Aibu to message my friend?

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My best friend went into labour 5 days ago messaged me to say it was all happening, very exciting, she was about to go into hospital etc etc... we have been through thick and thin together and besties since we were little.
It's now 5 days on and I still haven't heard anything more. I have messaged her, but she hasn't read my message (it has been received). I'm really worried about her/baby.
Aibu to consider messaging her family members to check everything is ok? The more time passes, the more worried I am. It's just so unlike her to not message... 😢

Sorry title is wrong! Should say 'message my friend's family'!

my question is why have you waited 5 days!!!
My friend hadn’t contacted me so I text and asked if all was ok.. I would assume something awful has happened. When I had my daughter I sent a photo to family and closest families within days

Sorry meant to say within hours

The birth could have been bad, or the child could be sick.
My child was born with a post natal diagnosis of Down syndrome. My child was so sick at birth I only spoke to parents and no friends. Everyone was frantic worrying as I too told them when I went into labour. Thankfully my child is ok now and thriving but it was so stressful at the time and not knowing if my child was going to make it or not meant I couldn’t share the news with anyone.
I really hope your friend and her baby are ok.

5 days no contact from a best friend, yes I can see why you are worried. Message her brother.

Definitely check in with a family member. It’s not interfering it’s just being a good friend.

Childbirth can be a nightmare and if they really need you they may not be in a position to let you know.

its just a text, send it x

This or her partner.

I had a similar situation a few years back with a good friend. It turned out her baby had been born severely ill and had been blue-lighted to a hospital in a different town which had a NICU. I remember those days of knowing something must be wrong but not wanting to intrude. I wouldn’t do anything for now, she’ll contact you when the time is right for her.

This happened with my friend too. I was really worried. I messaged her husband on Facebook and also didn't get a reply from him for a day or two. Finally I was sent a message with a picture of baby. There had been complications and they just didn't think to keep anyone updated. I made hubby txt my sisters and bestie to keep them updated during my labour lol

I’ve had friends do similar when I was post op/post baby and I never minded. They messaged my husband or mom who was able to give them an update. I’ve also been the friend and twice everything was ok they were just exhausted following delivery and keeping up with family etc and barely had a second to reach out so did a big Facebook update and then replied once they were more settled (which I absolutely understood) and once they had a poorly baby and so they got back to me when they could. Nobody has ever been upset by me messaging. I’ve contacted my two closest friends husbands both times they’ve given birth to check all was ok as knew my friends were exhausted and then they got back to me when they could. So I’d start with the Dad of baby and then go to the Mum of the Mum. Fingers crossed they are just in the newborn baby bubble xx

Privacy’s fine but you can’t message someone when you are going into labour and provide zero update. Thats so worrying.

You can if god forbid something has gone terribly even tragically wrong.
I highly doubt the ops friend is keeping her hanging on purpose but she can't be expected to be in the right headspace to think about having the courtesy to not be worrying anyone if she's potentially going through the worst time of her life.

Is it possible she left her phone at home/lost phone?

Ignoring all the silly messages asking why OP doesn’t have her friend’s DH number; she clearly doesn’t so how’s asking about that now going to help this situation?

The fact the friend messaged to say she was in labour meant that she was anticipating being in contact with OP and would update her? You would just not say anything and let people know when baby was born otherwise. I can’t imagine she’s just in the baby bubble and ignoring her phone as surely she’d get DH or another family member to update those closest to her so they wouldn’t worry.

With that in mind, I’d avoid putting her brother in an awkward position; I’d do what pps had suggested with a msg not requiring a response like ‘Just letting you know I’m here and still thinking of you but will wait to hear from you when you’re ready. Sending lots of love and hugs xx’

Completely agree and that was exactly what my post said - either the friend is shitty or something awful’s happened 😞

Some of the responses here are rather strange. My sister suffered an unexpected loss recently and I was contacted by two of her close friends to let me know they were concerned as she hadn’t responded to their messages. I had no issue with responding to them and felt glad that she has people around her who care.

Just leave them alone. Wait.

Yes, I would contact her family. Hope everything turns out okay.

Oh sorry I misread it.

5 days, gosh no I would have definitely contacted whoever I had contact information for. If none of them have your number they can't call you. If her brother is only on social media is he usually active on it ? He might not think to contact you through that. There's no harm in checking, she's your best friend, it's what they do, check on each other especially when just after having a little baby.

God what is your problem?!

So you told your sister's friends that she'd los the baby?! I presume you checked with her first before sharing the news...?

Exactly. I know it's worrying but put your own feelings aside and just think of your friend. It's obvious something is up and there's a reason she's not been in touch. If something bad has happened, it wouldn't be a family member's place to tell you (unless your friend asked them to).

Where did I say anything about a baby?! It was someone else she lost! Her friends found out and were concerned about her wellbeing in the aftermath when she stopped responding to their messages abruptly. The point I was making is that I did not find it remotely intrusive that they messaged me with concerns for her welfare. And yes she was fine with me talking to them as I knew she would be because I know my sister better than a randomer on MN does.

Has she or any family or mutal mates updated the socials?

Your friend is probably wondering why you haven't been in touch!!
Call her.....
Don't wait any longer xx

I disagree with the consensus. I think you are entitled to be concerned about your best friend and should contact her brother.