To think our wedding might be massive failure?!

[Nervousb2b]

Hey guys, name change for this...

Will our wedding in a few weeks be a total disaster? The plan for the day:

1. A morning, Christian ceremony in a rural village church with around 40 adults and 10 children. Our two children will also be in attendance (our DD is only 18 months, very clingy and will likely need to walk down the aisle with me...)

2. A 40 minute drive to a rural pub located in the middle of a national park

3. A sit down, relatively casual 2 course meal there (I think a few people want to say a few words but we haven't planned for it as such)

4. A 20 minute drive to the final venue where guests who are staying will be with us. It has wild swimming in a natural lake, fire pits, hot tubs, and we've got a pizza van coming for evening food and alcohol will be there for when we arrive.

5. No music is allowed at the final venue (eeeeek). We aren't party animals and I want an early night due to small children, so I'm hoping this might work in our favour? Or is it really boring?!

6. For the following morning I have arranged for a caterer to come and provide breakfast, leaving for 10:00.

Does this sound okay to you? We are really panicking that it'll be a bit crap due to multiple venues, driving, children and no real plan!!!

EDIT:

You are being unreasonable - it will be fine
You are not being unreasonable - crikey, what a terrible plan that is

It will be fine, and if not who cares it will be great fun even if it all doesn't work out exactly as expected!

This. ^ May be an idea.

What time does the swimming start?

So I assume everyone attending knows about the 3 separate venues, the distance between them and the no disco/ music policy at the final place?

If so, don't worry. They are all signed up for it and I am sure they will think it's authentic to the both of you.

TBH - the 3 venues sound like a ball ache to me, particularly having to drive again after a nice meal.

The thing I’d be most worried about would be children, parents/alcohol and wild swimming. As a parent I couldn’t relax as would need to have sight of my child at all times

We went to a wedding a few years ago where the dance floor/DJ was on the first floor of a large country house. It was a glorious summers day:evening and virtually everyone sat outside. The dance floor was basically dead the entire time.
My point being, it's entirely possible to have a lovely wedding without music, and actually people won't kind if there's good conversation etc.

I don't think the driving stuff sounds too bad either - everyone who wants to drink an relax and do so at the final venue!

I think they will have to love the bollocks off you to do all that travelling, no drinking at the reception/after-wedding meal, and no music. And it's still a big long tiring day even if people are staying over.

I'm sure it will all be fine though, and as it's people close to you, and who love you, I am sure everyone will turn up, and enjoy it.

Have a good day. Good luck.

Posted too quickly, AND triple post - sorry!

Posted too quickly, AND triple post - sorry!

re transport, you could hire a couple of minibuses?

Shouldn't be too cost prohibitive as your venues are all fairly close.

I thought there was alcohol at the swimming place.

If you look at my OP...

IABU = No, it'll be fine!

So thankfully, two thirds think it will be alright. But thanks for taking your time to edit your comment to hammer home to me how awful my day is going to be.

But thank you anyway, I did ask for it after all!

As a non-driver I wouldn’t/couldn't go unless there was public transport between venues (doesn’t sound like it) or you were providing transport. I’m guessing in rural Devon there isn’t any public transport. Doesn’t matter how much I liked the couple, if I physically couldn’t get there there’s nothing to be done. I wouldn’t fork out for taxis. The no music and non drinking doesn’t bother me but the moving about sounds like a lot of faff.

Sounds beautiful! What a lovely wedding! I wouldn’t mind the driving and actually the more outdoorsy and less alcohol is very refreshing. I’m guessing the guests won’t be pressured to be dressed up for the last part. Wild swimming and the venue do sound wonderful. I really want to know where it is but I know you can’t tell us!

how many in total are attending the meal and last part (sorry if I’ve missed that).

Lol. Don't worry, I've done the same thing!! Haha.

Final post from me - I'll let you all know how it goes!!

There is alcohol at the wedding throughout, but no-one will be able to drink because of all the driving from place to place IYSWIM. At the final venue yes, but not during the wedding/the wedding meal.

All the best. 😘 I genuinely hope it goes well. (I have a feeling it will!)

Sounds amazing, and perfect for a small group of people who you are close to. It might not work if you were having to invite Auntie Susan you haven't seen in 23 years and every cousin under the sun, but the point is everyone who is coming is someone who definitely wants to be there, so they won't be picking holes.

DH at one point suggested we have a wedding that involved everyone hiking out to a field for the ceremony, but I pointed out we had 200 guests, some of whom were elderly or had mobility issues, and that an idea only for a small and close group, not wider family and friends.

I would love it. Can I come? But then I'm not much of a drinker and dancing leaves me cold, so this sounds perfect. And as others have said people are coming because they love you, and they will be happy because they love you . Whatever happens!

Sounds lovely! Have a fabulous time.

This sounds really lovely. I think the idea of adding in a silent disco is great as some people might want to dance.

The driving wouldn’t put me off at all. Having been to a wedding recently that started at midday and finished at midnight I would’ve really appreciated being able to sit in the car for 40mins away from everyone to have some downtime. Plus not everyone will have to hold off drinking at lunch as surely not everyone will be driving?

I really agree with this. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with any individual element but it’s really bitty & complicated. And no music?

does there have to be two venues?

I’m sorry but this sounds like a terrible plan. Your guests won’t be able to relax because they will be thinking about the next venue.
guaranteed some people will drop off and do their own thing along the way. People will be late and the timings will fall apart.
also the lack of music doesn’t sound great, how are you going to entertain them?
I don’t think you thought the logistics through very well. Why seperste all the venues? I’m sorry I am being very honest here. Clearly you know this by putting this question on here in the first place.

A 40 minute drive to a pub, where you can’t drink because you have to drive to the next venue, where there is no music. It does all seem a bit dry.

Great! I’m sure the kids will love it