To think our wedding might be massive failure?!

[Nervousb2b]

Hey guys, name change for this...

Will our wedding in a few weeks be a total disaster? The plan for the day:

1. A morning, Christian ceremony in a rural village church with around 40 adults and 10 children. Our two children will also be in attendance (our DD is only 18 months, very clingy and will likely need to walk down the aisle with me...)

2. A 40 minute drive to a rural pub located in the middle of a national park

3. A sit down, relatively casual 2 course meal there (I think a few people want to say a few words but we haven't planned for it as such)

4. A 20 minute drive to the final venue where guests who are staying will be with us. It has wild swimming in a natural lake, fire pits, hot tubs, and we've got a pizza van coming for evening food and alcohol will be there for when we arrive.

5. No music is allowed at the final venue (eeeeek). We aren't party animals and I want an early night due to small children, so I'm hoping this might work in our favour? Or is it really boring?!

6. For the following morning I have arranged for a caterer to come and provide breakfast, leaving for 10:00.

Does this sound okay to you? We are really panicking that it'll be a bit crap due to multiple venues, driving, children and no real plan!!!

EDIT:

You are being unreasonable - it will be fine
You are not being unreasonable - crikey, what a terrible plan that is

It sounds fantastic. I hope you have a wonderful day

Technically it’s three…

1. Church
2. Rural pub
3. Final venue

Does seem a bit weird having three venues. Why not stay in the pub? Why have a religious ceremony when you already have young kids?

@35pEnergyDrink remember there will be no music/alcohol at this wedding there will be no shortage of people standing around able to supervise the kids swimming.

Honestly, a 40 minute drive then a 20 minute drive and no music…I would do it if I loved you but it sounds a lot of work. Who’s going to wild swim in the evening close to October? And no music? Hmmm.

I think it sounds amazing!
The driving wouldn’t bother me at all.

I wouldn’t be too keen on driving to three different places and 40 mins for one of them. Doesn’t sound very well planned tbh. Very disjointed and a I’d imagine a bit flat with no music either.

The driving wouldn't bother me, but I do think the lack of music may be a shame.

I think it sounds amazing. I would even like the drive bit as would give me a break from being sociable and husband would have a snooze. Teenagers would check phones !!

I think it sounds lovely, put me on the reserves list.

People seem very stuck on weddings following a strict schedule of events , I think it is great to hear about one that differs from the chicken-or-beef, formal speeches and cheesy DJ formula! I get it will be a fab memory for all the guests (and you guys!)

Sounds lovely!

Sounds lovely! My sort of day tbh

Yes it’s a good point tbf; I was trying not to focus on this.

It’ll probably feel a bit like an average Saturday morning for parents 😂

This sounds so lovely. I would love to be a guest at this 💒. Forty mins is fine for the drive. I also think the change of scenery is exciting, it would make the day feel really long which is good as weddings go too quickly. Enjoy yourselves lots ❤️

A 40min drive and a 20min drive wouldn't bother me at all. It will be fine. People in their cars will be chattering away talking about how good it was to see Aunt Ethel and how sweet the bridesmaids looked - the drive will pass in no time. The whole plan sounds lovely. Relax and have a wonderful day. Congratulations to you and soon-to-be husband ❤️

Accidently voted for the yabu. I think it sounds like a lot of effort for your guests who would probably prefer to relax, especially if they've travelled a long way for your wedding.

Could you provide transport between venues and drop everyone back the next day?

Our friends did something similar in Cornwall. It was lovely, although there was a bus to move people.

They love you, it will be fine.

Not my cup of tea really but I hate driving and love music 😂 I hope you have a wonderful day with your loved ones.

Seriously though, no music? At all??

It's either disastrous or genius depending upon the ages and stages of the children. When my kids were 18 months it would have been disastrous to have had them in and out of cars and napping for such short periods while driving. Not enough time for a proper sleep, but too much time driving to stay awake.

I also think for that sort of timings you'd be best to book transport or people will get lost or stressed or potentially even end up dribk driving.

Are they the same people who are likely to be the sober ones that are going to have to drive between venues? Cos if they are, you owe them big time. Come to my wedding, please provide transport and childcare.

You keep saying how much people love you and they will just be delighted to come, I’m sure that’s true but it might be a good idea to just ensure that some of your guests don’t end up feeling put upon.

Sounds lovely, enjoy

Sounds,lovely and relaxed. Take a Bluetooth speaker and a phone to play music. Someone fir sure will offer a playlist. Or download one.
Don't worry about child she can be clinged on as you take vows. No rules against.
You sound chilled and quirky and presumably your family and friends are too !

Sounds perfect to me! You know your guests OP and if they’re anything like me they’ll love it.

We had a very relaxed small lunch after our wedding ceremony. If you don't want formal speeches, tell people. Fil stood up and started a speech, which irritated the hell out of me, as we were going to get around to something at some point but he took over.

It sounds lovely.

I think this is my Irishness showing, but having a pub before a drive and swimming without providing transport at a wedding seems like it could be a recipe for disaster to me. I take it your guests aren’t big drinkers?

That sounds brilliant. I usually hate the idea of going to weddings but this one actually sounds quite nice.