To think our wedding might be massive failure?!

[Nervousb2b]

Hey guys, name change for this...

Will our wedding in a few weeks be a total disaster? The plan for the day:

1. A morning, Christian ceremony in a rural village church with around 40 adults and 10 children. Our two children will also be in attendance (our DD is only 18 months, very clingy and will likely need to walk down the aisle with me...)

2. A 40 minute drive to a rural pub located in the middle of a national park

3. A sit down, relatively casual 2 course meal there (I think a few people want to say a few words but we haven't planned for it as such)

4. A 20 minute drive to the final venue where guests who are staying will be with us. It has wild swimming in a natural lake, fire pits, hot tubs, and we've got a pizza van coming for evening food and alcohol will be there for when we arrive.

5. No music is allowed at the final venue (eeeeek). We aren't party animals and I want an early night due to small children, so I'm hoping this might work in our favour? Or is it really boring?!

6. For the following morning I have arranged for a caterer to come and provide breakfast, leaving for 10:00.

Does this sound okay to you? We are really panicking that it'll be a bit crap due to multiple venues, driving, children and no real plan!!!

EDIT:

You are being unreasonable - it will be fine
You are not being unreasonable - crikey, what a terrible plan that is

I really don't like other people's music. I think a no music wedding sounds great.

We didn't do music but the lunch ended and everyone went home for 5pm.

If it's not too late, I'd arrange a coach for ferrying all of the guests. We did this for our wedding, people massively appreciated it and it made the day much more fun and relaxing for them.

The no music would concern me from the point of view it doesn't sound a very relaxed place. why is there a no music rule - is it about disturbing neighbours in which cases will lots of wild swimming not do that.

I would want the clingy toddler in the arms of someone she is familiar with and taken out of the church if she cries. It’s your moment walking down the side.

I'd make sure there will be plenty of blankets for anyone sitting outside as it'll be a bit chilly come October, even with a fire.

It sounds lovely, our friends got married in a glamping woodland and the evening was beautiful around small campfires, acoustic guitars, self-serve beer from kegs (the groom works for a brewery) and they provided a burrito van for the evening snacking.

Won’t it be too dark to go wild swimming by the time you get to your final venue and get changed etc it’s in October not the middle of summer?

Sounds fab. May I come?! Seriously it will be great, and even if those going don’t enjoy the food entertainment (which sounds lovely) they will love seeing you and your fiancé tie the knot!

Sounds lovely! I would consider giving a small gift to thank those who are watching the children throughout. Have an awesome wedding day!

I wasn't going to comment again but I just wanted to provide reassurance as I totally see where you're coming from...

No, our guests aren't big drinkers at all. There's one or two that we think have the potential to get a bit carried away, but their spouses are not drinkers whatsoever (it must've been a case of chalk and cheese for them?!).

My husband to be is also a type 1 diabetic so doesn't drink, and due to this I don't drink either. I may have a glass of champagne but that'll be that! Saddos I know ;-)

We get our kicks from cold water and meditation! (Hence the plan)

Honestly I'm with those saying it sounds like a lot of travel and very disjointed. Nevertheless it's your wedding so it's up to you.

I do however think your voting is skewed as most voting YABU will think they are saying it's not a good idea.

Are you providing any transport?

If not, too much driving and I’d be disappointed not to have a drink with dinner and having to drive yet again. I also love a dance at weddings so would be disappointed at no music.

You do you and I’m sure you’ll have a lovely day. But you did ask and I gave an honest answer.

Congratulations, I am sure that you and your guests will have a wonderful and memorable day. When I think about any of the many weddings (including my own) that I have attended I honestly cannot remember any of the music, I can recall the brides' dresses, the weather if it was exceptional, at one of them there was a spectacularly dramatic thunder storm which was amazing as we all came out of the church to forked lightning. There was dancing at some of the evening dos, but what was played I cannot recall. There was a fight at one of them, between the bride and her new MIL, the whole thing blew up due the stress of months of planning and was a sight to behold. I am sure nothing like that will happen at the OP's wedding, it all sounds laid back and full of people who will be happy to be there

This sounds amazing! Please can I come?
Everyone will remember this wedding (for all the right reasons) - plenty of time to chat to your mates, beautiful places to hang out in, swimming! I understand it may not suit everyone, but surely the guests are there for you and will enter into spirit of things because it is what you chose. I have been to oodles of formal weddings, and of course I did all the things as a guest I was meant to, and enjoyed them, but really they weren't my scene in the way this would be.
Sod the driving - it won't be the bit they remember!

I don’t drink and sounds lovely to me.

I think it sounds wonderful, be proud for being brave enough not to follow the herd, wish I was coming.
Stop worrying and enjoy every moment 🌻

I don’t drink either and it sounds dry to me…

I think it sounds really lovely OP

I think that all sounds fine. I would much enjoy that sort of relaxed wedding to standing around a country house all day while everyone gets sloshed.

I do think it would be courtesy to provide transport, but realistically, I like having my own car, so I’d prefer to drive myself. I don’t drink, so that wouldn’t be a factor. Hopefully people can organise themselves to lift share as necessary.

I like the wild swimming option. I’d be right in there! And it’s nice you’re providing breakfast.

Sounds amazing - I would love an invite!

As a guest this is my dream. The type of wedding invite I’d say yes to in a heartbeat!

Sounds great as long as food and drink are plentiful at each place:

I would make sure there are lots of ‘extras’ at the final event.
Extra sweets, snacks,, chocolate bars, little torches for the accomodation etc.

lots of tea, coffee, juice, pastries, very early, if it’s glamping or similar, especially with children.

I’d have to really like you to be arsed with that.

But then again, I wasn’t arsed about my own wedding, I went home after the registry office 🤣

It sounds amazing to me!

I think it sounds lovely OP 😊 And I am a bit biased as I live rurally (also in a National Park), but 40 mins driving is not that far!! Enjoy your day x