To ask DH to keep our BTL

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We own a BTL property that generates a decent income for me - it’s set up so that most of the income is directed to me. DH plans to refurbish and sell the property and us the proceeds to pay of the mortgage on our house. All very sensible but as I don’t work, the BTL is my only source of income. DH doesn’t plan on reducing the monthly payments on our mortgage, but he is going to reduce the term, so we won’t see any immediate benefit from lower repayments. I am feeling distressed because this money provides me with considerable financial freedom.

My husband is refusing to discuss and has told me the plan to sell is final.

Thank you for this thread OP and I’m sorry about some of the harsh criticism you got. In a perfect world the work of mothering and all that it entails in terms of community building, proper nutrition and ensuring children are well rested and get plenty of movement, not mention that elderly family members are considered similarly, all of that would be valued and rewarded financially as well as socially just as much as any other ‘work’. But it’s very apparent it’s not at all and never will be. Call it the ultimate failure of feminism. I have no idea what your actual situation is but the responses to your thread are interesting independently of it. I would say - independent income will give you a little more power in your relationship and a disproportionate amount of respect from society. Better to clean someone else’s toilet for money than to just clean your own. Better to care for someone else’s child for money and in turn pay someone else to care for yours. It’s capitalist culture at its most absurd. But it is how it is and better to play the game than to end up destitute and held in contempt by people who can’t see the injustice of it. Ultimately a change of some kind will be forced on the system because women just won’t or can’t have children in these cultural and economic conditions. That is very apparent.

Apparent, is your pompous hyperbole and doom prophesies.
Women have given birth during Industrial revolution, famine,war,epidemic…I think we can cope with employment too @Wetoldyousaurus

Assuming I am a man is not the wise of you.

Good day

Why do you have a cleaner if you’re unemployed and your children are at school? You don’t even need one if you have a part time job (many including me don’t have a cleaner but work full time). You’ve had a very easy life so time to get a full time job and contribute financially.

Mothers have worked for hundreds of years, but especially post ww2. Why did I go back to work a year post partum? I want a career and be a mum. We also needed the money. Many women choose useless men to have children with and then complain that the men don’t do equal housework and childcare.

The op already said that a health issue stops her from cleaning to the standard she likes. She obviously does do some cleaning but requires help.

And elsewhere the fees don’t include after school