To refuse to babysit my DD’s baby if she insists on naming him Wolfie??

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My DD (26) has just had her first baby boy. Lovely healthy little thing, I’m thrilled to be a grandma at last. I was over the moon when she asked if I’d help out with childcare now and then once she’s back at work. Of course I said yes, that’s what families do.

But then today she dropped the bombshell of what she’s naming him. Are you ready for this? Wolfie. 😳

Apparently it’s something to do with a “cool influencer” she follows (don’t ask me, I barely understand Instagram). I nearly choked on my tea when she said it. I honestly thought she was joking but no, she’s deadly serious. She’s filling in the birth certificate this week.

Now I don’t want to be cruel but it just sounds absolutely ridiculous. A baby, fine, but imagine a grown man introducing himself at a job interview as Wolfie. Or me at the WI trying to tell people I’m looking after Wolfie this afternoon. I can’t even say it without laughing.

I told her straight that if she insists on calling him that, I won’t be able to babysit. I simply couldn’t keep a straight face and I honestly think it’s cruel to saddle a child with a silly name just because it’s trendy 🙄. She accused me of being dramatic and old fashioned but honestly, has the world gone mad?

So AIBU to draw a line here, or is this as daft as I think?

And before anyone says I’m controlling, I KNOW it’s her baby and her choice. But surely grandparents are allowed to have a say when it’s something that could affect the child’s future?

What do you think?

I’m with @Heroverthere22 in principle but you could have been a bit softer.

It’s unusual but not unheard of and it seems to be increasing in popularity. I think it is Princess Beatrice who has a stepson known as Wolfie.

If I was your daughter, I’d laugh back you and ensure that was the end of you having any relationship with your grandson. He’s better off without that sort of controlling judgement in his life.

Isn't one of the York Princess's stepsons called Wolfie?

Edited to add: I looked it up. Princess Beatrice, however, the child's name is actually Christopher.... he's only called Wolfie....it's not his real name: go figure.

Just don't start calling him Foxie (there are clearly those Who Know on here!)

I love that name, I have an unusual name and I love that I do!

Wolfie is short for Wolfgang, so no worse than Tom, Andy, Zack or any other shortened names….

Sorry, missed yours!

That is such a stupid name. Her choice though.

How is it not no worse than the perfectly normal names you listed?

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How is this not cutting off your nose to spite yourself?

How is this not controlling?

Why do you think it's ok to blackmail her for not doing your bidding?

Wolfie is on trend for his peer group. He wouldn't be unusual.

I would suggest you get a grip.

She’s entitled to call her kid whatever she wants but I feel your pain. I’d be mortified if my potential/ future grandchildren were saddled with daft names.

But it’s A Thing these days. Every other child is named something made-up or ‘different’. ‘S’yoooneek’, innit.

I hope that by the time my DC are bringing children into the world it’s absolutely avante guard to call a baby Peter or Susan.

My immediate thought was Citizen Smith but I didn't think anyone else on here would get the reference.

My ds and his wife had a baby girl and called her a perfectly 'normal' name

I don't like the name but it's not my choice and it never dawned on me to say anything-i just smiled,nodded and told them that they had lovely taste in names

Please don't be like my mother who thought my dcs names where to be her choice to make and I'd have no say in the matter

She got offended when I told her to fuck off-my baby,my choice of name

Caused no end of crap (even 28 years later she's still banging on about it) but tough luck

She'd had her day when she chose mine and my siblings names-this was my turn

Honestly, don’t do this! My mum tried to bully me into changing DD’s name (Tabitha), she got the family to ring me to get me to change my mind, told me my dad named me so she wanted her to be called Isabelle or Meredith … a ‘strong’ name! She wouldn’t let up, even said she was going to call her Beth and get her to change her name by Deed poll when she was old enough it really damaged our relationship, and my mum is now dead so won’t ever be rectified, and my mum wasn’t threatening me With withdrawal of care

Errr, no, you had that chance and raised a daughter who decided to call her baby Wolfie. That's on you and you have to live with it.

😅

lady Up the road called hers Bam

Goady nonsense.

It's her choice, not yours, don't fall out with your daughter over a name!

Great minds, and clearly there are a lot , surprisingly so, of posters of a certain age on this thread!

YABU

It is an usual name but lookit, at the end of the day, your daughter is more important than any neighbours or friends who might think it strange. It's certainly not the worst name out there and there are lots of unusual names out there nowadays.

If your daughter likes it and you and your family are confident with it, extended family etc. will follow suit. And congratulations on having a healthy grandson and a happy daughter by the way! It could be a lot worse ♥️

Its a cute name.

No, you don’t get a say and if you were my
mum you wouldn’t get to see him either!!!

Wolfie is a great name and if it’s good enough for the royal family then there you go!

This. Where I'm from Wolfgang is a normal name.