To refuse to babysit my DD’s baby if she insists on naming him Wolfie??

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My DD (26) has just had her first baby boy. Lovely healthy little thing, I’m thrilled to be a grandma at last. I was over the moon when she asked if I’d help out with childcare now and then once she’s back at work. Of course I said yes, that’s what families do.

But then today she dropped the bombshell of what she’s naming him. Are you ready for this? Wolfie. 😳

Apparently it’s something to do with a “cool influencer” she follows (don’t ask me, I barely understand Instagram). I nearly choked on my tea when she said it. I honestly thought she was joking but no, she’s deadly serious. She’s filling in the birth certificate this week.

Now I don’t want to be cruel but it just sounds absolutely ridiculous. A baby, fine, but imagine a grown man introducing himself at a job interview as Wolfie. Or me at the WI trying to tell people I’m looking after Wolfie this afternoon. I can’t even say it without laughing.

I told her straight that if she insists on calling him that, I won’t be able to babysit. I simply couldn’t keep a straight face and I honestly think it’s cruel to saddle a child with a silly name just because it’s trendy 🙄. She accused me of being dramatic and old fashioned but honestly, has the world gone mad?

So AIBU to draw a line here, or is this as daft as I think?

And before anyone says I’m controlling, I KNOW it’s her baby and her choice. But surely grandparents are allowed to have a say when it’s something that could affect the child’s future?

What do you think?

I wouldn’t make threats but tell her exactly what you said - you can’t say it without laughing and everyone will be laughing at him. Introduce some doubt into her.

Is it worth jeopardising your relationship with your daughter and grandson over the child’s name. My friend’s daughter names all her 4 children awful names but she went with it otherwise she would never see her grandchildren. We have all got used to the names and they do not seems so bad now. She called one daughter ferrick.

YABU to try and blackmail your DD based on her name choice

YANBU to think Wolfie is indeed a ridiculous name and that child will be bullied mercilessly probably from a young age everything from being called a dog to children howling at him.

In your shoes I would apologise about your initial reaction and response but raise the concern about the very real possibility of child being bullied hard based on the name she is thinking.

Me too.

I think it is a ridicuous name, but if DD had given her child a ridiculous name it wouldn't stop me from wanting to look after it.

I feel sorry for the child.

And Poppy is a perfectly normal name as well

I'm not gonna lie, it's a terrible name. But if my DD had named my DGS Rottweiler Baboon I'd not have missed a day of my relationship with him.

Not much love for your grandson if his name can keep you away from him

Freedom for Tooting!

Short for Wolfgang or Wolfram. Both typical German names. Was on my list. And name of Princess Beatrice's step son. So it's not out there or ridiculous - just a name from a different culture. __

"Having a say" or offering an opinion is one thing. Withdrawing help you planned to provide is ridiculous and controlling. Do you expect to never see him bc you can't say his name without laughing?

My gd's have unusual names. I was shocked at first but kept it to myself. They seem perfectly average now. That said, when I mentioned name choices to the other grandparent, I thought she was going to pass out.

My DH said it was not my place to comment on parenting choices. I told him I wished he had told his parents that....

It's a silly name, IMO.
Wolf, would be better, still ridiculous, he can play with bear in school. 😅

6 pages of frothing rage bait and no sign of the op
now there's a surprise

My DSis once had a boyfriend called Wolf. We initially took the Micky, obviously, but we got used to him. Until they broke up a few months later (though not because of his name!).

You get used to a name, once you get to know the person with that name. He’s your DGS, OP, don’t miss out on a relationship with him because of his name.

Although admittedly, Wolfie is worse than Wolf as a name, so I understand the reaction.

1. Wolfie is a perfectly normal name, usually short for Wolfgang.
2. The child is your grandson and has no say in his name. Why should he be cut off by you?
3. IT’S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

To summarise, YABVVVVVU and you need to stop blackmailing your daughter into changing the name.

But refusing to have anything to do with the baby - the BABY ……. also OPs prerogative however if you read it properly that’s not actually what OP said. She said she wouldn’t be able to babysit not that she would refuse to have anything to do with the baby

My grovelling apologies. But my post still stands. She wants to blame the baby (by not babysitting, which I conflated with refusing to have anything to do with said child) for his name? By witholding her presence?

Having an opinion is fine, although voicing it may damage relationships. However, you don’t have a say in how a person names their kid, even if that person is your own child.

😂😂

And you can be known as grandma cunty.
we don’t see grandma cunty wolfie as she tried to be a controlling bitch!

What a self defeating attitude.

I worked with a Wolfie, lovely lad and no one gave his name a second thought.

Don't think this post is real but if it is you're being wildly unreasonable and very mean to your daughter.

This has reminded me of 'Citizen Smith'. I guess you could just call him Foxy and say you're confused?
Power to the people!

There’s an eclipse tonight

Tell your hubby to howl at the pretty mooooooon

sorry x

Wolfie is ridiculous but yabu to blackmail her.

I’m calling WS. For wolf shit😆