest of you - learn to articulate yourself without prejudices and swearing as you've just proved the point that such views exist. I wonder why people think it's ok to speak to people like shit and whether they would think it's ok to speak to someone in the same way face to face!

Edited

That is teacher's opinion and has nothing to do with your child or family. When it comes to religion it is up to parents to decide, whether you are Muslim. Aetheist or Pagan.

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 09:06

Champagneandpringles24 · 11/09/2025 19:50

Or people need to realise this is a Christian country.

You need to realise that most people in this country are not Christians.

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 09:13

Jkam24 · 11/09/2025 12:12

Teacher said she did say it because she doesn't think children can have a religion. I didn't say much but will have a think on how to move forward - it's ok for her to think that but not for her to say it, but I am not looking to get her into trouble, rather to clarify that stating this out loud to a child is beyond her position.

To the rest of you - learn to articulate yourself without prejudices and swearing as you've just proved the point that such views exist. I wonder why people think it's ok to speak to people like shit and whether they would think it's ok to speak to someone in the same way face to face!

Edited

If the teacher admits she said it - to a 4 year old! - then you have a duty to take it further.

It is a denial of the child's religious and cultural identity and highly inappropriate - possibly professional misconduct.

PorridgeAndSyrup · 14/09/2025 18:38

Jkam24 · 11/09/2025 12:12

Teacher said she did say it because she doesn't think children can have a religion. I didn't say much but will have a think on how to move forward - it's ok for her to think that but not for her to say it, but I am not looking to get her into trouble, rather to clarify that stating this out loud to a child is beyond her position.

To the rest of you - learn to articulate yourself without prejudices and swearing as you've just proved the point that such views exist. I wonder why people think it's ok to speak to people like shit and whether they would think it's ok to speak to someone in the same way face to face!

Edited

This is a silly thing for her to say, because even if she’s right that young children can’t fully understand religion, it is simply a fact that your child is being raised as Muslim, religion is often as much a cultural thing too. So for example your child will be celebrating festivals that her non-Muslim classmates will not, etc.

anyolddinosaur · 15/09/2025 10:48

Why was the teacher even asking children about their religion? This seems an odd thing to be doing at all, even odder to then tell a child that she didnt believe them. The teacher needed to be told that her action had upset a child and she should keep that view to herself. However to immediately jump to this means she was islamophobic or has to be constantly monitored for future transgressions fuels racism.

terrafirma2025 · 15/09/2025 10:52

Jkam24 · 11/09/2025 12:12

Teacher said she did say it because she doesn't think children can have a religion. I didn't say much but will have a think on how to move forward - it's ok for her to think that but not for her to say it, but I am not looking to get her into trouble, rather to clarify that stating this out loud to a child is beyond her position.

To the rest of you - learn to articulate yourself without prejudices and swearing as you've just proved the point that such views exist. I wonder why people think it's ok to speak to people like shit and whether they would think it's ok to speak to someone in the same way face to face!

Edited

Shit is a swear word, btw.

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